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When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it's tempting to search for answers—especially ones that explain your spouse’s behavior. Maybe you’ve wondered, "Could they be a narcissist?" or "Do they have bipolar disorder?"

In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Marriage Helper coach and counselor Meredith Ball to unpack the dangers of diagnosing your spouse. You’ll learn why it’s natural to want clarity, but how labeling your spouse can backfire—leading to more disconnection instead of healing.

We’ll discuss:

• Why people self-diagnose their spouse
• The risks of assigning mental health labels without professional help
• How to focus on what’s actually within your control
• The surprising way real healing starts

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He did everything “right”—worked hard, stayed loyal, provided for his family.
But when his wife left him for his own brother… he didn’t fight.
He tried to understand. He felt bad for them.
And somehow, he believed that was love.

In this real-life conversation from Marriage Helper, we unpack the painful truth behind passive behavior in marriage—and how it often pushes a spouse away more than anything else.
This isn't just a story of betrayal. It’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s given up their identity in the name of sacrifice… and lost their marriage in the process.

You'll discover:

Why empathy without boundaries can become self-sabotage

How passivity kills attraction

The real difference between panic and passion

And why ownership is the turning point between wishing and winning

Whether you're in a marriage crisis or stuck in survival mode, this episode is your invitation to stop letting life happen to you—and start choosing who you want to become.

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What do you say when a friend confesses they’re struggling with pornography? Whether they admitted it directly or you discovered it by accident, knowing how to respond can feel overwhelming. In this honest and compassionate episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes guide you through how to handle these conversations with empathy, truth, and clarity.

They discuss the spiritual, relational, and physiological effects of pornography and how to walk with someone you care about toward hope and healing. Whether you're supporting a friend or facing this struggle yourself, there is a way forward.

📌 Topics covered:

How to respond when a friend opens up about porn

Why porn affects both men and women

The impact on marriage and intimacy

The connection between faith, guilt, and behavior

Practical next steps and resources for accountability

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You've probably heard people talk about "manifesting" their ideal relationship or saving their marriage just by thinking positive thoughts. But when your marriage is in crisis, hope alone isn’t a strategy. In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes—CEO of Marriage Helper and trained performance psychologist—breaks down why traditional manifestation falls short and what actually works when your relationship feels like it’s falling apart.

You'll discover 3 research-backed mental techniques that high-performing individuals use to overcome adversity—adapted specifically to help you save your marriage:
✔ Visualization (the right way)
✔ Resilience-building breathing exercises
✔ The power of intentional practice

If your marriage is on the brink, but you're too scared to take the next step, this video will give you the tools to begin. It's not about perfection—it's about progress.

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What happens when a well-meaning husband provides, protects, and leads—yet still finds himself blindsided by his wife's decision to walk away? In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Nathan McIntyre unpack a real-life story of a man who thought he was doing everything “right” in his marriage… until it all fell apart.

You'll hear:
✔ Why many spouses feel emotionally abandoned even when their physical needs are met
✔ How "doing the right thing" can still create emotional distance
✔ What pushes and pulls are—and how they impact your relationship
✔ The silent warning signs your spouse may be reaching their limit

If you’ve ever wondered “Why did my spouse leave when I was giving so much?” - this episode is for you. Nathan shares practical insights from hundreds of conversations with men and women in marriage crisis, and offers real hope for those ready to change, reconnect, and rebuild.

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🔎 What Does Research Say About Marital Satisfaction Among Christians? | Marriage Helper + Barna Study

In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes dive deep into the fascinating findings from a 2021 survey conducted by Barna Research Group in partnership with Marriage Helper.

➡️ What percentage of Christian couples are truly satisfied in their marriages?
➡️ How does practicing faith impact marital happiness?
➡️ Why do men often report higher satisfaction — and what could they be missing?
➡️ Why does "somewhat satisfied" actually ring alarm bells for marriage health?

You'll hear behind-the-scenes insights into how the survey was designed, why self-reporting can be tricky (especially around sensitive topics like infidelity and satisfaction), and the real implications for couples — and churches — today.

Key Topics Covered: ✔️ Marital satisfaction breakdown across generations: Millennials, Gen X, and Boomers
✔️ Why “somewhat satisfied” may signal hidden danger
✔️ The critical difference between practicing and non-practicing Christians
✔️ How long couples typically wait before seeking help (hint: it’s way too long!)
✔️ Why churches struggle to support marriages—and how Marriage Helper is stepping in to help
✔️ Resources available RIGHT NOW for individuals and churches

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The silent treatment isn't always intentional. When your spouse emotionally checks out, it creates a painful void that can feel impossible to bridge. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes tackle this common marriage struggle with uncommon honesty, revealing the hidden causes behind emotional disconnection.

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Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success.

• The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling
• Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication
• Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors
• Contempt is the most dangerous pattern, involving feelings of superiority toward your partner
• Stonewalling occurs when one partner mentally or physically shuts down during conflict
• The antidote to stonewalling is taking a purposeful break with the intention to resume later
• Taking time to cool down and process emotions leads to more productive conflict resolution
• Sometimes sleeping on an issue provides needed perspective, contrary to "don't go to bed angry" advice
• Breaking these harmful communication patterns requires recognizing and interrupting them early

Get our ultimate guide to better communication by visiting marriagehelper.com/smart to access our toolkit on how to communicate effectively, even when your spouse isn't talking to you.

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