Episodes

  • What Women Ask Us (In Person)

    What Women Ask Us (In Person)
    Oct 30 2024
    What do women want to know about sex when we're face to faced with them? While we have regular listener question episodes, we wanted to address FAQs we get when speaking to a group or working with individuals or small groups. So get ready for six common questions and our answers. Sponsor Better Help can match you with a licensed, trained, experienced, and accredited therapist who shares your faith foundation. Access care through messaging, live chats, phone, and/or video conferencing. Check them out HERE. Our episode is also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a marriage-focused Christian sex toy store. From the Bible Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.1 Corinthians 6:9–11 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.Psalm 103:11–12 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 (not Acts 2:38 or John 3:16...though those are great too!) But that is not the way you learned Christ!— assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:20–24 You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. Lord my God, I will praise you forever.Psalm 30:11–12 Resources Episode 194: Creative Timing (Quickie) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & HumorousWhy She's Too Busy to Have Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (for husbands)Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives - Sex Chat for Christian WivesEpisode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It? - Sex Chat for Christian WivesEpisode 18: How Will I Ever Trust My Partner, Again? - Hope For WivesRebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 185: Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka - Sex Chat for Christian WivesThe Intimacy PyramidApproach Your Sex Life Like It’s a Jigsaw Puzzle - Honeycomb & SpiceEpisode 141: How to Do Oral Sex - Sex Chat for Christian WivesIs It Okay to Say No? - Hot, Holy & HumorousThe Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & HumorousWhy Don't Men Fess Up About Having the Lower Drive? - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Speaking, Coaching & Communities Learn more about J Speaking to Your GroupJ's Higher Desire Wife CommunityContact Bonny about SpeakingLearn more about Coaching with BonnyChris's Intimacy Mentoring Preorder THE HIGHER DESIRE WIFE (J. Parker's upcoming release) at 40% off or purchase from Amazon. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker
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    37 mins
  • Sex Drive Conversation (Quickie)

    Sex Drive Conversation (Quickie)
    Oct 22 2024

    This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about how to have a conversation about mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!
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    2 mins
  • Mismatched Drives #1 (Quickie)

    Mismatched Drives #1 (Quickie)
    Oct 16 2024

    This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about things to consider when you and your spouse have mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!
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    2 mins
  • Sex Post-Vasectomy, Competing with His Phone, Plus-Size Lovemaking & Lube Tips (Listener Questions)

    Sex Post-Vasectomy, Competing with His Phone, Plus-Size Lovemaking & Lube Tips (Listener Questions)
    Oct 10 2024

    Chris and J answer listener questions about sex after a vasectomy, competing with his phone for attention, plus-sized lovemaking, and how to use lube without losing the mood.

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    From the Bible

    Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance. Proverbs 1:5 (ESV)

    Resources

    • What's So Great about "Shooting Blanks"? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
    • Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous
    • The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives (Available for preorder now!)
    • Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - Honeycomb & Spice
    • Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - Honeycomb & Spice
    • Episode 111: Accepting Your Body
    • Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid – Married Dance
    • Full Chart of Over 300 Different Sex Positions (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
    • Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous
    • Ask Us a Question
    • KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry

    Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.

    Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

    Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
    Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
    Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker
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    23 mins
  • Have Sex (Quickie)

    Have Sex (Quickie)
    Oct 2 2024

    This week's quickie is from J Parker about the importance of prioritizing sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!
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    2 mins
  • Talking to Kids About Sex, with Karissa Curtis

    Talking to Kids About Sex, with Karissa Curtis
    Sep 24 2024
    We welcome Christian sex therapist Karissa Curtis to discuss talking to kids—our own and others in our church—about sex. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world. John 17:14–18 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5–9 Resources Karissa Curtis's website, Freedom CounselingTalking to Your Kids about Sex: No More One & Done - Hot, Holy & HumorousHealing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. AllenderAuthentic Intimacy - Juli Slattery's siteTeach Your Kids the Correct Words for Body Parts - Hot, Holy & HumorousHow to Talk to a Teen about Sex - Hot, Holy & HumorousTop 10 Things To Teach Teens About Sex - Hot, Holy & HumorousEpisode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol TanksleyCreating an Intimacy Timeline - Hot, Holy & HumorousBefore The Sex Talk: A Theology of the Body Approach for Parents and Mentors by Linda Noble and Linda Stewart5 Times You Teach Holy and Healthy Sex to Your Kids - Hot, Holy & HumorousParent Resources Recommended by Karissa Curtis (downloadable PDF) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker
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    44 mins
  • Autumn Fun (Quickie)

    Autumn Fun (Quickie)
    Sep 18 2024

    This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about adding fun to your marriage using items commonly found in autumn. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!
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    1 min
  • Explaining Women's Sexual Response

    Explaining Women's Sexual Response
    Sep 10 2024

    We discuss how a wife's sexual response differs from her husband's, and how she can explain her female sexuality to him.

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    From the Bible

    You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
    and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
    Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
    Psalm 139:13–14 (NLT)

    Resources

    • Understanding Your Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
    • Understanding Her Sex Drive - Webinar Replay - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
    • 2019 Webinar Series - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (includes two above + foreplay)
    • 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (all of our current webinars)
    • Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex
    • Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous
    • “The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model,” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, Rosemary Basson
    • Rosemary Basson's circular response cycle diagram
    • Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)
    • Webinars - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)
    • High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous

    Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.

    Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

    Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
    Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
    Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker
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    28 mins