Episodes

  • Hotline Calls: Strip Clubs & Sex Boundaries

    Hotline Calls: Strip Clubs & Sex Boundaries
    Mar 14 2025
    It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance? In this episode, you’ll learn: How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath) The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner Show Notes: Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Barnes & Noble Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble “The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory “Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory Polyamory in BLACK! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    27 mins
  • How to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett

    How to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett
    Mar 11 2025
    Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection Show Notes: More John Kim: Instagram | Website | Book More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Book How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025- Sign up for my FREE masterclass today! For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    55 mins
  • Initiating Sex After a Dry Spell

    Initiating Sex After a Dry Spell
    Mar 7 2025
    Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. In this episode, you’ll learn: The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves). How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure. The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed. Show Notes: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025- Sign up for my FREE masterclass today! Try Just Thrive Probiotic Today! Go to justhrivehealth.com and use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 20% off your order! Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/EMILY to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today! Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    32 mins
  • Hotline Calls: Hook-Ups & Opening Up

    Hotline Calls: Hook-Ups & Opening Up
    Mar 4 2025
    When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop. How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons. The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms). Show Notes: To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD. Description automatically generatedSex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    28 mins
  • We’re Giving Up Performative Sex

    We’re Giving Up Performative Sex
    Feb 28 2025
    We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop. How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons. The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms). Show Notes: For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code SWE. Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    36 mins
  • The Kinkiest Sex Positions Are…

    The Kinkiest Sex Positions Are…
    Feb 25 2025
    How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to turn classic sex positions into kinky, pleasure-boosting experiences. Why even small tweaks—like tempo and control—can make you kinkier than you think. The secret to better orgasms in any position (hint: clitoral stimulation is key). Show Notes: Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    32 mins
  • Playing Without a Partner w/ Dr. Megan Stubbs

    Playing Without a Partner w/ Dr. Megan Stubbs
    Feb 21 2025
    I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner. We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.” In this episode, you’ll learn: Why being single isn’t a “waiting room”—it’s a destination for confidence, self-love, and incredible orgasms. How to turn your solo pleasure game all the way up with masturbation, edging, and next-level orgasm hacks. The secrets to emotional intimacy in the bedroom (even if your partner struggles with it). Show Notes: More Dr. Megan Stubbs: Website | Instagram | Twitter (X) Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    40 mins
  • Calming The Chaos w/ Tal Rabinowitz

    Calming The Chaos w/ Tal Rabinowitz
    Feb 18 2025
    There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation. She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop labeling everything as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and simply let things be what they are. It’s 2025—and time to meditate, masturbate, and manifest for a better year. In this episode, you’ll learn: How meditation can transform your relationship—See your partner clearly and stop the blame game. Why chaos is personal—and powerful—Own it, don’t let it own you. The magic of breath—Calm your mind, spark your pleasure. Show Notes: More Tal Rabinowitz & The DEN Meditation: Website | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Tal's Instagram Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/SWE and use code SWE for up to 27 FREE meals! Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com
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    48 mins