Welcome to The Validation Lounge inaugural podcast with Sarah Fox.Having a positive view of ourselves and confidence in our strengths and abilities are big factors in how happy and successful we are in life.However self worth is often one of the areas that we struggle with and If we lack this it can have a negative impact on all aspects of our lives and it can determine how well we cope in the face of adversity.Each spisode of the validation lounge looks at what contributes to low self esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapists, mediators and coaches, amongst others.In this episode we discuss what contributes to our self esteem and self worth. Sarah Fox is a coach and mentor with over 20 years of working in the arts and beyond.If you are interested in working with Sarah, she offers both group and individual coaching and you can find her at http://sarahfox.co.uk.This is the link for the Martin Seligman questionnaire that Sarah refers to: Institute on Character http://viacharacter.org.Brene Brown (https://brenebrown.com) is a researcher with an interest in shame and vulnerablity. A good starting point to learn more about her work are her Ted Talks The Power of Vulnerability (https://brenebrown.com/videos/ted-talk-the-power-of-vulnerability) and Listening to Shame (https://brenebrown.com/videos/ted-talk-listening-to-shame).I make reference to the theories of Donald Winnicott – for more information on him watch this video by The School of Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZaZkvvB367IDo get in touch if you have any queries regarding this episode – contact@sashajenkin.comThank you for listening to The Validation Lounge. Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes.

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The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
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Welcome to the second episode of The Validation Lounge with Melissa Cliffe.Each episode of The Validation Lounge looks at what contributes to self - esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapist, mediators and coaches, amongst others.In this episode I continue to explore validation and self worth with Melissa Cliffe.Melissa is a Gestalt Psychotherapist who works with individuals, couples and groups in East London. She specialises in working with midlife issues and has a particular interest in how changes in appearance affect our sense of self. She teaches on the Humanistic Psychotherapy MSc at Metanoia Institute. She has been featured in Psychologies Magazine, the New Psychotherapist, Marie Claire, the Metro and Bustle. You can find her at:Website: http://www.ameaningfulmidlife.comTwitter: @hello_midlifeFacebook: www.facebook.com/ameaningfulmidlifeInstagram: ameaningfulmidlife This Youtube video gives a brief explanation of Gestalt Therapy:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBl14hIqDwcFor more information on Karl Jung please have a look at this: https://www.britannica.com/biography/Carl-JungFor more information on Mindfulness here is a short video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDSIfNLlFdsHere is an explanation of Integrative Therapy:https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/therapy-types/integrative-therapyHere is a dictionary definition of introversion:https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/introvertAnd here is more information about highly sensitive people:https://hsperson.com

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The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
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Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
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Welcome to the third episode of The Validation Lounge with Phil Georgiou.Each episode of The Validation Lounge looks at what contributes to self - esteem with different professionals who work with people; counsellors, therapist, mediators and coaches, amongst others.Phil Georgiou grew up in the UK from a mixed culture family and has lived and worked across Europe and the middle east. Initially beginning his working life in recruitment, Phil went on to work in the television industry before later retraining as an integrative Psychotherapist, counselor, consultant and trainer. Phil is now based in Rome, Italy. Phil is fascinated by what makes us tick as human beings, and how this constantly changes throughout our lives. He believes that feeling good is like creating a great recipe. We first have to identify and source the best ‘ingredients’ which cater to our own individual needs. We then carefully work to bring them together in the right amounts at the right time in order to achieve good emotional health and wellbeing. In addition to running a busy therapy practice Phil is the founder and director of two companies, Mondo Equilibrio and mindhamok.com. These offer 24/7 Emotional Support Helplines and Crisis Management consultancy to international students, universities and organizations with operations in Italy, Spain, France, Switzerland and the UK.Mindamok: https://mindhamok.comThis explains Existential Psychotherapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMJQGQsXd9wFor an explanation of Phenomenology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5geMLe5tbMThis explains Gestalt Psychotherapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBl14hIqDwcPsycho analysis: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXpzRTzMsXUEMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37I3sqflU_kThis is an in depth article on Family Systems Therapy: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/family-systems-therapyMore info on Person Centred Therapy – created by Carl Rogers: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/person-centred-therapy.html#whatispersoncentredcounsellingThe book ‘Against Empathy, The Case For Rational Compassion – Paul Bloom’Ego: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERWBqIJaecYand ego states https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFGZgbta764Marcus Aurelius: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/ and Marcus_Aurelius?fbclid=IwAR0d0M86urrgjGTBmdF9NBdlpSjftan53DFpWOELbg8zMiQxoP7HcjZqs50Attachment theory: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-attachment-theory-2795337I also make reference to the excellent book on trauma ‘The Body Keeps The Score’ by Bessel Van der Kalk.

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The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/

This discussion/podcast is split into two parts.Part 1: In this episode I talk to Sanjay Kumar who is now back in Bangalore in India (where he grew up) after living in London for 17 years. Whilst in the UK he trained to be a psychotherapist and worked specialising in supporting gay men and also offered bereavement therapy. This episode was recorded before the horrendous spread of Covid in India. Before the full episode we have a brief discussion on this (recorded more recently) as Sanjay and I felt it would be appropriate to acknowledge the effects of Covid in his country.Here are details for 2 charities working on the ground in India supporting families affected by Covid if you would like to help out:https://www.khalsaaid.org/news/india-covid-reliefhttps://www.ketto.orgIf you would like to work with Sanjay you can get in touch with him via the following sites:https://www.facebook.com/positivetherapytodayhttps://www.instagram.com/positivetherapytoday/Definitions and information about various things we discuss in the show:Integrative: A model of Therapy that draws from several modalities.Existential: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/existential-therapy.htmlPhenomenology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phenomenology_(philosophy)Humanistic: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/humanistic.htmlMindfulness: https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/Vipassana Meditation: https://www.dhamma.org/en/about/vipassana Gaie Houston: http://www.gaiehouston.co.ukPACE: PACE Health was of the oldest LGBT charities in London offered therapeutic and advocacy services to the community, sadly closed in 2014.Loving Men: https://www.lovingmen.org

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The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/

In this episode Ellen Yun and host, Sasha Jenkin discuss the theme of power and control through an Internal Family Systems lens. A huge subject this is a first chance to explore this and there will be further episodes on the same theme at a later date.

Ellen Yun is an IFS therapist Level 3 trained on route to Certification.

If you would like more information about Ellen there is a full bio in her guest info on the Validation Lounge website https://www.buzzsprout.com/2416145 Also you can find her here: https://www.facebook.com/ellenyuncounselling and here https://www.instagram.com/the_journeying_therapist/

You can also enquire about working with Ellen via this webite:

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/ellen-yun

This is the info for the biologist specialising in the effects of trauma: https://biologyoftrauma.com

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/research/ifs-glossary-terms

The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/

This episode is a different format to usual as I am really lucky to chat to Sacha Mardou about her fabulous new book Past Tense, Facing Family Secrets and Finding Myself in Therapy. In this deeply personal and visually stunning work, Mardou shares her experience of overcoming anxiety and generational trauma
through the power of therapy, offering a fresh and compelling approach to the timely subject of mental health and the quest for healing. A theme central to the book, Internal Family Systems therapy (IFS) plays a major role as readers
are taken inside Mardou's therapy sessions, witnessing the life-changing breakthroughs as she unravels her complicated upbringing and confronts the violent relationship between her parents.
For more information about Sacha and what she is up to you can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mardou_draws/ and facebook at https://www.facebook.com/sachamardou
Her website https://ifscomics.com/ has her back catalogue of comics.

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/research/ifs-glossary-terms

The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/

In this episode I chat with Phil de la Haye about how parts can manifest as chronic physical symptoms.

Phil de la Haye is a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner, coach,
trainee counsellor, and a Stress Illness Recovery Practitioner (SIRPA). He works
with a particular focus on the mindbody connection, the neuroscience of pain,
nervous system dysregulation, and is interested in how these can help to
explain many chronic symptoms.
To put that in IFS terms, he’s interested in how parts can impact the body and how working with parts can help to regulate the nervous system and reduce physical symptoms.

You can find out more about Phil on his social media platforms:
https://www.instagram.com/phildelahayeifs/

https://www.facebook.com/phildelahayeifs

And his website:

https://phildelahaye.com/

Article on IFS and chronic pain:
https://phildelahaye.com/internal-family-systems-and-chronic-pain/

Ruth Culvers website:
https://calmheart.co.uk

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/research/ifs-glossary-terms

The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/

Today we talk to Cate Mackenzie an IFS Level 3 trained and a COSRT Accredited sex and relationship expert about how parts can present in our intimate relationships.

Cate offers therapy, coaching and workshops to individuals and couples of any orientation or gender. Her passion is supporting people to fall in love with themselves, with life and with others.

She has run workshops in France, Spain, Greece, Monaco, Kuwait and the UK since 1998 and was the dating coach for Channel 4’s 'The Undateables', a flirting coach on Channel 5's 'The Jeremy Vine Show' and a Sex Therapist on Channel 4's 'Kinky Britain'.

She is regularly in the media, gives advice in The Independent and has been featured in The Guardian, Red, Esquire, The Telegraph, BBC Radio, and Channel Five News among many others.

Cate recommends this website https://missjaiya.com/

You could get in touch with Cate via her website:
https://catemackenzie.com/

And here is her instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/catemmackenzie/

Here is information on her latest workshop:

https://catemackenzie.com/event/from-anxious-to-secure-two-hour-attachment-workshop/

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/research/ifs-glossary-terms

The above link is a glossary of common terms used in Internal Family Systems Therapy from the IFS Institute.

More info on my fabulous guests can be found on the podcast website:
https://thevalidationloungeallpartsarewelcome.buzzsprout.com

Sasha Jenkin website for any feedback please:
https://sashajenkin.com/