• Anti-aging, mansplaining, and blowing Brian
    Apr 3 2025

    Today, John and Shaun ride the roller coaster of texting anxiety, threesomes, slippery self-care hacks, and the occasional social media meltdown. They break down why a simple “Good morning” text can feel like a high-stakes game and the many unexpected uses of coconut and olive oils.

    Special guest, Lydia from Face Yoga by Lydia, joins to prove that, yes, your face needs a workout too. Expect expert guidance from Lydia and some endearingly awkward attempts from John and Shaun as they stretch and sculpt their way to eternal youth.

    The duo also reflects on the emotional toll of online backlash and how it can unexpectedly get under your skin. And finally, they unpack the "Blowing Brian" story—plus a few very personal confessions along the way.

    A little humor, a little wisdom, and a lot of things you can’t un-hear. Buckle up.

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Face Yoga with Lydia

    • Kripalu Love Camp

    • The Instagram post that caused quite a stir

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    53 mins
  • The orgasm gap, Sabrina Zohar, and picky daters
    Mar 27 2025

    Today, John and Shaun dive into the orgasm gap—why so many women aren’t reaching the finish line in the bedroom. They break down the importance of communication in sex, myths around male performance, and why “homie, your dick’s not enough.”


    They’re joined by guest, Sabrina Zohar, who shares her insights on modern dating, picky partners, and how unrealistic checklists keep people single. Plus, is blue balls a real thing? Should every guy read She Comes First? And why sometimes, you just need to tap out.


    People & Resources Mentioned:

    • Follow Sabrina on Instagram HERE
    • Find out more about Sabrina HERE
    • She Comes First by Ian Kerner
    • Good Enough Mother – Donald Winnicott

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    54 mins
  • Constipation, speed dating, and jealous partners
    Mar 20 2025

    Today, John and Shaun talk about the struggles of aging, navigating dietary changes, and the unexpected joys of pooping on command. They also discuss the concept of "optimistic nihilism" and the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships.

    They share thoughts on speed dating, social media jealousy, and whether liking photos online is harmless or a sign of "leaky energy." Plus, Shaun opens up about his ski trip, his new “ski wife,” and the complications of modern relationships.

    People & Social Links:

    Dayan Kolev on Instagram: @dayan.kole

    Episode Resources & Events:

    • Love Better (Forced Fun) retreat: https://www.tatretreats.com/lovebetter
    • The Feels – A unique dating event experience: https://catchthefeels.co/
    • John & Shaun’s Spring Retreat – April 18-20, their last retreat together in California before John's move to Costa Rica. Sign up HERE

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    51 mins
  • Starting over, writing a book, and divorced in your 50s
    Mar 13 2025

    Today, John and Shaun talk about hair insecurities, moving to Costa Rica, and the challenge of making big life changes. They also discuss dating in Los Angeles, social anxiety, and the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.


    As they look ahead, John and Shaun brainstorm ways to expand the podcast, from guest appearances on other shows to adding expert guests of their own. Shaun shares insights from a podcast agent he met at a recent party, and they reflect on how networking (even when you don’t feel like it) can open unexpected doors.


    Plus, they answer a listener's question about struggling with loneliness after divorce and offer advice on rebuilding a fulfilling life.


    Resources Mentioned:

    The No BS Guide to Writing & Selling Your Book – John’s step-by-step program to help you turn your ideas into a published book.


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    53 mins
  • Popping Cherries, Internalized Misogyny, and When To Have Kids
    Mar 6 2025

    Today, John and Shaun talk about internal misogyny, dating older women, how they lost their virginity, and starting over. They also answer two listeners’ questions: how do you know when you’re ready to have kids, and how do you learn to trust yourself and your intuition?


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    1 hr
  • The American “Dream”, Herpes, and Moving to Costa Rica?
    Feb 27 2025

    Today, John and Shaun talk about different styles of communication, the American dream, the meaning behind tattoos, and relocating outside of Los Angeles. They also answer two listeners’ questions: what was the skateboarding life like for you guys, and what’s the best way to disclose to someone that I have herpes?


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    59 mins
  • Cock Rings, Getting Arrested, and Mothering Your Partner
    Feb 20 2025

    Today, Shaun and John talk about their recent Valentine’s Day retreat, past addictive behaviors, Shaun’s new sex toy, and the benefits of using cock rings in the bedroom. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: how can you help your partner without feeling like you’re mothering them?


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    57 mins
  • Christianity, Cancel Culture, and Moaning During Sex
    Feb 13 2025

    Today, Shaun and John talk about break ups, their Valentine’s Day retreat, making platonic friends, and celebrity drama. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: why don’t men make more noise in the bedroom?


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    1 hr and 1 min