
Choosing Us
Marriage and Mutual Flourishing in a World of Difference
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Narrated by:
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Brian Bantum
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Gail Song Bantum
About this listen
For years, people have asked Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum to reveal the secret to their marriage as a multiracial Christian couple, each with a high-profile ministry calling. This book reveals the lessons, mistakes, and principles that have helped the Bantums navigate race, family history, and gender dynamics in their twenty-plus years of marriage, while inspiring listeners to pursue mutual flourishing in their marriages and relationships.
Marriage is about more than constant bliss or unending sacrifice, say the Bantums. It's about exploring your own story, seeing the other for who they are (even as they change), and being flexible in discovering how those differences and stories come alive in new ways when joined together. It's the discovery of life in the gaps and the mysteries that emerge when we live in mutuality, believing that fullness is possible for each.
Choosing Us reflects the realities and demands of modern marriage and respects the callings and ambitions of both partners. It shows that marriage is about choosing the other's flourishing on a daily basis, amid differences and even systemic obstacles, to build a relationship that thrives and reflects the kingdom of God.
©2022 Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum (P)2022 eChristianListeners also enjoyed...
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- Shiloh
- 01-30-23
Beautiful & Authentic
My husband and I really enjoyed this book. It was the first marriage books or any book that had stories that had a similar feel to our intercultural marriage experience. We really appreciate the personal stories shared and the authenticity behind still trying to figure things out. This is a journey. No one has arrived. Thank you.
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