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How to Think More About Sex

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How to Think More About Sex

By: Alain de Botton
Narrated by: David Thorpe
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We don't think too much about sex; we're merely thinking about it in the wrong way.
So asserts Alain de Botton in this rigorous and supremely honest book designed to help us navigate the intimate and exciting—yet often confusing and difficult—experience that is sex. Few of us tend to feel we're entirely normal when it comes to sex, and what we're supposed to be feeling rarely matches up with the reality. This book argues that twenty-first-century sex is ultimately fated to be a balancing act between love and desire, and adventure and commitment. Covering topics that include lust, fetishism, adultery, and pornography, Alain de Botton frankly articulates the dilemmas of modern sexuality, offering insights and consolation to help us think more deeply and wisely about the sex we are, or aren't, having.

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Critic reviews

“Many books of pop psychology or pop philosophy try to contend straightforwardly with what ails our age; Alain de Botton's wonderful How to Think More About Sex comes to mind, an example of an intelligent person helpfully untying some knots that bind us.” —Sheila Heti, The New York Times Book Review

“[de Botton] offers a collection of essays that, taken as a whole, serve to pull sexuality into a philosophical consideration of our drives and desires, to illuminate how we can make sense of the urges that drive us senseless....A well-rounded examination of the ways we can marry intelligent thought and physical pleasure.” —Kirkus Reviews

“De Botton is never prescriptive, and the intellectual rigor of his investigation prevents this book from settling into a self-help reference guide.” —Publishers Weekly
Philosophical Insights • Valuable Reflections • Realistic Perspective • Beautiful Writing • Thought-provoking Concepts
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Very much inline with the truth about sex and the direction or culture is finally going. If this topic interest you I recommend Sex At Dawn.

Truth

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once you get a feel for the authors method of "argument you will find that these poignant thoughts and reflections are very valuable to any one of the age of Sexual Maturity or immaturity for that matter

brilliant

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Loved this book. It's a great examination of the way we view sex and it's relationship to how we define and view ourselves and others.

Extremely Insightful

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That lovely moment when someone puts perfectly into words, a particular pattern that you’ve been aware of for a very long time without ever having spoken word about it. This book is full of that. Well done.

Satisfying read!

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Interesting information for reinvigorating your lifestyle. This book brought about angles you never saw possible, while completing another task like a puzzle. My curiosity has only grown from this experience as our society really does need to work on conversations about sex.

Stunning and Curious

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ease to read clear interesting ideas to try and use in life easy understand with fun narrative and entertaining

very good for beginners

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comprehensíve, very well researched, navigates admirably well the treacherous waters of both prejudice and trend, beautifully written with charme and wit - my best Audible purchase in many months!

elegant and enriching

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Really great read on topics of sex that are conveniently left out of daily lives of humans. A certain automation exists that is based on traditional expectations which are never accurate to the complexities of our human nature. Really great points and at a minimum, a challenge to status quo.

Incredible and beautifully insightful

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These are ideas worth revisiting many times. It was beautiful written, and packed full with great concepts. Absolutely loved it😃

FASCINATING IDEAS

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It helps us to be more honest about marriages and love. It helps us understand that we allí strugle with fidelity and that infidelity should not be as surprising as our expectations have made it to be

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