
The Secrets of Successful Relationships
The Secrets Series, Book 1
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Rachel Lanning
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The key ingredients to contented love—quintessential advice on relationships from The School of Life, with an approachable tone
It can sometimes seem a mystery why some couples stay together and thrive – while many more split up or drag on scratchily. While we might think happy love is left to chance, there are some identifiable secrets that underpin good relationships that we can learn and put into practice.
The first title of a new series,The Secrets of Successful Relationships draws upon the expertise of The School of Life therapists to teach us the key ingredients of contented love. Chapters such as “Learning to Love Oneself”, “Knowing What to Overlook”, “Good Listening” and “The Importance of Bad Dates” prompt us to think about how we can achieve success in love. In a tone that’s warm, encouraging and funny, we learn: how to communicate effectively, how to manage differences, what to do when sexual problems arise, how to air grievances, the best way to share a home and—when things grow truly problematic—how to judge whether or not we should stay or leave.
This handbook shows us how to take the necessary, careful, intelligent steps towards the contented love we deserve.
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