
If God Is Love, Don't Be a Jerk
Finding a Faith That Makes Us Better Humans
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John Pavlovitz
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John Pavlovitz
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Thou shalt not be horrible.
Imagine for a moment what the world might look like if we as people of faith, morality, and conscience actually aspired to this mantra.
What if we were fully burdened to create a world that was more loving and equitable than when we arrived?
What if we invited one another to share in wide-open, fearless, spiritual communities truly marked by compassion and interdependence?
What if we daily challenged ourselves to live a faith that simply made us better humans?
John Pavlovitz explores how we can embody this kinder kind of spirituality where we humbly examine our belief system to understand how it might compel us to act in less-than-loving ways toward others.
In If God Is Love, Don't Be a Jerk, John Pavlovitz examines the bedrock ideas of our religion: the existence of hell, the utility of prayer, the way we treat LGBTQ people, the value of anger, and other doctrines to help all of us take a good, honest look at how the beliefs we hold can shape our relationships with God and our fellow humans - and to make sure that love has the last, loudest word.
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- Norman B.
- 12-20-22
WWJD
A fantastic and entertaining story about how to be truly Christ like in an America filled with far too many professed and hypocritical “Christians.” This book explains precisely why I left two Evangelical, tRump churches and now practice my faith and belief in Jesus daily and authentically by meeting people where they are.
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- Anybody but me.
- 11-27-21
Bravo
Mr. Pavlovitz has truly embraced REAL Christianity and has put a bright spotlight on the hypocrisy of todays so-called Chri religion.
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- Shawn S.
- 12-19-21
The book your soul needs
My soul needed a book like this. My view of God has changed over the years, and John compares that experience at the beginning of the book when he tells a hilarious story of trying to fit into an old pair of pants. I couldn’t relate more. It also gives me a better understanding of the old wineskin parable Jesus told his disciples. I feel like I’m in that stage of my life where my understanding of God won’t fit into the version of God I was handed as a child. This book really is about God’s love and how we should always choose love instead of hate, no matter how hard it can be sometimes. I listened to the audible version of this book because I can multitask and as a mom and a teacher, I’m always multitasking. I did order the hardback as a gift for a friend.
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- stephanie
- 08-09-22
True Love
Loved it's down to earth realistic view about how we need to truly love in God's name.
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- Momma Behr
- 12-06-21
The Truth
Jesus speaks to me through John. The message isn't new; we're just not living it. Try harder, people! Thanks for the reminder, John!!
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- slowreader
- 08-31-22
Great book
Really enjoyed this book. Well organized and great narration by the author. Highly recommend this title.
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- Mary Hollabaugh
- 02-25-24
Continue to learn how to love like Jesus❤️
Thank you for shining the light on love and helping me to continue to learn how to do the same at a deeper level.
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- Catherine E Duguay
- 12-05-21
Gave me hope
This book gave me hope and maybe a place in my heart for a bigger God. The premise that God is love is so obvious but seemingly lost with many professed Christians right now. Pavlovitz’s beliefs, told through personal stories & examples in accessible language, resonate with me & point me toward being a better human. After reading I can conceive the possibility of moving back towards a spirituality I’ve lost in recent years. I recommend this book for anyone who recognizes the need for love & kindness in our world.
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- Alan Davis
- 12-07-22
This book hits the mark!
ALL people are worthy of love, regardless of race, country of origin, gender, sexual orientation, political party, or religious affiliation. If we could find it in ourselves to treat everyone lovingly, even when we don’t like them, or we disagree vehemently with them, we could make the planet a more humane place to live. Kudos to John Pavlovitz for an eye-opening book!
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- LAURA WILSON
- 05-29-24
Awesome messaging!!
I love anything John writes—it was extra special to have him read it to me <3
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