
It's Them, Not You
How to Break Free from Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story
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Josh Connolly
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Josh Connolly
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A life-affirming manual on how to confront toxic family dynamics and find emotional freedom from your past.
How many times have you heard that family is sacred, even when your reality is different? Resilience and well-being coach Josh Connolly knows statements like “You’ll miss them when they’re gone” or “Blood is thicker than water” doesn’t apply to everyone. With candor and compassion, he tackles the harsh reality of toxic family dynamics and provides the tools you need to deal with emotionally immature parents
It's Them, Not You helps you get unstuck and overcome past trauma, with:
- A deeply validating breakdown of how toxic parents operate and empowering tips to set clear boundaries that stick
- A step-by-step recovery process that combines breathwork with inner child healing and other therapeutic methodologies.
- Exercises and journaling prompts that support cognitive and emotional healing with deep reflection and self-compassion.
- Links to videos for guided conscious breathwork sessions to reconnect the mind and body and release stuck trauma safely.
Whether your solution is to go “no contact,” place new boundaries, or reconnect with community, this book is the ultimate handbook to reclaim your agency and freedom.
* This audiobook edition contains a downloadable PDF with a QR code and link to access guided breathwork for each chapter.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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