
South of Forgiveness
A True Story of Rape and Responsibility
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Tom Bromhead
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Tavia Gilbert
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One ordinary spring morning in Reykjavik, Iceland, Thordis Elva kisses her son and partner good-bye before boarding a plane to do a remarkable thing: fly 7,000 miles to South Africa to confront the man who raped her when she was just 16. Meanwhile, in Sydney, Australia, Tom Stranger nervously embarks on an equally life-changing journey to meet Thordis, wondering whether he is worthy of this milestone.
After exchanging hundreds of searingly honest emails over eight years, Thordis and Tom decided it was time to speak face to face. Coming from opposite sides of the globe, they meet in the middle, in Cape Town, South Africa, a country that is no stranger to violence and the healing power of forgiveness.
South of Forgiveness is an unprecedented collaboration between a survivor and a perpetrator, each equally committed to exploring the darkest moment of their lives. It is a true story about being bent but not broken, facing fear with courage, and finding hope even in the most wounded of places. Personable, accessible, and compelling, South of Forgiveness is an intense and refreshing look at gendered violence, rape culture, personal responsibility, and the effect that patriarchal cultures have on both men and women.
Contains mature themes.
©2017 Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger (P)2017 TantorListeners also enjoyed...
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- Bonnie O'Melia
- 06-16-19
Truly healing
As an incest survivor reading this was profoundly healing on many levels... It is an entertaining read, which I didn’t expect and another reason it strikes the heart first with a pin prick and then an explosion of loving forgiveness and understanding. Mahalo Thordis and Tom, you walked through the fire to reach the mountain of forgiveness, then battered and broken you climbed that mountain together till you reached its peak!! I hold so much respect for you and your journey. These lessons are PRICELESS, as are each of you😘🙏⚡️🙌
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- Regina
- 06-19-18
Important, uplifting and cutting edge story about rape
Just finished this intense account of forgiveness for a rape that one character committed to the other decades earlier. Obviously this book examines a disturbing real-life episode, so anyone who struggles with this type of content should exercise caution when choosing if they will read this book.
I believe Thordis’ conviction that confronting, understanding and forgiving sexual assault is spot on, yet as I was reading I kept wondering “Who do I know that could handle this message?” Through hearing her rapist’s story, you better understand how sexual assault against women is so normalized, that even a generally thoughtful person such as Tom, could commit rape to his girlfriend.
Don’t worry! The authors DO NOT SUGGEST THAT RAPISTS BE ABSOLVED FROM BLAME, but they do demonstrate a real life example of how taking the time to understand sexual assault can be both healing and preventative.
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- Janelle
- 08-07-18
Good Story from Multiple Perspectives
This is a good story about healing, forgiveness, reconciliation, and accountability for bad actions. This is the first time I've heard a collaboration from a victim and an offender. I'd like to hear more in the future and this was a good start.
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- Bianca Bell
- 08-16-20
Great Story
This is a great story and I think that it is wonderful that both perspectives are showcased.
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