
The AfterGrief
Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss
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Hope Edelman
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A validating new approach to the long-term grieving process that explains why we feel “stuck”, why that’s normal, and how shifting our perception of grief can help us grow - from the New York Times best-selling author of Motherless Daughters.
“This is perhaps one of the most important books about grief ever written. It finally dispels the myth that we are all supposed to get over the death of a loved one.” (Claire Bidwell Smith, author of Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief)
Aren’t you over it yet? Anyone who has experienced a major loss in their past knows this question. We’ve spent years fielding versions of it, both explicit and implied, from family, colleagues, acquaintances, and friends. We recognize the subtle cues - the slight eyebrow lift, the soft, startled “Oh! That long ago?” - from those who wonder how an event so far in the past can still occupy so much precious mental and emotional real estate.
Because of the common but false assumption that grief should be time-limited, too many of us believe we’re grieving “wrong” when sadness suddenly resurges sometimes months or even years after a loss. The AfterGrief explains that the death of a loved one isn’t something most of us get over, get past, put down, or move beyond. Grief is not an emotion to pass through on the way to “feeling better”. Instead, grief is in constant motion; it is tidal, easily and often reactivated by memories and sensory events and is re-triggered as we experience life transitions, anniversaries, and other losses. Whether we want it to or not, grief gets folded into our developing identities, where it informs our thoughts, hopes, expectations, behaviors, and fears, and we inevitably carry it forward into everything that follows.
Drawing on her own encounters with the ripple effects of early loss, as well as on interviews with dozens of researchers, therapists, and regular people who’ve been bereaved, New York Times best-selling author Hope Edelman offers profound advice for reassessing loss and adjusting the stories we tell ourselves about its impact on our identities. With guidance for reframing a story of loss, finding equilibrium within it, and even experiencing renewed growth and purpose in its wake, she demonstrates that though grief is a lifelong process, it doesn’t have to be a lifelong struggle.
This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF with diagrams from the book.
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Critic reviews
“Hope Edelman is one of the foremothers of the grief revolution. Her work opened the door for honest discussions of grief long before it was considered OK to talk about your inner life. In a world that thinks you should be over your loss already, The Aftergrief normalizes grief - and love - that lasts a lifetime.” (Megan Devine, author of It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand)
Lucid ... noteworthy ... a timelessly relevant chronicle on enduring grief.” (Kirkus Reviews)
“[Hope Edelman] urges readers to understand that there are no timetables for loss and no firm rules. Death is part of everyone’s life. Community helps us cope, and Edelman’s knowledgeable and thoughtful book offers a gentle, compassionate guide to grieving.” (Booklist)
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- 02-27-24
Amazing book
I can't say enough good things about this book. I've already recommended it to several people!
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- Kini
- 10-19-23
Accessible and beneficial in making sense of how we process and live with grief.
This was the fourth book I read following the unexpected death of my middle son. At first I thought since it was directed more towards those children and young adults who survived death of a loved one at an early age it might not be as helpful for me but, it was. This is especially to more deeply understand my husbands experience as his oldest brother died when he was a teen.
Reviewing the history of bereavement in different cultures was a wonderful starting point to understand how come we as a society deal with death the way we do.
The models of grief and other tools to make sense of the thoughts and emotions the bereaved experience is helpful as was all the practical perspectives and practices.
Thank you Ms. Edelman for giving us more hope. ♥️
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- Matt T. Brandley
- 11-18-23
Learning to Love the thing we wished the most had not happened
I would recommend this book to anyone that has experienced grief and wants to find a path forward in their lied
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- Sharron E. Dillon
- 05-11-21
Insightful & Helpful
Over the years Hope Edelman has given a voice to those of us who’ve had none. Having lost my dad when I was 10 & my mom when I was 14, there was quite literally, no place to turn. Hope explains the commonalities that so many of us share. She goes on to offer practical steps we can take to heal some of the hurt. I truly wish her books had been available long before their time. As always, thank you Hope!
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