
The Expectation Gap
The Tiny, Vast Space Between Our Beliefs and Experience of God
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Learn how to quiet your inner critic, confront chronic anxiety, and relax into God's perfect presence.
Do you truly experience the promises Jesus gave to those who follow him—the benefits of peace, freedom, and love? The fact is that many of us struggle with a gap between what we believe about God and how we encounter him in our everyday lives. We don't want our faith to be merely conceptual—we want to experience it viscerally—and yet we often come up against one or more of these major gaps:
- I believe God loves me, but I don't feel it.
- I believe God is with me, but I don't see him.
- I thought I'd be further along in my spiritual progress by now.
In The Expectation Gap, Steve Cuss—pastor and founder of the leadership organization Capable Life—offers tangible tools for engaging with God in a deeper, more soul-satisfying way. You'll unveil harmful expectations and patterns that keep you spiritually stuck so that you can replace them with habits and practices that will lead to a more vibrant faith life.
"This is the most helpful book I've read in my thirty-five years of ministry when it comes to recognizing, naming, and bridging the gap between what we believe about God and what we experience from God." —Christine Caine, founder of A21 and Propel Women
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- loretta coltrane
- 02-20-25
A Enlightening Read
So many good thoughts are shared in this book! ❤️ I will be listening over and over again! What a blessing! Thank you souch for this book! Blessings to you and your family!
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- Nate Benner
- 06-14-24
Beautiful
Steve’s perspective and wisdom will help anyone who feels like they are stuck in their faith. He is extremely practical while providing wisdom based in scripture and the mental health disciplines. Fully recommend.
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- Cori Salchert
- 07-24-24
A Refreshing and Thought Provoking Read!
In this book, Steve offers the possibility of changing "The Way Things Are" and embracing the infinite love God has for us, which can overcome the obstacles our own small faith creates.
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- Jessica A.
- 07-25-24
Simple shifts for long term change
The content in Steve’s books and website Capable Life are simple concepts that make such a difference in the way I think about my life and faith. Don’t confuse simple for easy, as the “brave work” is lengthy and often difficult.
Bonus for narration is that Steve’s voice is lovely to listen to.
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- Christine
- 10-16-24
God is perfect Love
The best book I’ve ever read on the true nature of God. Confirms what I have experienced since childhood: God is “Crazy nuts about me” and brings love and healing to me whenever my sins bring damage and pain.
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- Jimmy
- 05-31-24
Relax!!! Into Jesus’ presence
An excellent resource unmasking many of the assumptions followers hold onto. The reading was excellent and the content even more so. Highly recommend for anyone navigating trusting Jesus in the day-to-day.
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