
The Rejection That Changed My Life
25+ Powerful Women on Being Let Down, Turning It Around, and Burning It Up at Work
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Jessica Bacal
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From the groundbreaking author of Mistakes I Made at Work comes the perfect book for anyone who needs inspiration after dealing with rejection, failure, or is searching for a new beginning in the workplace. Featuring fascinating interviews with more than 25 women, including Keri Smith, Angela Duckworth, and Roz Chast, The Rejection That Changed My Life provides an exciting new way to think about career challenges, changes, and triumphs.
Rejections don't go on your résumé, but they are part of every successful person's career. All of us will apply for jobs that we don't get and have ambitions that aren't fulfilled, because that is part of being a working person, part of pushing oneself to the next step professionally. While everyone deserves feel-better stories, women are more likely to ruminate, more likely to overthink rejection until it becomes even more painful - a situation that the women in this collection are determined to change, and in so doing, normalize rejection and encourage others to talk about it.
Empowering and full of heart, the stories in this collection are diverse in every sense, by top women from many cultural backgrounds and in a wide variety of fields; many of their hard-earned lessons are universal. There are stories from engineers, entrepreneurs, activists, comedians, professors, lawyers, chefs, and more on how they coped with rejection and even experienced it as a catalyst for their own personal professional growth. Powerful, motivating, and endlessly quotable and shareable, The Rejection That Changed My Life will become the go-to book for women at any stage of their career learning to navigate the workforce.
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Critic reviews
"The Rejection That Changed My Life is an essential read for anyone currently struggling with rejection or anyone wanting to know how to learn from rejection. During COVID, many women have lost their jobs or had to leave the workforce to care for their children and are now facing re-entry. For these and all women, Bacal’s book provides important tools for how to grow stronger in the face of rejection. The stories in her book show that even successful women experience rejection and discrimination in the workplace. The book imparts the skills and outlook necessary to not only overcome rejection but to feel empowered doing so." [Ms. Magazine]
"This book is a balm for anyone smarting from a 'no,' a downturn, or a skinned knee. Jessica Bacal and the parade of rockstar women she interviewed will turn your attitude around and coach you, soothe you, and inspire you in turn. Jessica Bacal has written a book made for the moment, and I learned a ton—for both myself and my clients." [Rachel Simmons, New York Times best-selling author of Odd Girl Out]
"This is an inspiring, entertaining read about strong women who persevered in the face of rejection – often by practicing a growth mindset!" [Carol S. Dweck, PhD, author of Mindset]
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- P. McCourt
- 04-26-21
Rejection as a Journey
Rejection is something we all go through, yet it often feels like women deal with it much more – and the effects can be detrimental. In her book, The Rejection That Changed My Life: 25+ Powerful Women on Being Let Down, Turning It Around, and Burning It Up at Work, Jessica Bacal talks about her own rejections as the motivation to hear about how other women have been rejected, dealt with it emotionally, and picked themselves up to move on.
Reading about or listening to stories from women in all walks of life can help other women feel that we are not alone. There are stories from engineers, entrepreneurs, activists, would-be politicians, comedians, lawyers, and more on coping with rejection and how each one used it as a facilitator of personal and professional growth.
Bacal uses these stories, as well as her own, to help normalize what so many of us have been through – including the emotional scarring, depression, and guilt – while also presenting the ways women have pushed through all of it to come out better. For anyone that is hurting from rejection, knowing others have been where you are, and have used their pain as a motivation to grow, let’s you know that you can make it past, too.
I genuinely enjoyed reading The Rejection That Changed My Life as well as listening to the audio book which had many of the stories read in the voice of the woman who wrote her story. The book is well-written and heart-felt, and I sensed that Bacal’s motivation is to help herself, and the rest of us, heal. I’m thankful for the feeling of a community of women who want to help each other.
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