Making and apology to our betrayed spouse is one of the more important facets of our recovery process. However, have you had the experience when making an apology to your spouse, it seemed to cause more damage than give relief? So, what is the secret to a good apology and how can it be done with respect and honesty that can lead to true intimacy.

Since publishing episode #10, When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology, we have had many requests for the Healing Apology worksheet, mostly from husbands who realized that they needed to apologize to their spouse for the ways they hurt them through their infidelity. We have gotten some great feedback from those who have used this valuable tool. Many found it very helpful, but others, not so much. Through this feedback we’re going to expand on the Healing Apology resource and give some caveats to help folks have a more successful experience.

You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk through 7 caveats for an effective healing apology.

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Johnny and Emily

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Have you ever lost something or had something taken away from you and you deeply felt the loss?

Or perhaps you gave something precious away that you now regret or grieve and want to get it back.

Would you be willing to travel a potentially painful path to have your loss restored?

The path of redemption can be challenging at best and painful at its worst. But what if the road less traveled brought victory and healing from your past and freedom for your future?

You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk about redeeming what was lost, stolen, or given away through marital infidelity.

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On this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common thread of knowing there are those outside of your marriage who contributed to and/or participated in your spouse’s sexual sin. How do you forgive these people who you may not even know?

In this episode, we discuss the difficult topic of forgiving the “other women” involved in a marriage infidelity. Emily shares her personal journey of forgiveness, detailing the challenges and steps she took to forgive not only Johnny, who had a long history of pornography and extramarital affairs, but also the women involved. She describes how she navigated her emotions and found empathy and compassion for those she once resented.

Join us for this frank discussion on forgiveness and then share it with someone you know needs to hear it.

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Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?

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Have you ever found yourself in a situation that totally surprised you, leaving you unsure of how to react? It happens to all of us!

When we’re on the journey to recovering from sex addiction, those unexpected moments can be particularly challenging. It’s important to be aware and not let our guard down, as staying vigilant plays a crucial role in our recovery.

We’d love for you to join us today as we chat about the importance of staying watchful throughout our recovery process and how it can positively impact our relationships with our wives.

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When you hear the statement, "I do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it". What thoughts and/or emotions surface immediately? Our experience has shown us that the initial reaction from a betrayed spouse will likely differ from that of the one who has broken faith. The former will react in a posture of, "You better regret your past!". And the latter will feel that they are “supposed to” regret their past actions.

Join us today as we navigate our way through this potentially triggering statement on The Beyond Broken Vows Podcast.

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Twelve Promises - from AA & SAA

1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.

2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

4. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.

5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.

7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.

8. Self-seeking will slip away.

9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.

10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.

12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

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Episode 25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal

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Have you ever wondered how to hear God speaking to you? When we have deep wounds such as betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues, we can feel desperate to hear the voice of God. We want him to tell us what to do to get relief from the ever-present pain and anxiety we are experiencing to find freedom and healing.

Today we are so excited to share our interview with Heather O’Brien host of the top 5% globally ranked podcast, "Heal with God”. She gave us some incredible insights into what true forgiveness means and how to release the shame of sexual betrayal. Heather emphasizes the importance of grieving with God and outlines her healing courses and resources, offering a step-by-step framework called the Heal with God Trauma Painkiller Roadmap.

Join us today as Heather walks us through the healing process by listening to God’s voice.

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Johnny and Emily

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Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity

Episode 74. Guilt and Shame in the Aftermath of Sexual Betrayal

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If you are listening to our podcast on a regular basis, and we hope you are, you are likely working hard to stay married after porn-fueled infidelity.

One challenging area that needs to be addressed in the recovery process is shame and guilt. Many times, shame and guilt are used interchangeably as though they are the same. Do you know there’s a difference? What are the differences?

Join us today for our conversation on the difference between guilt and shame and how one of these is actually helpful for us as we move forward in our healing process.

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Johnny and Emily

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We know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, and after several recovery setbacks, was finally able to get experience freedom from shame and addiction and help others get free as well.

It is so good to know that we are not alone on this journey of brokenness to wholeness. No matter who you are or where you’ve been, there is hope for a better future on the other side of porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Listen in to hear some nuggets of truth and wisdom as we hear Steve tell his amazing redemption story!

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Unafraid Unashamed podcast

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Episode 20. From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth Spraggins

Episode 21. Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino

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