• Divorce Over 40? How Mediation Can Save Your Sanity & Wallet 💸- Joe Dillon || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #111
    Jul 18 2025

    Are you a man over 40 facing divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the process? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to go through it blindly. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Joe Dillon, a seasoned divorce mediator with a unique blend of financial expertise and deep personal insight. Joe’s mission? To help men like you navigate the emotional and financial minefields of divorce with clarity, confidence, and fairness. 💪


    Joe brings 28 years of mediation experience and an MBA in finance to the table, making him a rare expert who understands both the numbers and the emotions behind every tough conversation. Most mediators are lawyers or mental health professionals, but Joe’s financial background means he can break down the real costs of divorce—child support, alimony, property division—and help you see the big picture, not just the dollar signs. 💵


    In this candid conversation, you’ll discover:

    • Why 75% of divorce is about the numbers—and how to make them work for you

    • How to avoid the courtroom drama and keep control of your future

    • The biggest mistakes men over 40 make during divorce (and how to avoid them)

    • How to handle the emotional rollercoaster, even if you think you’re “fine”

    • Why mediation leads to better outcomes for you and your kids

    • The truth about “fair” settlements—and why it’s about lifestyle, not just money

    • How to prepare for mediation, stay calm, and negotiate like a pro

    • What to do if you’re stuck in anger or blame—and how to break the cycle


    Joe shares his personal story of growing up in a litigated divorce, the lessons he learned, and why he’s passionate about helping men avoid the same mistakes. You’ll also get practical strategies for budgeting, negotiating, and keeping your cool—even when emotions run high. 🧘‍♂️

    If you’re ready to move forward, protect your finances, and build a better future for yourself and your kids, this episode is a must-listen. Don’t let anger or confusion dictate your next chapter—get the tools and insights you need to thrive after divorce.


    👉 What’s your biggest fear or question about divorce mediation? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it! If you found this episode helpful, hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE with a friend who needs it.

    #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DivorceMediation #DontPickTheScab #DivorceAdvice #Podcast


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  • Forgiveness: The Divorced Man's Superpower for Healing 💪 || Barbara J. Hunt || DPTSP #110
    Jul 12 2025

    Welcome back to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast'! In today's episode, David sits down with Barbara J. Hunt, a passionate advocate for mental and emotional well-being, to explore forgiveness as a hidden superpower vital for healing, especially for men over 40 navigating the challenges of divorce. 💪


    Barbara shares her unique approach to unlocking the transformative power of forgiveness, breaking down the barriers that hold us back from inner peace and renewed relationships. 🗝️ She offers simple, effective tools to navigate life's toughest challenges, providing insights that can ignite a new path toward a healthier, more fulfilling life after divorce. 🙏

    Discover why forgiveness isn't just a nice idea, but a crucial skill for your mental and emotional toolkit. Learn how to untangle the mind and heart, deal with emotional upsets, and why resentment can be so addictive. We dive into common misconceptions about forgiveness, and Barbara shares practical steps to get you started on your healing journey. ❤️‍🩹


    Key Discussion Points:

    • Understanding forgiveness as a 'master skill' applicable to all areas of life.

    • Why men often struggle with emotional conversations and how to find healthier outlets. 🧠

    • The importance of releasing ill will and reclaiming your personal power. 🦸‍♂️

    • How holding onto resentment is like 'setting yourself on fire' 🔥 and what to do instead.

    • Practical steps and a 7-step process to make forgiveness easier in your daily life. 🌟


    Barbara also shares inspiring stories of how forgiveness has transformed lives, including her personal journey and experiences with clients. Whether you're dealing with the pain of a recent divorce or lingering resentments from the past, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable strategies. 🚀

    Ready to unlock your superpower of forgiveness? Watch now and start your journey toward emotional freedom! 🌟


    ➡️Connect with Barbara Hunt: forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk

    ➡️Subscribe to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast' for more insights on divorce recovery for men.



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  • The Best Divorce Recovery Therapy Men Should Receive - Hana Gala /3 Minute Rewind
    Jul 10 2025

    Check out what Hana Gala feels about her version of Divorce Recovery Therapy for men over 40.

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  • The Science of Healing After Divorce / The Importance of Connection: Dr. Matthew Lederman’s Proven Strategies
    Jul 5 2025

    Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this episode, I’m thrilled to have Dr. Matthew Lederman, a board-certified internal medicine physician and a pioneer in connection-centered health. With over 20 years of experience, Dr. Lederman specializes in helping men over 40 navigate the emotional turmoil of divorce and rediscover their true selves. 💔✨

    Divorce can feel like a devastating blow, especially for men in their 40s. It’s a time of profound change, often leading to feelings of isolation, sadness, and confusion. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Dr. Lederman shares invaluable insights on how to heal by addressing the root causes of emotional disconnection. He emphasizes that true healing begins with restoring safety, presence, and meaningful relationships—elements often lost in the chaos of life transitions.


    In this episode, we dive deep into:

    • The Importance of Connection: Discover how fostering genuine connections can transform your healing journey. Dr. Lederman explains the concept of "connection medicine" and how it can help you rebuild your life after divorce.

    • Understanding Your Emotions: Learn how to connect with your feelings and needs, even amidst the pain. Dr. Lederman provides practical tools to help you navigate your emotional landscape and find inner peace.

    • Creating Meaningful Relationships: Explore strategies to cultivate deeper connections with yourself and others. Whether it’s through nonviolent communication or simply being present, these tools can help you reconnect with your joy and purpose.

    • And, just because someone gives you a coat, you don’t have to try it on or even wear it. Acknowledge they gave you the coat and keep it moving. Be selective!


    Dr. Lederman’s message is simple yet profound: You don’t need to perform to be whole; you need to feel safe enough to be real. 🌟

    Join us for this enlightening conversation that promises to inspire and empower you on your journey to recovery. If you’re a man over 40 grappling with the aftermath of divorce, this episode is for you!

    👉 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our latest episodes! We’d love to hear from you—share your thoughts in the comments below! What resonated with you the most? How are you navigating your own healing journey? Let’s support each other in this community! 💬❤️


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    32 mins
  • Divorce Survival Guide for Men Over 40: Wisdom from Nicky Billou 🛠️
    Jul 2 2025

    Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David Webb sits down with the incredible Nicky Billou, a two-time New York Times bestselling author and thought leader, to discuss how men can rebuild their lives after divorce. With over 600 podcast appearances and years of experience coaching men, Nicky shares actionable insights to help you turn your pain into purpose.

    🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • Why men’s groups are essential for healing and growth 👥

    • How to stop blaming your ex (or yourself) and take responsibility for your future 💡

    • The importance of forgiveness—for her, for yourself, and for your kids ❤️

    • How to adopt the Champion Mindset and use divorce as a catalyst for reinvention 🏆

    • Real-life stories of resilience, including how Nicky overcame his own divorce and built a thriving life 🌟

    Nicky also dives into the mental roadblocks that hold men back after divorce, such as anger, blame, and self-pity. He explains why traditional therapy often doesn’t work for men and how masculine-only spaces can provide the support and accountability you need to move forward.

    💪 This episode is packed with practical advice for men who feel stuck, lost, or unsure of how to rebuild their lives. Whether you’re navigating co-parenting challenges, struggling with self-doubt, or looking for a way to reinvent yourself professionally, this conversation will inspire you to take action.



    🔥 Key Takeaways:

    • "Life happens FOR you, not TO you." Learn how to shift your mindset and see divorce as an opportunity for growth.

    • "Success is a team sport." Discover why surrounding yourself with the right men can a

    • ccelerate your recovery.

    • "Your kids deserve the best version of you." Find out how to co-parent effectively and lead by example.



    💬 Join the Conversation: What’s been your biggest challenge in recovering from divorce? Share your thoughts in the comments below! Let’s create a community where men can support each other through this journey. 👇

    📞 Need more support? Connect with Nicky Billou for a free success call at www.Ecircleacademy.com/appointment. Whether you’re looking to rebuild your career, improve your relationships, or just need someone to listen, Nicky is here to help.



    🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast. Together, we’ll turn life’s toughest challenges into stepping stones for a brighter future. 🌟


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  • Men Over 40: How to Let Go, Heal, and Thrive After Divorce 🌱 - David Nordel || DPTSP#106 || David M. Webb
    Jul 1 2025

    Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast 🎙️—the ultimate guide for men over 40 navigating the challenges of divorce recovery. In this powerful episode, I sit down with David Nordel, a retired Air Force leader, author, and expert in transitions, to uncover the tools and strategies men need to heal, rebuild, and thrive after divorce. 💔

    Divorce is one of life’s toughest transitions, especially for men who often feel isolated and unsure of how to move forward. But you’re not alone. In this episode, we tackle the emotional, mental, and practical challenges of divorce recovery, offering actionable advice to help you reclaim your life. 🌟


    Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

    • The Power of Letting Go: Discover why holding onto anger and resentment only holds you back—and how to release it for good. 🕊️

    • Rebuilding Confidence: Learn how to identify your strengths, rebuild your self-esteem, and find your purpose after divorce. 💪

    • The Importance of Your Inner Circle: Why surrounding yourself with the right people is critical to your healing journey—and how to “fire” toxic relationships. 🚫

    • Co-Parenting Tips: Struggling with co-parenting? We share strategies to focus on your kids and create a positive environment, even when dealing with a difficult ex. 👨‍👧‍👦

    • Understanding Narcissism: Learn how to recognize and deal with narcissistic behavior in relationships—and why walking away is sometimes the healthiest choice. 🧠


    David Nordel shares his personal experiences and hard-earned wisdom, offering a raw and honest perspective on what it takes to rebuild your life after divorce. Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or years into your recovery, this episode is packed with insights to help you heal and thrive. 🌱


    💡 Key Takeaway: Divorce doesn’t define you—it’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself, build resilience, and create a life you love.

    👉 Join the conversation! What’s been the biggest challenge in your divorce recovery journey? Share your thoughts in the comments below. Let’s support each other and build a community of strength and growth. 💬


    Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! Together, we’ll navigate the road to recovery and come out stronger on the other side. 💥


    ALL THINGS DAVID NORDEL


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  • Understanding Generational Trauma / How to Heal After Divorce: Dr. Ernest Ellender, PhD. || DPTSP #105
    Jun 29 2025

    Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Ernest Ellender, a clinical psychologist and martial arts expert, to explore the profound journey of healing after divorce for men over 40. 💔


    Divorce can be a devastating experience, especially for men who may feel lost and overwhelmed. Dr. Ellender shares his unique insights on how to reclaim your life and thrive after such a significant life change. With a PhD in clinical psychology and a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, he combines the discipline of martial arts with trauma-informed care to empower men to overcome their struggles. 🥋✨


    In this enlightening conversation, we delve into:

    • Understanding Generational Trauma: Discover how past family dynamics can impact your relationships today and learn strategies to break the cycle. 🌪️

    • Practical Healing Techniques: Dr. Ellender shares his 20 essential rules for healing from painful childhoods and navigating the emotional challenges of divorce. 📚

    • The Role of Martial Arts: Learn how martial arts principles can foster resilience, confidence, and emotional stability during tough times. 💪

    • Building Healthy Relationships: We discuss the importance of developing critical skills for successful relationships and how to avoid repeating past mistakes. 🔑


    This episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to take charge of your healing journey. Whether you're currently navigating a divorce or simply seeking personal growth, this conversation is for you! 🌟


    Join us as we uncover the path to recovery and empowerment. Remember, healing is not just about moving on; it's about thriving and becoming the best version of yourself.

    👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell! If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment below sharing your thoughts or experiences. Your engagement helps us reach more men who need support on their journey to recovery. Let's build a community of strength and resilience together! 💬❤️


    ALL THINGS ERNEST ELLENDER, PhD.



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