In this episode of Going Inside, I sit down with Sara Avant Stover, a women’s leadership coach and author who blends Internal Family Systems (IFS) with entrepreneurship. We dive deep into how IFS can help entrepreneurs find balance between work and life, explore the motivations behind our drive to be productive, and discuss how tapping into our inner resources can enhance our work and overall well-being.

Key Takeaways:

1. IFS as a Tool for Slowing Down:
   IFS helps us tap into our inner resources, slowing down workaholic tendencies and fostering curiosity about the parts of us driving over productivity.
2. Balancing Business with Self-Care:
   Sara shares her experience of taking a month-long sabbatical each year to recharge, explaining how stepping away from work brings fresh clarity and helps create a more sustainable, simplified approach to business.
3. Listening to Our Higher Self:
   IFS encourages us to hold "inner family meetings," where we bring our parts to the table and tap into our innate confidence and clarity as leaders, finding new ways to approach entrepreneurship.

Learn more about Sara Avant Stover at https://saraavantstover.com/
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In this episode of Going Inside: Healing Trauma From the Inside Out, I’m joined by Dr. Laura Patryas, an expert in the intersection of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and non-duality. Together, we explore how these two approaches can deepen our understanding of healing from the inside out.

Below are the 8 F’s of Dr. Laura's Nondual IFS:

1. Feel—Tune into the bodily felt sense of your inner parts, energies, thoughts and emotions with tenderness. Naming them can help. Stay here as long as feels natural.

2. Feel-through—Inquire "Am I this part, thought, emotion, sensation?" Sense the presence that remains when each part is felt-through deeply. This helps uncover your true Self.

3. Field—Open to all parts from the spacious field of Self's awareness that underlies all experiences, thoughts, and sensations.

4. Friend—With unconditional friendship, attune to and embrace even extreme parts, listening to their stories and core beliefs.

5. Flow—Sense the Self harmonizing and flowing with different energies, allowing the paradox of individuality and oneness.

6. Fluid—Notice the fluid boundaries and lack of separation between Self and parts, inner and outer.

7. Freedom—As integration unfolds, feel the freedom of open, peaceful flow within the universal field.

8. Fulfilment/Fullness—Experience the richness of this present moment without craving any other state

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In this episode of Going Inside: Healing Trauma from the Inside Out, I’m joined once again by Bob Falconer to dive into the intersection of trauma, Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, and spirit-based work. Bob shares his personal journey into embracing spirituality within therapy, despite initial resistance within the IFS community. We dive into profound topics about connection to Spirit Guides, working with Unattached Burdens, and much more.

Key Takeaways:

1. Spirituality in Therapy - Bob shares how his work increasingly focuses on spirit-based therapy, emphasizing the importance of a spiritual connection that remains present even during intense suffering.

2. Thoughts on Other Therapeutic Models - We reflect on the damage caused by certain therapeutic models, especially those emphasizing therapist authority and disempowering clients. It’s important to question the roots of these models, including IFS, and maintain humility in their application.

3. Humility as Therapists - It’s important to have humility in therapy, recognizing that while we have tools and knowledge as therapists, there is still much we don’t know. We must honor clients’ systems and maintain an open, questioning attitude toward therapeutic models.

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In this episode of Going Inside: Healing Trauma From The Inside Out, David Polidi leads a roundtable discussion of IFS podcasters–Tammy Sollenberger, Natalie Deering, Tim Fortescue, and myself, John Clarke. We explore the internal conflicts and polarizations that arise during creative projects like starting a podcast, how trauma disconnects us from our authentic selves, and the role of Internal Family Systems Therapy in reconnecting with self-energy. Together, they share personal insights on finding clarity, overcoming fears, and deepening self-awareness through IFS.

Key Takeaways:

1. Balancing Internal Polarities: We explore how internal conflicts, such as fear and ambition, can delay meaningful actions. Using IFS, we’ve learned to harmonize these parts to make authentic decisions.
2. Spiritual Healing and Trauma: I explain that addressing trauma involves both physical and spiritual healing. IFS provides a pathway to reconnect with one's spirituality and heal from past traumas.
3. IFS for Self-Connection: Tammy Sollenberger discusses how IFS aids in reconnecting with one's core self, facilitating deeper self-awareness and healing from trauma.

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In this solo episode of "Going Inside," I dive deep into the concept of Self and Self-energy in the context of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. While IFS often begins with discussions about our inner parts—like the perfectionist, the inner critic, or the inner child—I believe that the true heart of the model lies in understanding and accessing Self-energy. Whether you're familiar with IFS or new to the concept, this episode will help you connect with the innate wisdom and healing energy that exists within you.

Key Takeaways:
1. What is Self and Self-Energy?
2. The 8 C’s—curiosity, compassion, clarity, connectedness, creativity, courage, confidence, and calm—are essential qualities of Self-energy in IFS.
3. The 5 P’s—patience, perspective, presence, playfulness, and persistence—enhance our ability to connect with and heal our inner parts.
4. At its core, IFS is about cultivating love for ourselves and others, enabling deep healing and transformation.

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In this episode of Going Inside: Healing Trauma From The Inside Out, I sit down with Virginia Jenkins, a mindfulness-based IFS therapist, to delve deep into the complexities of resistance and how it manifests in trauma healing. We explore the nuances of why clients might resist taking care of their own parts and the importance of honoring resistance rather than bypassing it. We also discuss practical tools for both therapists and clients to approach stuckness with compassion and curiosity, rather than frustration.

Key Takeaways:

1. Honoring Resistance: Resistance in IFS therapy often signals deeper pain and unmet needs. It’s crucial to approach it with respect and patience, recognizing that it often arises from a place of deep emotional wounds.
2. Sitting with Stuckness: Virginia introduces a powerful exercise called "Sitting at the Wall," which emphasizes the importance of not pushing past resistance too quickly. This approach allows for the underlying grief and pain to be fully acknowledged and worked through.
3. How Therapists Work with Resistance: As therapists, it’s important to recognize when our own parts might be getting activated by a client’s resistance. By doing a "U-turn" and connecting with our own self-energy, we can better support our clients in their healing journey.

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In this episode of "Going Inside," I explore the differences and benefits of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy. Both approaches are effective in trauma treatment, but each has its unique strengths. I delve into how EMDR can help desensitize traumatic memories by engaging both sides of the brain, while IFS offers a more holistic approach, focusing on connecting with your core Self and healing internal parts. Whether you're dealing with trauma, anxiety, or relationship issues, understanding these therapies can help you decide which might be the best fit for your healing journey!

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In this episode of Going Inside: Healing Trauma From the Inside Out, I guide Sophia through our fourth Internal Family Systems (IFS) session together, uncovering the complex dynamics that have held her back in her healing journey. As she confronts the reality of her relationship with her mother, Sophia realizes that much of it is based on shame and avoidance. We work through this attachment in the session.

Key Takeaways:
1. Healing often requires letting go of unhealthy attachments, even with loved ones.
2. True growth comes from recognizing and embracing self-reliance.
3. Confronting uncomfortable truths can lead to greater emotional freedom and joy.

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