Episodes

  • Ep 207 - Why Therapy Fails: Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them

    Ep 207 - Why Therapy Fails: Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them
    Sep 19 2024

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. As experienced therapists with backgrounds in addressing trauma and mental health disorders, we believe there is hope and there certainly is healing.

    In this episode, we dive into the reasons why therapy can sometimes fail. We'll explore the importance of ruling out physiological issues, the critical role of the therapist-client relationship, and the impact of waiting too long to seek help. We also discuss the significance of session frequency, managing expectations, and the necessity of active involvement in the therapeutic process.

    Whether you're here to heal, better understand yourself, or improve your relationships, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate the complexities of therapy and maximize its benefits. So sit back, get comfortable, bring your trauma and your drama, and let's start healing. Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    18 mins
  • Ep 206 - People Hate this Tool-But it is Very Effective

    Ep 206 - People Hate this Tool-But it is Very Effective
    Sep 17 2024

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this episode, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, delve into an often-overlooked tool for mental well-being: journaling.

    Discover how journaling can help you calm the storm within your mind, process heavy emotions, and reduce mental overwhelm. Tim and Ruth explore different types of journaling, from managing immediate emotional struggles to using it as a daily habit for enhanced mental clarity and focus. They share expert insights, practical strategies, and personal anecdotes to help you effectively incorporate journaling into your life.

    Whether you're dealing with trauma, seeking better emotional management, or looking to improve your communication skills, this episode provides valuable guidance on how to use journaling as a powerful tool for mental health and personal growth. Join the conversation and start your journey towards healing today!

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    19 mins
  • Ep 205 - The Cookie Jar Conundrum: How Unresolved Tasks Affect Your Mental Health

    Ep 205 - The Cookie Jar Conundrum: How Unresolved Tasks Affect Your Mental Health
    Sep 12 2024

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts.

    In today's episode, we delve into how backlogged or unresolved tasks can negatively affect your mood and mental health. Using a humorous story about a cookie jar search, we explore the emotional impact of seemingly minor tasks that pile up over time.

    Join us as we discuss the importance of addressing these tasks to unburden yourself and improve your overall well-being. We'll share personal anecdotes, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you manage your to-do list effectively and reduce stress.

    Whether you're looking to better understand yourself or your relationships, you're in the right place. So sit back, get comfortable, and let's start healing together.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    20 mins
  • Ep 204 - Mastering Over-Communication in Busy and Difficult Seasons

    Ep 204 - Mastering Over-Communication in Busy and Difficult Seasons
    Sep 10 2024

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    In this episode, we dive into the importance of over-communicating during busy seasons. Using a hectic day from their own lives as an example, Tim and Ruth discuss how effective communication can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that everyone stays on the same page. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips on maintaining clear communication, even amidst chaos, and emphasize the significance of having grace and patience with your partner.

    Whether you're navigating a busy schedule or working through relationship challenges, this episode offers valuable insights on how to communicate effectively and maintain harmony in your relationship. Tune in to learn how to transform adversity into triumph and create meaningful, fulfilling connections.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    13 mins
  • Ep 203 - Mastering the Art of Sleep: Techniques to Calm Your Mind

    Ep 203 - Mastering the Art of Sleep: Techniques to Calm Your Mind
    Sep 5 2024

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. Each week, we bring you engaging conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you heal from the past, foster healthy communication, and develop enduring love.

    In this episode, we dive into a technique designed to help you fall asleep and manage intrusive thoughts. Building on our previous discussion about the "pink elephant" phenomenon, we explore how to redirect your mind from persistent worries by focusing on a simple yet powerful exercise. Learn how to use the alphabet to create a chain of words that will occupy your mind, allowing you to relax and drift into sleep. This method can also be useful during the day to refocus your thoughts and reduce anxiety.

    Join us as we guide you through this process, share personal experiences, and explain the science behind why this technique works. Whether you're struggling with sleepless nights or just need a way to calm your mind, this episode offers practical advice to help you achieve a peaceful state of relaxation.

    Thank you for tuning in to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. Remember, there's always hope and there's always help.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    12 mins
  • Ep 202 - Taming the Pink Elephant: Redirecting Your Focus for Emotional Clarity

    Ep 202 - Taming the Pink Elephant: Redirecting Your Focus for Emotional Clarity
    Sep 3 2024

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast dedicated to transforming life's challenges into opportunities for growth and healthier relationships. Hosted by licensed therapists Tim and Ruth Olson, this episode dives into the concept of "pink elephants"—those nagging problems that occupy our minds. Learn why focusing on these issues can heighten anxiety and discover practical strategies to redirect your thoughts and manage emotions effectively. Join us for expert insights and engaging conversations designed to help you heal from the past, foster healthy communication, and build enduring love.

    In this episode, Tim and Ruth explore how shifting your focus from persistent worries to positive distractions can lead to emotional clarity. They share personal anecdotes, practical advice, and even delve into the importance of order of operations in emotional management. Whether dealing with personal struggles, relationship conflicts, or parenting challenges, this episode offers valuable tools for navigating emotional turbulence. Tune in to learn how to manage your mind, calm your emotions, and approach problems with a clearer perspective.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    18 mins
  • Ep 201 - Transforming Communication: Subtle Shifts for Stronger Relationships

    Ep 201 - Transforming Communication: Subtle Shifts for Stronger Relationships
    Aug 29 2024
    We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. As experienced therapists with backgrounds in addressing trauma and mental health disorders, we believe there is hope and there certainly is healing. We've spent our lives supporting people through the ups and downs, and we want to share these insights with you. Together, we'll unravel the layers of personal growth, healing from trauma, and building healthy relationships. Each week, we'll bring you engaging conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you heal from the past, foster healthy communication, and develop enduring love. This podcast is your guide to transforming adversity into triumph, healing wounds and past trauma, gaining wisdom and insight, and creating meaningful, fulfilling connections. So if you're here to heal, to better understand yourself or your relationships, you're in the right place. So sit back, get comfortable, bring your trauma and your drama, and let's start healing. Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Hey everyone, welcome back to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast. We're so glad that you're here with us today. So in the last episode, we talked about communication and why word choice is so important and can impact your relationship. So we're going to continue that today. This will be part two of that. So far, we covered examples of constructive versus destructive word choice when we're talking about feelings, when we're discussing responsibilities, as well as when we're addressing concerns. And today we're going to pick up right there, but we're going to talk about subtle shifts in communication, as well as give you practical tips for communication in general. We just want to remind you that there are so many different nuances in communication. And when we see couples, a lot of times this is one of their main issues that they come in with. I'll ask them what they need help on, and a lot of times communication is their answer. And so when we look specifically at word choice, it's important because the words and the content matter, but really it also affects the emotional tone of the conversation. And it can positively affect it or it can negatively. So one clear example of this, and we used this in the last episode, but it's coming in and just saying what's wrong versus, hey, how are you doing? One is very assumptive and accusatory, and the other really comes from a place of concern and care. Or even just curiosity. And that leads to open dialogue and communication. So as we look today at those subtle shifts, one of the things that we want to look at is a request versus a demand. So an example of this would be, hey, would you mind helping me with the groceries versus help me bring the groceries in? And I know in the last episode, you talked about the pleasantries and the importance of that. And so I think that fits perfectly right here with requesting versus demanding. Oh, for sure. Because ultimately, the same thing happens in the end. There's going to be help with groceries, but there might be more begrudging help with the groceries, or there might be more irritable help with the groceries versus much calmer and more pleasant engagement with helping with the groceries. And again, one thing people can think is like, well, they should just grow up and get over themselves. They just need to come help the groceries. And maybe there's an element of truth to that. But again, you can smooth over a lot of potential difficulties by just being a little more careful and adding in a little more pleasantries into the discussion. And some of this is as simple as saying please or thank you. I think sometimes we get so comfortable with our spouse and I hear people saying, well, I shouldn't have to say all the extra stuff. They know what I mean. But in communication, it really is important to be intentional with your words. And some of that includes the pleasantries and saying please and saying things like, will you please help me with the groceries because just adding in that please or that thank you makes a world of difference. So another example of a subtle shift is expressing needs versus blaming. So blaming would look like you always ignore me when I'm talking to you versus being able to express your need. You could say, I feel important when you listen to me. There's something important I have to share with you. Could we find a time to talk without distraction? And I think one thing that's important about this is that one is coming from a place of vulnerability and the other one is being more aggressive and actually trying to hide or mask that vulnerability. And so when you're going from blaming, you're not really ...
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    22 mins
  • Ep 200 - Celebrating Milestones and Mastering Communication

    Ep 200 - Celebrating Milestones and Mastering Communication
    Aug 27 2024

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    Welcome to the 200th episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast! Join licensed marriage and family therapists, Tim and Ruth Olson, as they celebrate this exciting milestone and dive into one of the most requested topics: communication. With over 120,000 downloads, they express their gratitude to their listeners and offer tips on how to support the podcast further.

    In this episode, Tim and Ruth focus on the nuances of word choice in communication, discussing how small tweaks can significantly impact relationships. They provide examples of constructive versus destructive word choices in various contexts, such as inquiring about feelings, discussing responsibilities, and addressing concerns. Learn how to foster better understanding and emotional connection through mindful communication strategies.

    Stay tuned for the next episode where they will continue the discussion on communication, covering topics like requesting versus demanding, giving feedback versus criticizing, and practical tips for effective communication. Don't miss out on transforming your conversations and building healthier relationships!

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    23 mins