In this episode, I sit down with Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean, to discuss his journey from porn addiction to freedom and personal growth. Sathiya shares how he struggled with ineffective solutions and the shame tied to his addiction. Over time, he realized true recovery meant focusing on personal and spiritual development rather than just quitting porn.

We explore the connection between physical well-being and mental health, emphasizing how activities like exercise and journaling can aid recovery. Sathiya also highlights the importance of understanding one's identity and purpose, offering practical steps for overcoming shame and fostering a healthier lifestyle. Join us for a powerful and inspiring conversation on whole-man healing.

For more information on Sathiya and his resources, visit DeepCleanCoaching.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal journey of recovery from pornography addiction
• Ineffective solutions encountered during the recovery process
• Shift in focus from eliminating pornography to personal growth and spiritual development
• Connection between recovery, physical well-being, and mental health
• Importance of identity and purpose in the recovery journey
• The impact of physical activities on emotional states and lifestyle choices
• Neurochemical aspects of recovery and the concept of "red zone" vs. "green zone"
• Overcoming shame associated with body image and sexuality
• Practical steps for fostering a healthy relationship with one's body
• The significance of valuing one's body for enhancing relationships and personal fulfillment

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• Grace-Based Recovery Online Groups
• The Last Relapse* by Sathiya Sam

Related Podcasts:

• The Last Relapse with Sathiya Sam
• Helping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit
• Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors

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In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the crucial topic of expectations in marriage, focusing on the difference between assumed and discussed expectations. We share lots of personal stories and insights, highlighting how unspoken assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.

Our conversation focuses on the importance of open communication and dialogue to foster a healthier relationship. I reflect on my own marriage, illustrating how discussing expectations can transform a relationship from merely coexisting to truly sharing life. We encourage you, if you’re married, to engage in meaningful discussions about expectations to avoid the pitfalls of unspoken assumptions.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The distinction between assumed expectations and discussed expectations in marriage.
• The impact of unspoken assumptions on misunderstandings and conflicts in relationships.
• The importance of open communication and dialogue in addressing expectations.
• Personal anecdotes illustrating the challenges of navigating expectations in marriage.
• The influence of family backgrounds on partners' expectations and roles.
• The collaborative process of navigating expectations as a couple.
• The necessity of ongoing discussions about expectations as relationships evolve.
• The role of awareness and perception in understanding each other's viewpoints.
• Strategies for initiating meaningful discussions about expectations in marriage.
• The overall message that couples are better together through intentional communication and collaboration.

More Resources:

• The Deep-Rooted Marriage* by Dan Allender and Steve Call
• Renewing Us Couples Retreat
• Find a Counselor or Coach

Related Podcasts:

• Breaking Down Barriers: The Art of Active Listening
• The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight
• 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage

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In this episode, we invite back one of our favorite counselors, Jessica McDaniel, who runs a private practice in Austin, TX with her husband, Ryan. We dive into the crucial collaboration between therapists and pastors, especially when helping couples deal with infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Jessica shares how both therapeutic and pastoral support are essential for comprehensive healing. We discuss the importance of creating safe environments, clear communication, and breaking down the stigma around mental health in church settings. Jessica also offers practical advice for building strong, collaborative relationships between therapists and church leaders to better support couples in crisis.

To learn more about Jessica and Ryan’s counseling practice, visit McDanielCounseling.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Collaboration between therapists and pastors in addressing infidelity and betrayal trauma.
• The importance of integrating therapeutic and pastoral support for couples.
• Challenges individuals face in choosing between confiding in a pastor or a therapist.
• The divide between "church life" and therapeutic needs, and its impact on seeking help.
• Creating a safe environment for individuals to discuss sensitive issues with church leaders.
• The necessity of dual support from both therapists and pastors for couples in crisis.
• Addressing misconceptions and biases between therapists and pastors.
• The role of communication and regular updates in collaborative support.
• The stigma surrounding mental health issues in church settings and the need for normalization.
• Encouraging proactive relationship-building between therapists and church leaders for better support networks.

More Resources:

• Find a Counselor
• Couples Intensives
• Church Resources

Related Podcasts:

• Becoming a Healing Church
• Talking About Taboo (with Mike Novotny)
• Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?

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In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the emotional and spiritual awakening journey for men. We explore the challenges of emotional disconnect and the impact of societal expectations on men's emotional health.

Stephen shares insights on moving from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life in Christ. We emphasize the importance of expressing needs and feelings, and the courage it takes to wake up emotionally.

We share our own personal stories and practical advice in hopes to inspire men to connect more deeply with their emotions and relationships. Men, we invite you to join us on the journey of emotional and spiritual growth.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Emotional and spiritual awakening for men
• The journey from emotional disconnect to deeper engagement
• Coping mechanisms and their impact on emotional health
• The significance of expressing needs and feelings
• Societal expectations and their influence on men's emotional well-being
• The transition from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life
• The challenges men face in recognizing and articulating their emotions
• The role of relationships in emotional growth and healing
• The dangers of living in isolation and avoiding vulnerability
• Encouragement for men to embrace their emotions and seek deeper connections

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• Grace-Based Recovery Online Groups for Men
• 40 Days of Training for Your Soul

Related Podcasts:

• The Moment of Awakening
• Helping Men Practice Self-Awareness to Build Stronger Relationships
• Mr. Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection

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In this episode, I chat with Hadley Baker, who courageously shares his journey through sexual addiction and its impact on his life as a pastor. Hadley opens up about his childhood trauma as the result of an unwanted pregnancy, believing he was unlovable. Then came the early onset of his addiction to pornography and the eventual internal conflict of living a double life while in ministry.

He recounts pivotal moments, such as his spiritual awakening, the challenges in his marriage, and his path to healing through counseling and truly understanding God's love.

We also highlight the importance of authenticity and open discussions within the church to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. Hadley’s story is a powerful reminder of the need for grace, hope, and compassion.

To learn more about Hadley and get his book, No Longer a Slave, visit HadleyBaker.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal journey of sexual addiction and its impact on life as a pastor.
• Importance of discussing sensitive topics like addiction within the church.
• Influence of childhood trauma and family dynamics on self-worth and identity.
• Early exposure to pornography and its role in developing compulsive behaviors.
• Spiritual awakening and commitment to faith as a turning point.
• Struggles with living a double life while in ministry.
• Escalation of addiction and the cycle of shame and secrecy.
• The significance of counseling and understanding God's love in the healing process.
• Transition back into ministry after overcoming addiction and personal struggles.
• Advocacy for creating safe spaces in churches for open discussions about addiction and personal challenges.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• The Healing Church* by Sam Black
• SheRecovery: Porn Addiction Support for Women

Related Podcasts:

• From Porn Pastor to Pure Desire
• Reframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity
• Addressing Childhood Trauma in Men

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In this episode, we have back on the program our friend and colleague Andrew Arthur, a mediator specializing in faith-based mediation, to talk about the delicate topic of separation in relationships and how to navigate them with hope. We delve specifically into therapeutic separation, which is a process aimed at healing and potentially reuniting couples facing serious challenges like infidelity and sexual brokenness.

Andrew highlights the importance of having a support team, including counselors, mediators, and spiritual advisors, to collectively guide this tough journey for couples. We also discuss the emotional and operational aspects of separation, the need for individual care, and the crucial role of safety and trust in working towards reconciliation. It's a hopeful and insightful conversation for anyone facing relational struggles.

For more information about Andrew and his resources, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.

Topics Covered in the Episode:

• Definition and understanding of therapeutic separation in relationships.
• The role and importance of a support team during separation.
• Common reasons for couples to consider separation, including infidelity and communication breakdown.
• Establishing ground rules and expectations during the separation process.
• Overcoming obstacles to reunification, such as differing parenting styles and conflict patterns.
• The significance of safety and trust in relationships during separation.
• Steps toward reunification and the importance of joint work and assessments.
• The value of commitment to the therapeutic process and early intervention.
• The concept of forgiveness as a personal journey in healing.
• Resources and support available for couples navigating separation and reconciliation.

More Resources:

• Restoration Therapy* by Dr. Terry Hargrave
• DisclosureHope.com
• Find a Counselor

Related Podcasts:

• Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
• The Role of Boundaries in Marriage Restoration
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal

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In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with family, spouses, and God, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and mutual understanding.

We highlight the very real challenges and rewards of pursuing true oneness; it isn’t like flipping a switch and you will automatically achieve oneness. Oneness is a journey of growth and self-discovery. We invite you to reflect on your own relationships and seek deeper connections in your life. It’s a mission worth the journey.

To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Exploration of the concept of "oneness" and its complexities.
• Discussion of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy.
• The significance of personal experiences in understanding oneness.
• The role of vulnerability and mutual understanding in fostering deeper connections.
• The relationship between oneness and one's connection with family, spouses, and God.
• The importance of open communication and trust in relationships.
• The idea of oneness as a love story and a journey of self-awareness.
• The theological perspective on oneness, particularly in relation to marriage and divine connection.
• Reflection on the ongoing journey of growth and understanding in relationships.
• Encouragement for listeners to seek deeper connections and explore barriers to oneness.

More Resources:

• Free Men's Integrity Webinar
• Free Wives Betrayal Trauma Healing Webinar
• Sacred Marriage* by Gary Thomas

Related Podcasts:

• Are You a Loner or Connector in Relationships?
• Unlocking Greatness: Why Emotional Connections Matter More than Success
• Living More than a Love Story

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In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs.

Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion and pain she experienced, as well as her unwavering faith in their marriage’s potential for healing. Together, they discuss their path to recovery, the importance of honesty, and their mission to help others through their podcast, "Beyond Broken Vows." Their story is a powerful testament to redemption and hope.

If you are in a marriage that has experienced infidelity or other kinds of sexual betrayal, this episode will help you discover hope and insights for healing and restoration.

For more information about Johnny and Emily and their ministry, visit BeyondBrokenVows.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The impact of early exposure to pornography on personal development.
• The struggles and consequences of sex addiction within a marriage.
• The dynamics of anger and emotional turmoil in relationships.
• The process of deception and gaslighting in the context of addiction.
• The journey of healing and recovery from infidelity.
• The importance of open communication and honesty in rebuilding trust.
• The role of faith and spirituality in overcoming personal challenges.
• The significance of support networks and community in recovery.
• The decision to share personal stories to help others facing similar issues.
• The transformation of a relationship through vulnerability and shared experiences.

More Resources:

• Beyond Broken Vows Podcast
• Recovery Coaching with Johnny and Emily
• DisclosureHope.com

Related Podcasts:

• Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
• How Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal

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