What do you really need to feel like yourself again? In this final episode of our ego series, we reveal the CENTERED framework, 8 key abilities you need to build ego strength, stay rooted in your real, authentic self, and finally live in alignment with your values.

Do you know what your needs are?

Can you speak your truth without shame?

Are your choices led by values, or survival mode?

Listen to this episode to walk away with:

• A clear, practical framework for becoming emotionally steady and self-led
• Real stories of how we shifted from ego-driven patterns to values-based alignment
• Guidance to assess where you’re strong and where you’re still growing
• Encouragement to keep returning to your center, even when it’s uncomfortable

This is the episode that ties it all together. If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start leading from your center, this one’s for you.

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, doubting yourself, or thinking, “Wait… what just happened?” This episode of Self-Centered is here to help you put words to that feeling. In the third installment of our ego series, we unpack gaslighting—how it shows up both intentionally and unintentionally, and introduce four essential filters you can use to recognize it and protect your self-trust. This episode is especially for the overthinkers, the self-blamers, and the deeply empathetic souls who tend to abandon themselves in the name of love, peace, or understanding. You’ll leave with a clearer sense of reality, stronger internal validation, and tools to make yourself truly unfuckwithable.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

• The two types of gaslighting: intentional manipulation and unconscious distortion caused by defense mechanisms
• Why well-meaning people can still gaslight you and how to tell the difference
• The four filters of self-trust that help you discern truth, gaslighting, and genuine feedback
• How defense mechanisms like projection, denial, and minimization warp conversations
• Why logic doesn’t work on someone actively gaslighting you and why you must tune into your Internal Guidance System
• What it feels like to be around a fragile ego and how to stop abandoning yourself trying to be understood

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The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

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Ever wonder why someone flips out over simple feedback? Or why you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around certain people?

This episode breaks down how ego strength (or the lack of it) impacts your self-talk and emotional regulation, as well as how people perceive (or distort) reality and show up in relationships. Whether you’re someone who tends to spiral in shame or you’re trying to make sense of someone else’s defensiveness, we help you decode the emotional roots beneath the behavior.

YOU'LL LEARN:

• How a strong ego helps you handle feedback, self-soothe, and show up with integrity
• What a weak ego looks like in others (think denial, blame, and projection)
• Why fragile egos can’t handle feedback and often push others away
• How to tell if someone is emotionally mature or stuck in a primitive defense mechanism
• How trauma creates fragmented identities and fuels people-pleasing or narcissism
• What to look for when you’re trying to tell if someone is emotionally safe

This is a must listen if you’re trying to understand your own reactions and stop getting stuck in confusing, emotionally draining relationships. You’ll leave with insight, clarity, and the language to spot these patterns in yourself and others, so you can stop overfunctioning and start protecting your peace.

SOURCES: Excerpts read from the book "Psychoanalytic Diagnosis: Understanding Personality Structure in the Clinical Process" by Nancy McWilliams, Ph.D, ABPP

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The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

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