Episodes

  • The Narcissist’s Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns

    The Narcissist’s Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns
    Nov 13 2024
    Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy. Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy. As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth. Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves. Timestamps [02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism? [07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional [13:07] How your brain gets trained [17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists [19:45] The origin of narcissism [24:32] Journaling narcissists’ patterns [27:31] How to break narcissist patterns [33:20] Attachment styles [35:37] Therapy and narcissism [41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself [42:56] Chelli’s thoughts on PTSD [45:27] Trauma therapy training Notable Quotes “1% of the United States population is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.”“If you think there is an issue, you just need strategy.”“It’s important to talk to a therapist or do other kinds of holistic therapy as well.”“Do not go start dating when you are in the middle of a separation.” “You must work on healing trauma with trauma therapy.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW CHELLI: https://www.chellipumphrey.com BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/https:/www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue. ATTACHMENT STYLES: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence
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    52 mins
  • Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships with Coach Mireille Nicole

    Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships with Coach Mireille Nicole
    Oct 30 2024
    Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals can be a challenging and often emotionally draining experience. Finding your voice in these situations is crucial for maintaining your sense of self and making decisions that align with your well-being. It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior, understand its impact on your mental health, and develop strategies to assert your needs and boundaries. This process of self-discovery and empowerment can be both liberating and daunting, requiring courage, self-reflection, and often professional support. By learning to identify narcissistic traits, cultivating self-awareness, and prioritizing your emotional health, you can begin to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship and reclaim your voice in the process. In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Mireille Nicole, a certified relationship coach on a mission to empower women in their pursuit of happiness. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating narcissistic relationships, offering valuable guidance on trusting intuition, setting boundaries, and making crucial decisions about staying or leaving. Mireille shares her personal journey and professional expertise, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, healing, and maintaining a sense of fun in relationships. Mireille has been obsessed with anything romantic — books, movies — all of her life. Divorced [by choice] and remarried [but almost failed], she is now navigating "blended family" life with her soulmate. Having gone through a lot in the love department, she’s on a mission to help other women ditch the struggle and have their Happily Ever After. She holds a certificate in relationship coaching from IAP Career College and is a member of the IAPO International Association of Professional Relationship Coaches. In her spare time, Mireille enjoys mountain biking, date nights and being a mom. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [03:15] How Mireille became a relationship coach [08:35] Mireille’s pivotal moment in her journey [11:18] The variety of women coming to Mireille for coaching [14:06] Trusting your intuition [15:25] How to handle relationship issues [19:47] Having fun as a woman [21:14] Healing [24:09] Mireille’s thoughts on Should I stay or should I go situation [27:40] The decision to either leave or stay [29:37] The reality about boundaries [33:43] About Mireille’s life now [36:10] Having the tools to recover [38:17] Mireille’s mission Notable Quotes “Awareness is key.”“If your partner is not willing to do couples therapy, you are doomed.”“When you treat your husband like gold, he will act like gold.”“When you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems.”“You can make the decision to leave, obviously, if you are experiencing narcissistic abuse.”“Sometimes we need to focus really on ourselves and what we are doing and really detach from what the man is doing so that we can discover who we are.”“Boundaries are for you to express what you need and what you are going to do if something doesn’t happen.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW MIREILLE: WEBSITE: https://stan.store/mireillenicolecoaching FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mireilletheriault1979 YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@mireillenicolecoaching INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mireillenicolecoaching/
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    41 mins
  • Rewriting Your Life: Brooke's Secrets to Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma

    Rewriting Your Life: Brooke's Secrets to Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma
    Oct 16 2024
    Rewriting your life after experiencing narcissistic trauma in a marriage is a profound and transformative journey. Narcissistic relationships often leave deep emotional scars that can persist long after the relationship has ended, affecting one's self-esteem, trust, and overall well-being. However, true healing is possible through the powerful process of subconscious reprogramming. By delving into the depths of the subconscious mind, survivors of narcissistic abuse can uncover and rewrite the harmful beliefs and patterns instilled during their toxic marriages. In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Brooke Kekos, a trauma healing coach and a rapid transformational therapist who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Brooke, a survivor of complex PTSD and narcissistic abuse, shares her transformative experience of accessing her subconscious mind to rewrite her life story. Through her struggles with dissociation, self-doubt, and codependency, Brooke discovered the profound impact of positive self-talk and the power of challenging ingrained thought patterns. Her journey from victim to coach demonstrates that healing from narcissistic trauma is possible and that by carefully examining our thoughts and beliefs, we can break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse, reclaim our authentic selves, and live a very happy life. Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner, Brooke specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her personal path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication. A sought-after speaker, author, and fervent advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice. With Brooke as your ally, embrace a voyage of transformative healing, armed with potent tools, nurturing guidance, and profound revelations. Step into an existence where authenticity thrives, drawing soul-aligned relationships that foster your truest self. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [03:15] How Brooke got into coaching [07:38] Brooke’s Complex PTSD [12:36] How dissociation looks like in someone’s body [14:34] How it was like for Brooke to write her book [19:02] Does Brooke unpack people when coaching? [20:23] Rewriting our lives [23:03] Brooke returns to her family and church [27:13] Things Brooke talks about in her coaching sessions [28:36] Cutting ties [30:37] How Brooke rewrote her life by accessing her subconscious life [32:14] Talking and thinking positively about ourselves [38:55] Being co-dependent as mothers [44:17] Brooke’s final remarks Notable Quotes “A lot of times, you are always doing that thing you are passionate about.”“You don’t need faith for the whole staircase. It’s just that first step.”“Just be careful what you are thinking about because it might not be your thoughts.”“If you tell yourself the same thing every day, you are going to recreate the same thing over and over.”“What you judge in another is a reflection of what you judge in yourself.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW BROOKE: WEBSITE: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachinggoddess/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/brooke.kekos/
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    46 mins
  • Breaking Generational Curses and Healing Through Vulnerability with Gabi

    Breaking Generational Curses and Healing Through Vulnerability with Gabi
    Oct 2 2024
    In this episode, Laura talks with Gabi, an Authenticity Coach and speaker. She is Certified in NLP, Trauma Hypnosis, and Reiki Attuned. She hosts the Resilient Heart Podcast and is the CEO of her Agency, which has two parts. One part focuses on transformational healing work and healing retreats for women in beautiful locations. Gabi also owns Resilient Voice Media, a Podcast Production Agency. She believes sharing the messy pieces of our lives and how we overcame them creates connection, community, and healing. Her focus is to help the underdog, the one without a million followers on social media, have a powerful message, allowing them to take their small reach and make a BIG impact. She loves podcasting and helping men and women amplify their stories and messages. Today, Gabi shares her journey of healing from past trauma, breaking generational curses, and the power of vulnerability in relationships. She shares her experiences with domestic violence, becoming a single mom, and how she transformed her life. She further discusses the importance of healing, self-discovery, and sharing our stories to help others. Tune in now! Timestamps: [02:40] How Gabi got into podcasting and coaching [05:45] How different parts of the body store various emotional experiences [14:02] Gabi’s experience in an abusive relationship [20:32] The complex emotions survivors of abuse experience when their abusers die [23:17] How Gabi found her way into podcasting [28:00] The inspiration behind Gabi’s podcast "Resilient Heart" [31:04] The power of sharing your story and releasing shame [41:51] The long-term effects of abusive relationships on children [46:52] The importance of journaling and self-reflection [51:07] Importance of honesty in relationships [52:18] How to connect with Gabi Quotes: Too many of us think our stories don't matter. Our voice doesn't matter. Think that what we say or the connections we can build doesn't matter.I remember praying all the time; I just wanted peace. I just want peace. I just want this to stop. I just want this to not be my life.It's really sad because my story is not unique. There are a lot of women who have children in these types of environments, and it's because they're in environments where they're trying to escape, and there's a temporary safety in that place.It's such a beautiful thing to say, 'I'm so sorry.' Sometimes, we don't think what we did was a big deal, and then we hear it from them and what it did for them or how that made them feel.When we can sit down together and have, like, I'm sorry that I hurt your conversation, then it gives them the urgency to be able to have those conversations in their relationships and with children when they have them someday.We don't do anybody any justice when we lie to them and don't share the truth about who somebody was. RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW GABI: TIK TOK: TIK TOK FACEBOOK: FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM: INSTAGRAM LINKEDIN: LINKEDIN LINKTREE: LINKTREE
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    56 mins
  • From Victim to Coach: Netta's Journey Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

    From Victim to Coach: Netta's Journey Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
    Sep 18 2024
    Narcissistic relationships can be incredibly damaging, leaving survivors feeling confused, drained, and questioning their own worth. These toxic dynamics often involve manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse, making it challenging for victims to recognize the true nature of their situation and find a way out. However, recovery from narcissistic abuse is possible, and it's a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment. In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Netta, a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, helping women rise above narcissist abuse who shares her insights on how she got into the narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, her childhood behaviors, things she did in order to heal and loving yourself enough. Netta also sheds more light on forgiving and nurturing ourselves, red flags to look out for during early dating, putting yourself first in a good way, taking the steps towards healing, what to do when you get the desire to go back, and making the right decision for yourself. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [02:23] How Netta got into the narcissist coaching [06:48] Netta’s childhood behaviors [09:13] Does Netta talk about how she went from one narcissist to another? [11:51] The things Netta did in order to heal [16:05] Love yourself enough [19:20] How Netta decided to get into coaching [20:20] Is Netta still with her husband? [24:49] Forgiving and nurturing ourselves [29:25] Red flags to look out for during early dating [32:26] Putting yourself first in a good way [36:16] Helping support each other in the family [38:40] Beng disrespected by your kids and husband [45:06] Netta parenting her parents [46:53] Taking the steps towards healing [53:43] What to do when you get the desire to go back [56:51] Making the right decision for yourself Notable Quotes “We have to love ourselves enough to say. If they don’t like me, I still like me, and I am okay with that.”“You can’t be alone with 8 billion people on the planet.”“Those things that scare us often keep us in places longer than we should be there.”“What other people think of you is none of your business.”“It’s hard for us to think about putting ourselves first.”“Taking care of everybody at the expense of yourself in not a good thing.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW NETTA: Website 1: http://nettacoaches.com/ Website 2: https://nettaspeaks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam.nettaspeaks/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nettaspeaks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550204045460 Lee Hammock Video (Girl thrown into a lake): https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/reel/C-86QdZsXQ1/
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    1 hr
  • Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt: Breaking Free from Toxic Love with Stephanie

    Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt: Breaking Free from Toxic Love with Stephanie
    Sep 4 2024
    In this l episode, Laura speaks with Stephanie McPhail, M.S., an expert in toxic relationship recovery. With a Double Masters Degree in Health and Education, a Bachelor in Psychology, and certifications as a Crisis Counselor and Coach, Stephanie brings a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. As a Reiki Practitioner and author of the bestselling "Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt" book and workbook, she specializes in helping professional women rediscover themselves after toxic divorces or breakups. Stephanie, who has been interviewed on FOX and featured in New York Weekly, hosts a weekly cable show, "Kick Unhealthy Relationships to the Curb." She serves on the CORE counsel of Experts for Avaiya University and on the board of a non-profit. Today, she shares the complexities of healing after abusive relationships, discussing red flags, trauma bonding, and the critical importance of self-work. Stephanie shares important insights from both her personal experiences and her professional work, offering guidance on how women can rebuild their lives and find happiness, whether single or in a relationship. Timestamps: [05:04] Recognizing toxic patterns in various relationships [05:25] The importance of communication in relationships [08:53] Benefits of assertive communication in relationships [10:06] Benefits of rebuilding self-esteem after toxic relationships [15:39] Why people stay in unhealthy relationships [21:14] Understanding cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding [23:36] How narcissists can manipulate and control their partners [28:28] Focusing on self-healing rather than obsessing over the abuser [35:56] Building self-esteem and learning to set healthy boundaries [49:06] The importance of getting comfortable being alone Quotes: It's one of those things that we don't even realize how much it's affecting every area of our lives until we start doing the work and we're like I need to do something different here. And you're right. I think as soon as we start working on us, the people that have been taking advantage of those lack of boundaries don't like to stick around. You can either feel uncomfortable now or feel uncomfortable later. And if you feel uncomfortable later, that that tends to mean that we've been feeling uncomfortable for a long time and more bad things have happened.I think as soon as we start working on us, the people that have been taking advantage of those lack of boundaries don't like to stick around.We have to get really careful. 'Cause it can be a really slippery slope. We don't wanna live in researching about narcissism. We don't wanna become experts in narcissism because then you're just giving them more time and space.You can either feel uncomfortable now or feel uncomfortable later. And if you feel uncomfortable later, that tends to mean that we've been feeling uncomfortable for a long time and more bad things have happened. RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW STEPHANIE: Gift/book a call: Beinglovedshouldnthurt.com/thrive-guide 15 minute discovery call and free resources: https://www.beinglovedshouldnthurt.com/links Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beinglovedshouldnthurt/ Personal FB: https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.mcphail.10 FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/BeingLovedShouldntHurt Podcast: toxiclovepodcast.com Website: beinglovedshouldnthurt.com Book is available on the website or Amazon: Being Loved Shouldn’t Hurt
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    57 mins
  • One Year of Healing: Celebrating the Anniversary of That’s Where I’m At Podcast

    One Year of Healing: Celebrating the Anniversary of That’s Where I’m At Podcast
    Aug 29 2024

    Join Laura as she celebrates the one-year anniversary of the "That's Where I’m At" Podcast! In this special episode, Laura reflects on the incredible journey she’s been on since launching her show, created out of a deep need to connect with women recovering from narcissistic abuse. From the first episode to becoming a top 5% podcast, Laura shares how her mission to provide a safe space for women to speak their truths has evolved, the power of using her voice, and what's next on the horizon.

    In this Episode, You’ll Hear About:

    • Laura’s Journey: Discover how Laura turned her pain into purpose by creating a community for women recovering from narcissistic abuse, and why talking openly about these experiences is so vital.
    • Finding Your Voice: Laura discusses her own healing process and how reclaiming her voice has empowered her and her listeners.
    • What’s Next for the Podcast: Learn about Laura’s plans for future episodes, new collaborations, and upcoming projects, including a collaborative book and audiobook versions of her works.
    • The Power of Storytelling: Why it’s essential to tell your story, how it helps in moving forward, and debunking myths like “living in the past” that abusers use to silence survivors.
    • How to Support the Podcast: From leaving reviews to joining her private Facebook group, Laura shares how you can continue to support her mission and connect with a like-minded community.

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Books by Laura: Explore Laura’s healing resources, including “There is Hope: 52 Keys to Healing After Divorce” and “Married to a ‘Nice’ Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse.”
    • Amazon Storefront: Find recommended books, journals, and resources curated by Laura to aid in your healing journey.
    • Private Facebook Group: Join “Married to a Nice Guy” for a safe and supportive community.

    Connect with Laura:

    • Website: thatswhereimatpodcast.com
    • Social Media: Follow, like, and share on all major platforms to spread the message of hope and recovery.
    • Leave a Review: Your feedback on Apple, Spotify, and Amazon helps the podcast reach more survivors and build our community.

    Thank you for your incredible support over the past year! Your downloads, shares, and kind words have made this journey possible. Remember, your voice matters. Keep sharing your story because someone out there needs to hear it.

    RESOURCES:

    MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE

    PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
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    14 mins
  • Unmasking the Jokers: Our Guide to Overcoming Toxic Relationships

    Unmasking the Jokers: Our Guide to Overcoming Toxic Relationships
    Aug 23 2024
    In today's episode, Laura is joined by Monaca Vanderpool, an international podcast host, bestselling author, and highly successful entrepreneur. Monaca shares her journey through personal adversities, including a 13-year toxic relationship, an unexpected health diagnosis, and the challenges of single parenthood. She discusses how these experiences led her to write "Jokers Dressed Up As Kings" and create "The Glitch Mob Podcast" to support others navigating toxic relationships. Monaca highlights the importance of understanding narcissistic traits and behaviors, emphasizing the power of going "no contact" with toxic ex-partners and the effectiveness of "gray rocking" when communication is unavoidable. She also touches on the healing power of journaling and the value of sharing one's story to help others. They both stress the importance of authenticity in storytelling and not letting others' opinions silence them. They further touch on the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist and offer helpful advice for maintaining boundaries. Join the conversation now! Together, we can break the cycle of toxic relationships and empower each other to reclaim our lives. Your story matters, and your voice deserves to be heard. Join our community of survivors and thrivers today! Timestamps: [01:38] Monaca’s background and her journey [03:04] The importance of putting words to pain in healing [05:44] How strong, independent women can be targets for narcissists [07:34] Link between narcissistic abuse and the manipulation tactics used in cults [14:56] The freedom of and joy of leaving narcissistic relationships [15:36] How narcissists recycle romantic gestures as part of their love-bombing tactics [18:15] The importance of journaling in healing from narcissistic abuse [19:04] The positive impact of one person's courage on another's healing [23:03] Importance of keeping a list of abusive behaviors [27:42] The need to talk about narcissism and its impacts [29:56] How to handle communication with an ex when co-parenting [33:56] The gray rocking technique in managing communication with an ex [41:12] Monaca’s plans for speaking engagements and outreach Quotes: It's beautiful to have a strong, independent woman who has a powerful voice, but unfortunately, that makes us targets.Healing is not linear. Healing is so messy.Be yourself. When I started doing that, I started attracting people who wanted to hear what I had to say. Gray rocking feels good because you have become a better person. You do rise. You rise above it, and you become a better person. And it just feels good.You are not a victim of sharing your story. You're a survivor. Setting the world on fire with your truth. You never know who needs your light, your warmth and rage and courageWe all have a story to tell. And you're allowed to tell your story. That doesn't mean you're living in the past. And that's a manipulative word phrase to say to people. That's what toxic people say, to keep people quiet, that you're talking about the past.The beauty of the gray rocking is that they eventually lose interest because they know you won't react to them. So you're protecting your peace. Resources Connect with Laura on: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources BOOK COVER DESIGN ARTIST: https://amandapottsdesigns.com/ Connect with Monaca on: FOLLOW MONACA: https://monacavanderpool.com/ JOKERS DRESSED UP AS KINGS: https://monacavanderpool.com/bookmonica/ OUR FAMILY WIZARD co-parenting app
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    45 mins