Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love.

Show notes:
(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships
(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth
(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses
(10:23) The five fight languages explained
(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:51) Connection techniques for each type
(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps
(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love
(24:52) Outro

Digital Assets:
Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs -
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What if love isn’t just about chemistry but about shared care for the life you’re building? In today’s soulful episode, Emilia and Alan explore what happens when one heart holds a higher standard for health. From silent misalignments to moments of deep recognition, they reflect on how the wellness of the body, mind, and soul shapes connection. For those already walking together or those waiting for the right hand to hold, this conversation is a gentle nudge to lead with love, speak with courage, and choose a future built on intention.

Show notes:
(2:37) Who has the higher standard?
(4:43) Falling for potential in love
(6:25) Fitness values and misalignment
(10:42) What shared intensity reveals
(12:42) Brain health, memory, and love
(14:28) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(16:25) How health impacts the future
(22:48) Courageous conversations about wellness
(28:03) Systems that help love last
(30:45) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.

Show notes:
(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method
(6:10) Share emotions without fixing
(8:29) Why emotional timing matters
(11:52) How small annoyances become big issues
(14:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(17:39) Most people were never taught this
(20:43) Visualizing emotional balance with inside out
(22:13) Emotional Vs. Strategic relationship tools
(25:44) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

When we expect more than we give, love begins to crumble in silence. In today’s episode, Alan and Emilia unravel the quiet damage caused by unrealistic expectations. Through real coaching moments and heartfelt stories, they reveal how resentment grows where understanding should live. If you’ve ever felt the quiet ache of mismatched efforts, this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you home.

Show notes:
(2:59) Expectations and resentment
(5:54) Two types of relationship dynamics
(7:11) Everyday examples of unfair expectations
(8:30) How broken expectations hurt trust
(10:26) Generational patterns in relationships
(11:19) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(14:48) Platinum rule and relationship growth
(17:16) Leadership, self-awareness, and competence
(20:10) Conscious communication Vs. Outdated roles
(22:25) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Do you really know what love means to you, or have you just been guessing all along? In this episode, Emilia and Alan open up about their definitions of love and reveal why so many relationships suffer simply because partners never ask this one essential question. Through heartfelt stories, practical frameworks, and yes, even eagle metaphors, they break down what it takes to experience real connection, growth, and intimacy. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you reflect, reconnect, and grow.

Show notes:
(3:51) Lessons from 46 Relationship Events
(5:08) Love is growing together
(7:09) Emilia’s definition of love
(12:58) Soaring higher than the crows
(14:57) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(17:07) What quality time really means
(19:29) The three pillars of quality time
(22:54) Intimacy and emotional attunement
(25:51) Depth Vs. Surface-level connection
(30:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they’ll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.

Show notes:
(2:09) Blind spots and inner work
(4:38) Self-worth and admiration
(6:00) The long list of inner requirements
(9:53) Crossing personal boundaries
(12:58) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:31) Outsourcing emotional security
(16:43) Going deeper to climb higher
(23:22) Self-esteem’s impact on relationships
(25:58) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Pyramid of Fulfillment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/13zkiW6VZ5Rx0m87omHULzCsT8kOmmGf_/view

2. Pyramid of The Self - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1w5p656YRbF4dZ2KfZmU_Z_ROCQSJW-Rs/view

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Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.

Show notes:
(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition
(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call
(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships
(8:38) When support turns into control
(10:24) Building a growth mindset together
(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief
(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner
(24:26) Outro

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Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can’t talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.

Show notes:
(4:32) What is psychological safety?
(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships
(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection
(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support
(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner
(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up
(25:09) How to offer real emotional support
(31:31) Outro

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