Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can’t talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.

Show notes:
(4:32) What is psychological safety?
(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships
(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection
(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support
(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner
(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up
(25:09) How to offer real emotional support
(31:31) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they’re being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You’ll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don’t agree. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.

Show notes:
(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?
(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments
(7:38) Why your gut often knows first
(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse
(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long
(17:05) Unseen mistreatment
(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring
(22:52) Outro

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Assuming everything is fine in your relationship might be causing cracks to form. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan explore the silent relationship killer. They share real-life coaching experiences where couples unknowingly drifted apart due to a lack of communication and self-awareness. Together, they provide practical steps to help couples stay connected, set relationship goals, and ensure both partners grow together, not apart.

Show notes:
(4:05) Why discomfort leads to relationship growth
(5:34) A real-life example of a couple drifting apart
(7:35) The danger of avoiding hard conversations
(10:06) The cycle of ignoring problems until it’s too late
(12:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(16:42) How setting goals keeps you humble
(22:42) A simple gratitude habit to strengthen relationships
(24:46) Outro

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What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it’s too late? Many couples break up not because they don’t love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help
(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles
(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups
(9:50) What is psychological safety?
(12:14) Signs you don’t feel safe in your relationship
(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason’sestimLisa’son Alan and Emilia’s RelaEmilia’s Coaching.
(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship
(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner
(24:14) The role of personal growth in love
(28:40) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss a real-life coaching session where a couple had to choose between an African safari and their long-term financial goals. They break down the law of trade-offs, the importance of communication, and why mapping out dreams together is key. Whether your bucket list includes travel, personal growth, or big life milestones, this episode will help you find a way to make it happen—without sacrificing your relationship.

Show notes:
(2:32) A client’s bucket list dilemma
(5:08) Men’s perspective on bucket lists & practicality
(10:25) The law of trade-offs: Dreams Vs. Reality
(15:17) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(16:35) Why couples should use a shared whiteboard
(19:00) How a couple reworked their roadmap to make a dream happen
(23:19) Why do some dreams get suppressed in relationships
(26:50) How to strategically plan bucket list goals
(29:43) Outro

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Discover the roles that shape love and how to bridge the growth gap. In this episode, Emilia and Alan share clear, simple insights to help you strengthen your bond. They show how small shifts in daily habits might slowly change your relationship. With real-life examples and heartfelt advice, they introduce three key roles—pusher, nudger, and inspirer—that each partner might play. Their conversation shows how being aware of your actions and leading by example can bring you and your partner closer.

Show notes:
(2:48) Exploring three relationship roles dynamics
(3:19) Understanding the “60 rule” in relationships
(4:22) Daily connection and bridging the gap
(7:02) Moving from agree-to-disagree to true integration
(17:03) Identifying the pusher's role in action
(20:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(21:23) Explaining the nudger role effectively
(26:06) Learning the inspirer role by example
(34:21) Growth integration
(38:39) Outro

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Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you’ll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?
(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner’s
(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate
(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards
(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships
(24:26) How to start raising your standards
(28:10) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!

Show notes:
(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships
(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity
(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity
(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system
(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity
(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life
(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship
(38:55) Outro

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