Resentment can be a silent weight in many relationships, and for parents, it often feels intensified. In this episode, we dive into the roots of resentment in marriage, exploring how parenthood can uncover unresolved emotional wounds that surface when life becomes busier and more demanding. Whether it’s unspoken needs going unmet or feeling like one partner is carrying more of the load, resentment can subtly shift how we view each other and impact our closeness.

Today we find out why resentment builds, especially after having kids, and how it’s often a signal that something important needs attention. 🧠 More specifically, we take a look at:

• 💔 How resentment forms when life feels unbalanced
• 🔍 The surprising role old wounds play in current frustrations
• ❤️ Practical steps to address resentment and reconnect
• 💡 Ways to build a partnership that feels fulfilling and balanced

This conversation isn’t about blame. It’s about creating a more connected, compassionate partnership and breaking free from resentment’s cycle so you both feel supported. I hope you’ll join me!

— Mentioned Resources 1. Google: John and Julie Gottman - Relationship experts who research what makes a healthy relationship. 2. Couples’ Communication Checklist 3. Reconnect With Her CHALLENGE

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Learn more about your psychology in fatherhood [Episode on Patrescence] as well as your partner’s [Episode 1 on Matrescence] --- Full Transcript HERE. --- 📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! ---

Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

Curious about why your partner is so exhausted despite the help you offer? This episode delves into the unseen layers of mom fatigue and provides compassionate strategies to help you support her better whilst acknowledging the tough situation you, too, are in. We’ll explore the emotional and mental loads that weigh heavily on mothers, and how you, as a partner, can make a meaningful difference in her daily life. This episode is packed with insights to help you bridge the gap in understanding, improve communication, and bring renewed connection to your relationship.

What You’ll Discover:

• Why mom fatigue goes beyond physical tiredness and how it impacts your relationship
• The reasons why you may be triggered and hurt by her exhaustion
• How societal expectations and “the invisible load” affect her energy levels
• Practical tips to offer meaningful support without overwhelming or triggering her
• Ways to reconnect with empathy and strengthen your bond as co-parents
• How understanding her needs can also bring fulfillment to you

Discover small, powerful actions that can make a huge difference in how she feels — and in the strength of your partnership. Listen in for actionable insights and start building a more connected, resilient relationship. --- Reconnect With Her CHALLENGE --- Episode 1 on Matrescence (Apple player) Episode on Patrescence (Apple player) --- Full Transcript HERE. --- 📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! ---

Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

Today's episode is another coaching session, where we discuss how to mentally prepare for motherhood and the arrival of a new family member. Join me as I coach Lexi, a mom-to-be and stepmom of 2, through her journey of embracing a positive mindset and finding balance in a blended family. We discuss essential tips on managing family dynamics, staying flexible, and prioritizing mental health while preparing for a new addition to the family whilst exploring and maintaining how to be a supportive step-parent.

Whether you're about to become a new parent or are already navigating the world of step-parenting, this episode is for you! Lexi’s story will resonate with anyone who is balancing different family needs, managing a busy life, and trying to keep a positive mindset along the way. Get ready to take away real-life strategies for keeping a healthy perspective and creating a family culture filled with love, understanding, and flexibility. 💪🧘‍♀️👶✨

What You’ll Learn in this Episode:

🌈 How to cultivate a flexible and positive mindset

👨‍👩‍👧 Tips for managing blended family dynamics

🤔 Ways to address self-sacrifice and set boundaries

📅 Tips for preparing for motherhood

🧠 Mindfulness practices to reduce anxiety

💬 Open communication and family therapy benefits

💡 Realistic expectations when juggling multiple roles

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Lexi's Bio and Links Lexi Kelley Soderberg was burnt out beyond belief when she chose to leave the classroom. She changed her life by switching from classroom teaching to tutoring full-time and now helps other teachers change their lives too. Lexi is on a mission to improve every child's reading ability and empower every adult in the process of helping them. FREE Reading Tracker to set and achieve your reading goals:

https://poster.pages.teachertransformers.com/free-guide-1-3232 Interested in seeing if Teacher Transformers is a good fit for you? Book a free call here (https://link.webbrixx.com/widget/booking/pzTgKr8KyRPr6SYZYT7w)

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Journaling Exercise

To reflect on this and find balance in your own life, here is a journaling prompt: In what areas of my life am I feeling stretched thin? What are three small steps that I could take to seek support, create flexibility, or let go of unrealistic expectations? This reflection is designed to help you see where you can introduce some breathing space and allow for a gentler approach to the challenges you're facing. ---

Related Resources and Links

> FREE Self-Connect Calendar > FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child > (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist] > Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀 > FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to info@markellakaplani.com with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”

--- Find the full transcript HERE. https://docs.google.com/document/d/11OtZvbKyBPHIUhRK86I7YczpfWJliYaMfAL3A8BtyyE/edit?usp=sharing

— 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates. ---

Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

Feeling disconnected in your relationship after having kids? You’re not alone.

In this episode, we get real about the communication struggles that many couples face after becoming parents. Parenthood brings new challenges, and it’s common for communication issues to arise, but they don’t have to drive a wedge between you and your partner.

We explore the 3 most common communication mistakes couples make after kids, and most importantly, how to fix them. Discover practical ways to reconnect with your partner, establish healthy communication, and create a more harmonious family dynamic.

Join me to uncover how parenthood shifts the way we communicate and learn simple, effective strategies to rebuild that bond and strengthen your relationship.

Here’s the truth: You and your partner can still have a connected, thriving relationship, even in the chaos of parenthood.

My tools will help you enhance your communication and create a stronger, more connected family unit.

Today We Find Out:

🧠 3 common communication mistakes that couples make after kids 🔍 How lack of appreciation creates distance in relationships 💡 Practical ways to express your needs clearly 👶 How parenthood affects the way we communicate 💬 How to use “clear and compassionate requests” 🧳 The importance of gratitude and appreciation in maintaining connection 🧘 How to manage stress to avoid damaging conversations

This episode will leave you feeling ready to tackle your communication challenges and bring more balance and understanding into your relationship.

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Referenced Links

Couple’s Communication Checklist markellakaplani.com/coupleschecklist (Send me a screenshot of your Apple review at info@markellakaplani.com and get it for FREE)

Couple’s Communication Workshop markellakaplani.com/CouplesWorkshop Sign up for the waitlist and be the first to know when we go live!

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Journaling Exercise

As your journaling exercise this week, pick one of the strategies discussed in the episode and put it into practice. Write down in your journal whether you'll be using the daily appreciation ritual or the pausing before you snap, or whether you will be doing the weekly check ins. Each small step helps to build a stronger foundation for your relationship.

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Related Resources and Links

> FREE Self-Connect Calendar > FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child > (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist] > Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀 > FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to info@markellakaplani.com with the subject line “Podcast Guesting” > Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group

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Find the full transcript HERE. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Arefwmg49G5qXmJzzrdzR58MHqvt1zcthjgqeVHds8M/edit?usp=sharing

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🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates. ---

Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

In today’s episode, we dive deep into the fascinating topic of the 'othering' of mothers, exploring how motherhood often creates a distinct separation from womanhood and even fatherhood.

Inspired by a conversation I recently had with Jennifer Peterkin on her podcast The Human Experience, I question why society separates moms from other women and why similar spaces for dads are rare. Join us as we explore: 🌸 The difference between motherhood and womanhood and how becoming a mom often alters your social identity. 🤔 Why fathers aren't grouped or supported in the same way, and what that says about gender roles. 💡 How loneliness in motherhood may be a result of creating “special” mom groups. 🧠 The emotional impact of being defined by your role as a mom, and the grief many mothers feel for their previous selves. 🎙️ Allyson Felix’s story with Nike, highlighting the societal expectations placed on women post-pregnancy. 👨‍👩‍👧 How we can better support both moms and dads, so parenthood enriches rather than confines. If you’ve ever questioned how parenthood shifts societal views on women and men, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn how we can create inclusive spaces for parents that allow them to embrace all aspects of their identity. 💕

DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI VIDEO SERIES ON HOW MOTHERHOOD CHANGES US Find out why and how this happens in key areas of life, including your personality, your relationship, your work, and even your spirituality. Get it here for FREE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries *Be sure to check out Jennifer Peterkin’s podcast The Human Experience and follow her on Instagram @thehxpod. --- Journaling Exercise

Reflect on Your Identity in Parenthood

• How has parenthood shaped your identity? Do you feel that your role as a mother/father has changed the way you see yourself, or the way others see you?
• Do you feel 'othered' or separated from certain aspects of your identity? What parts of yourself, such as hobbies, work, or friendships, feel neglected or overshadowed by parenthood?
• What does support look like for you? Reflect on whether you feel supported as a parent and what kind of spaces or communities you’d like to see for yourself and your partner.
• What roles do you see for moms vs. dads in your community? How are fathers acknowledged, or not, in the spaces you navigate as a parent? How are mothers?
• What steps can you take to reclaim or integrate the parts of yourself that feel distant? How can you balance your identity as a mother or father with your other roles and passions?

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Related Resources and Links

> FREE Self-Connect Calendar > FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child > (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist] > Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀 > FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to info@markellakaplani.com with the subject line “Podcast Guesting” > Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group

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Find the full transcript HERE.

🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates. ---

Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach Matrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activist www.markellakaplani.com