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Many people have a hard time accepting the responsibility of being in control, so they yield this control to someone else. But no matter what, time is passing. You have the same number of days this month that anyone else has... You Have More Control Than You Think. Are you willing to take it?

The nice thing about working on your personal growth is that when you make a concerted, dedicated effort to improve some part of your life, there's an excellent chance that you will succeed in the long run. You may have a lot of gunk to clear out in terms of limiting beliefs, and you may be starting from a disadvantaged position, but given enough time, it’s entirely possible.

In this book you will learn all about how to make sense of infinite possibilities, love the chaos, find order and clarity despite chaos, stay or go decisions, what to do when objective reality beats you down, shedding personal weaknesses, EQing your life, turning weaknesses into strengths, how to address core weaknesses, how to work from your strengths and train up your weaknesses, how to move a skill to a different part of your brain to improve productivity, how re-framing fear could improve productivity, learning new skills, and the skill of calibration.

If you aren't satisfied with your life today, yet you continue the same habits that got you here, you’ll still be dissatisfied next year, possibly even more so. Many habits may feel quite satisfying in the moment, but they have no long-term positive impact. They are temporary pleasures or escapes but nothing more. These habits tend to self-perpetuate automatically, but as you become more conscious and rational, you’ll discover the importance of replacing these short-sighted habits with better ones.

After a tragedy or loss, your initial reaction is unconscious and instinctive. There isn't much you can do about that except to ride it out. But the passage of time will soon reduce the intensity of those emotions, and that's when you regain enough consciousness to choose your ongoing reaction. Now you have a choice.

This is a collection of writings by the world famous author Steve Pavlina. The following topics are contained in this audio recording: THE CHALLENGE OF CHOOSING THE RIGHT CAREER, BEING AN ACHIEVER, MAKE PEOPLE FEEL GOOD, SELECTING PROJECTS WISELY, TRIPLE YOUR PERSONAL PRODUCTIVITY, HOW TO BUILD A STRONG WORK ETHIC, HOW TO BEAT THE COMPETITION, PERSONAL BRANDING, WHAT ARE THE ODDS OF BECOMING A BLACK BELT?

I'll share the specific process I use to write articles, from initial concept to final publication, including the step-by-step details. If this topic interests you, hopefully you’ll gain some insights that will help you improve your craft of writing. I don't write the way I was taught in school, nor do I write like many people would expect. I can’t guarantee that my approach will work for you, but there’s no doubt that it works well for me. Obviously I write a lot, and I like to think I've gotten pretty good at it.

This is a collection of writings by the world famous author Steve Pavlina. The following topics are contained in this audio recording: Understanding human relationships, understanding family relationship problems, how to invite cuddling without inviting sex, how to decide when to end a long term relationship, ridiculously rewarding relationships.

Self-discipline is the ability to get yourself to take action regardless of your emotional state. Imagine what you could accomplish if you could simply get yourself to follow through on your best intentions no matter what.

You become an achiever by achieving your goals. If you achieve your goals, you're an achiever. If you don't achieve your goals, you're not an achiever. This is a simple, binary way to think about achievement. To achieve means to reach, attain, or accomplish. What you choose to reach, attain, or accomplish is up to you.

Many people fail with 30-day challenges, usually not making it past the first week. And the #1 reason for failure is that they didn't make a crystal clear commitment to do a specific activity for all 30 days. Giving your mind a clear enough commitment is a key to success with 30-day challenges.

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this: The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves.

Neurological imbalances can show up as psychological, behavioral, and motivational problems. If we try to treat these problems at the psychological or behavioral levels, however, we can’t effectively cure them because the problems have physical causes, such as a buildup of toxicity in the brain.

The typical American office worker only does about 90 minutes of real work per workday. The rest of each workday is largely spent on distractions like reading the news, web surfing, socializing with coworkers, snacking, taking coffee breaks, shuffling papers around, processing irrelevant emails, needless delay tactics, playing games, and daydreaming. Moreover, American office workers are among the world’s most productive. In many other countries, even less work gets done each day. This stat hasn't changed much in decades.

Many people ask me how to develop a better connection to their desires, passions, and major life interests. I know that a lot of people feel bored, checked out, and unclear about what goals to pursue. Let me share some of my favorite shortcuts to help you figure out what drives you.

When you desire to attract and meet a new relationship partner, a common approach is to be more social, start connecting with new people, and try to be as likeable as possible. I think that’s a mistake.

While I normally write for people who are interested in improving their lives, I’m aware that many are committed to the opposite path. These people deliberately decline steps that would lead to measurable improvements. They prefer that everything goes wrong - for as long as possible. Sometimes they screw up and accidentally do something right. They’re usually able to sabotage these unwanted successes in short order, but they like it best when they can prevent these positive experiences from ever happening in the first place.

Personal branding is basically the way you market yourself to the world. Your personal brand is what other people think of you. In some ways it’s outside your control, but you obviously have some influence over it. Personal branding is unavoidable. As others interact with you, they’ll automatically form mental associations that connect you with certain labels, often within the first few seconds. You can’t avoid being labeled.

One of the conscious growth principles I’ve been teaching for years is the principle of Love. This principle states that you’ll grow significantly faster - and enjoy the process of growth much more - when your life is rich in supportive, encouraging connections. People violate this principle constantly - and to their detriment when they do so. Partly that happens because they don’t understand this principle deeply enough. Consider two scenarios.

When you make a decision that goes against the grain of the prevailing social pressure in your life, such as by quitting your job to start your own business, there's a tendency to think of yourself as being rebellious, independent, willful, or just plain different. Other people may label you thusly, so you might start applying such labels to yourself as well. Be careful with this type of thinking though. It could have unwanted side effects if you go too far with it.