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Narrated by:
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Johanna Oosterwyk
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Elisabeth Sheff
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Marriage and monogamy are not what they used to be, and today many couples are opting to start families before getting married, or deciding not to get married at all. At the same time, gay couples in states that recognize same-sex marriage are getting married in droves. Some people prefer non-monogamy and have relationships that include swinging and polyamory. The landscape of American marriage and relationships is changing, and a variety of family systems are developing and becoming more common.
The Polyamorists Next Door introduces polyamorous families, in which people are free to pursue emotional, romantic, and sexual relationships with multiple people at the same time. They do it openly and with support from their partners, sometimes forming multi-partner relationships or other arrangements that allow for emotional and sexual freedom within the family system.
In colorful and moving details, this audiobook explores how polyamorous relationships come to be, how they grow and change, how they manage the ins and outs of daily family life, and how they cope with the challenges they face both within their families and from society. Using polyamorists own words, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff examines polyamorous households and reveals their advantages, disadvantages, and the daily lives of those living in them.
While polyamorous families are increasingly common, fairly little is known about them outside of their own social circles or of the occasional media sensationalism. This book provides information that will be useful for professionals with polyamorous clients, educators who wish to understand or teach polyamory, and especially people who wish to better understand polyamory themselves or explain it to their potential partners, adult children, or in-laws.
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- Christina Stone
- 11-17-22
Very Thorough
I truly enjoyed Dr. Sheff's compilation of research and interviews about different Polyamorous dynamics. I found her familial research to be the most thorough of any Polyamory books that I've read so far.
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- Mr.
- 12-16-21
Gives insight into the PolyFamily
I found much of the research presented correlated with other published polyamorous books. Unique here was the emphasis on poly families, parenting, and children. A worthy read for anyone interested in pursuing polyamory while also maintaining a healthy family that includes children.
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- Mapache
- 06-28-19
Good research, mediocre book
I’m happy that Sheff is doing sociological research on an understudied population, and I think she does a great job with her methods and interviews. The book, however, is somewhat uninspired. The first section, which tries to explain what polyamory is, was so concerned with normalizing it for a monogamous audience that it failed to capture the excitement that the polyamory community feels about the radical possibilities of this relationship model. I skipped ahead to the portion that was more interview-heavy and was happy with that, since it really is cool to hear people’s words reproduced in print. The book also suffers from quite a lot of grammatical and stylistic errors that should have been cleaned up during revision and copy editing. Hindering the experience further, the narrator is extremely dry, with an affect that could easily be confused with Siri. Not sad I read it, though! It’s worthwhile if you’re a sociology nerd like me.
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- diverge
- 01-17-23
Narrator is too dry
I honestly don't know about the content - it may be great - because I couldn't get past the very stilted narration. Ms. Oosterwyk's voice lacked inflection; it sounded as though she were simply reading something and just wanted to be done with it.
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- That Adler Woman
- 03-01-19
Wish there were more like this
This is the only book I've found on this subject which attempts to be objective and inclusive. Still, it only scratches the surface in it's review of a very diverse group of people living in a variety of non- traditional, non-monogamous familial arrangements. It does not consider at all polyfidelitous families, although somethings could be inferred. I hope the author continues her research and continues to publish.
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- Tired Wife
- 03-07-18
Well written.
I felt the narrator should have used more inflection, but it did not subtract from my processing the information.
If you're interested in Poly variations this is a great listen.
If you want to be poly try "More Than Two" or "Ethical Slut".
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- Kristin Bohr
- 08-06-16
Ugh the voices
The narrator uses very annoying voices for interview subjects. Nearly makes me wish I was reading with my eyes instead
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- ANNE R HARRIS
- 11-02-16
This is non-fiction, based on wonderful research
I've completed this audible book and have ordered the hard copy for our lending library. Elisabeth discusses her contemporary research on modern polyamory relationships, she reports on the experiences of persons within these new relationships, including those with a long term family unit structure, but of a non-monogamous style. There is a growing library of how polyamory works, but few have taken the time to do skilled and ethically based research into this not so new type of relationship, dare I say family structure, that is coming our of the shadows. Please give it a read. Share with others.
Anne R Harris, LCPC
Executive Director of the Montana Family Center
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- Anonymous User
- 12-07-21
Very insightful and comprehensive
I used this book for my capstone projecy in Psychology on Intimate Relationships. I found it incredibly helpful since it goes over different dynamics in Polyamourous relationships, including how children of poly folks feel about and fit into the family, joys, and pitfalls. I can't immediately think of any aspect I was curious about that wasn't at least touched on by Sheff. This proved an invaluable resource and I'm glad I found it. That being said the narrator left much to be desired. I found her voice to be dull in most of the text and often grating when a character voice was put on to distinguish members of interviews.
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- RachG
- 01-30-17
Great book on polyamory, WORST narration ever
What did you love best about The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families?
I really liked that this book uses real-life stories, interviews and case-studies to talk about polyamory. Pretty much every other book on poly is more theoretical, and spends a long time explaining what poly is for the uninitiated reader. This ones does that too, but it felt less tedious to listen to for someone who is actually poly, since they spent less time on that.
What other book might you compare The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families to and why?
The closest I can compare it to is More Than Two by Franklin Veaux. While that one arguably has more actual tips for poly relationships, it also did what I felt was a fair amount of brow-beating about things that could theoretically go awry in a poly relationship...I preferred this book approaching that topic via examples, instead of hypothetical scenarios. Overall this is a more interesting book, even though it might slightly less useful.
What didn’t you like about Johanna Oosterwyk’s performance?
Sorry, but to put it bluntly, this is the worst audiobook narration I've ever heard. I honestly thought it might be a computer generated voice for about the first hour, it's that robotic. Basically there are two modes of performance here: Over-annunciated robot voice, and then absolutely god-awful 'character' voices for the various people interviewed. Just like, cartoonishly bad. I physically cringed every time she does a new voice; impossibly, they actually worse as the book goes on. I really and truly do not understand how anyone ever hired this voice performer to narrate anything. Many times throughout the book, I contemplated turning it off and returning it, I don't know how I made it all the way through. Had the subject matter been less interesting to me, I definitely would have.
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