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He/She/They

How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

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He/She/They

By: Schuyler Bailar
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From a trans rights activist and athlete, an urgent guide that changes the conversation about gender identity.

Anti-transgender legislation is being introduced in state governments around the United States in record-breaking numbers. Trans people are under attack in sports, healthcare, school curriculum, bathrooms, bars, and nearly every walk of life. He/She/They compassionately addresses fundamental topics, from why being transgender is not a choice and why pronouns are important, to more complex issues including how gender-affirming healthcare can be lifesaving.

With a relatable narrative rooted in science, and history, Schuyler helps restore common sense and humanity to a discussion that continues to be divisively coopted and deceptively politicized. He/She/They is more than a book on allyship; it also speaks to trans folks directly, celebrating radical trans joy.

National Bestseller

Winner, 2023 Porchlight Business Book Awards

Longlisted, 2024 Carnegie Medals for Excellence in Nonfiction

Forbes 30 Under 30

©2023 Schuyler Bailar (P)2023 Hachette Go Gender Studies LGBTQ+ Studies Personal Development Social Sciences Inspiring Thought-Provoking
Personal Storytelling • Educational Content • Inclusive Perspective • Insightful Explanations • Intersectional Approach
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Both educational and vulnerable. Of all the books I’ve read I recommend this is a first read for anyone looking to answer questions they have about gender.

Educational and vulnerable

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This is a wonderful book! I just finished listening to it, and also purchased a book to highlight several parts where the wording, ideas and stories touched my heart. Thank you thank you thank you for putting your heart into this amazing resource for allies, parents and the world. 🏳️‍⚧️

Phenomenal book!

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Helped me learn so much about both one person’s experience of being trans and the challenges that society presents to people who aren’t cis/het. Generously written and narrated. Highly recommend.

Deeply insightful and illuminating

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Now over 80 years of age, I purchased this book because I wanted to learn more about transgender issues, which seem to be increasingly in the news. I was also curious about why everyone seems to be putting their pronouns after their names, as well as what those pronouns mean about the person.
In this book, Schuyler addresses anything anyone might wonder about transgender issues. It is immensely readable, human, and comprehensive. I highly recommend reading it to anyone who has any questions about what it is to be transgender and why anyone would change one’s gender. Schuyler describes how and why a transgender person might or might not choose to alter their external sexual characteristics, including their genitals. One of the first sections of the book discusses the assignment of gender at birth, often despite ambiguous genitalia, and before the full expression of sex hormones can occur. There is a large section about transgender athletes, which I found particularly illuminating. Lia Thomas’ journey was addressed in this book and anyone who wonders why she, a transgender woman, has been permitted to compete as a woman swimmer at the highest level of competition should read this book
The book concludes with how one might become a transgender ally; This may be the only way to stop the trend of harmful recent legislation against related issues, such as forcing people to use the bathroom corresponding to their gender at birth, and other issues the patriarchy seems intent upon.

A very comprehensive book about what it is to be transgender by a very articulate transgender man

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Liked it all. Very helpful read. Thank you, your book was informative and helpful. I want to read more.

The writer’s balance

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Great book. Very informative. Good story telling. Disappointed book does not include the PDF attachment for additional information as stated.

Informative

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Schuyler is unbelievably insightful and thoughtful, and I found his way of explaining each topic so inclusive and kind. As the mother of a trans child I was already an ally, but now I can be an even better one because Schuyler chose to let us in and share his experiences.

Truly Outstanding

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What a joy to listen to as you smile, cry, laugh and shout along the way. Wonderfully educational for the ally who strives to understand in order to help protect and support.

So beautiful and educational

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As a Latino trans man beginning my gender affirmation journey, I really appreciated the intersectional scope Schuyler provided. He’s such an inspiration to our community and I love seeing trans content that isn’t made by a white person. Such an educational reas for cis and trans folk❤️🏳️‍⚧️

Amazing take on trans existence!

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A memoir of love, pain, joy, education, fear, hope, and a future of being trans.

Love my Trans Family

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