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Wind Goodfriend
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Do you find yourself regularly sacrificing your own wants and needs to make others happy? Do people take advantage of your desire to be helpful? Are you becoming exhausted or resentful from meeting the demands—real or assumed—of others? In other words, are you a perpetual people pleaser?
We all want to be liked and appreciated by the people around us, but some of us may let this desire dictate our choices and behaviors in a way that can become unhealthy. In How to Stop People-Pleasing, psychology professor Dr. Wind Goodfriend examines what drives many of us to sacrifice our well-being to please others and offers guidance on how you can set healthy boundaries and start prioritizing yourself. In five illuminating lectures, Dr. Goodfriend will help you understand where the approval-seeking impulse comes from, why some of us are so susceptible to it, the steps you can take to develop your confidence and sense of self, and ways you can enforce your newfound freedom from the expectations of others.
As Dr. Goodfriend teaches you how to tackle the three components that fuel people-pleasing—mindset, habits, and feelings—you will see how, despite your best efforts to be what everyone needs you to be, you ultimately can’t control what other people think of you. With the tools and perspectives provided in this course, you can break the damaging cycle of self-sacrifice and resentment and make the changes to become a better, healthier version of yourself.
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- Leah H.
- 10-08-24
I enjoyed it and learned from it.
It was interesting to hear from an author who did not suffer from confidence issues herself but who can approach confidence and boundaries from the perspective of a professor and researcher. Not experiencing it yourself doesn’t mean you cannot understand a subject, and the author has a very comfortable grasp on this topic. As she says herself you can take it or leave it if her POV on the subject doesn’t appeal to you or help, but I thought it was an interesting perspective.
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- Jeff
- 01-07-25
Very useful
The course was very useful and what made it more interesting was that the lecturer thought some practical techniques to achieve the desired goal
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- jacob greenleaf
- 11-29-24
Clear and conscience
This audio book takes the angle of research and data pairing it with real life examples. I enjoyed listening, and I’ve gained perspective. I have used this information immediately, and I feel confident about my future.
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- Justin Abel Nordstrom
- 09-20-24
concise and eye-opening discussion of psychological theory and real world application
I really enjoyed this audio course. it combined academic research with a number of useful surveys. the author shared her personal example but highlighted and concisely summarized several research studies. this was much more than an autobiographical self-help course. it was a fantastic blend of Empirical research individual application. highly recommended.
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- Eileen J.
- 12-15-24
Life changing for this life long people pleaser
I come from a long line of females who do everything for everyone, and suffer depression and anxiety disorders as a result. Guilt, perfectionism, shame, you name it. It’s a way of life. But this incredible course has already provided me with a new path forward. Not only does the course provide necessary insight into why we develop these habits and patterns, it provides “training wheels” so we can take what we learn and use it in our lives. It’s so so good!
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- Julia Sorsa
- 02-25-25
Very explanatory
This is really good for someone trying to understand their people pleasing tendencies better, but it wasn't really until the last chapter that we explore how to stop so there wasn't a big focus on what to actually do
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- dc customer
- 11-12-24
Author's Disclaimer unecessary..Text obviates lack of experiential knowledge
This is a very superficial and unempathetic look at this topic. The last chapter is particularly insulting to reader's intelligence and challenges with people pleasing. After 3 superficial chapters that ite no ver information about the topic, the author proposes very, again, superficially designed behavior modification techniques. It is insulting because if the reader had not already tried, through force of will and trying to change thought patterns, to let go of people pleasing behavior, this could be potentially minimally interesting but the fact is that if you are reading this book, you probably already tried these superficial methods. Behavior change works for things that are not rooted in deep psychological wounds, trauma, and other wise subconscious parts of ourselves. Use this book only as a 1st introduction (academic and Not therapeutic) to the topic of people pleasing.... or just get the same Shallow understanding from those superficial websites like Healthline.
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- robert assa
- 01-12-25
Fake guidance
Didn't give impression that real study was done on the subject, background can't replace data. Felt like pulling from the hip.
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