
It's Better to Bite Your Tongue than Eat Your Words
The No-Regrets Guide to Better Conversations
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Mike Bechtle
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Dr. Mike Bechtle
About this listen
Ever come away from a conversation wishing you'd said something differently, something else, or just something? We've all had conversations that took an unproductive turn or avoided conversations that really needed to happen. If you want to become a better communicator, Dr. Mike Bechtle has good news: The art of confident conversation is something you can develop through simple, repeatable habits. In this book, he shows you how to:
- Embrace your temperament.
- Overcome feelings of intimidation.
- Choose the right words at the right time.
- Speak up for others and yourself.
- And much more
Say good-bye to fear, regret, and "I should (or shouldn't) have said that". Say hello to intentional, appropriate, timely conversations that get your point across even as they build relationships. This book provides mastery of the skills of confident communication in any situation.
©2022 Mike Bechtle (P)2022 eChristianListeners also enjoyed...
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- Carri Moser Camp
- 03-10-22
Too bad I didn't find this sooner🥰😇
Communication is a difficult challenge when you have Complex PTSD.
This is a practical solution to process your molecules of emotions.
The key elements to improve your quality of life and they have to do with WORDS and how you use them.
Well done 👏..so glad I found you In the Christian Living magazine 🙏🤗
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- Amazon Customer
- 12-03-22
Awesome Book!
I highly recommend this book. A lot of good thoughts and guidance is offered in its content
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