
It's Not Just You
Freeing Women to Talk About Sexual Sin and Fight It Well
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Ashley Chesnut
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There's no way other women are struggling sexually like I am. Who could I even talk to about this? Isn't this a guy's issue?
For too long, Christian women have assumed they’re outliers in their sexual struggles. This assumption (along with shame) often keeps them silent, leaving them to face the battle all by themselves. But if any of this sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Whether your struggles take the form of masturbation, pornography, same-sex attraction, or sexual fantasies, it’s not just you. These temptations are common not only for men in the church, but many women, too.
So how do we fight against sexual sin as women? What do we do when there’s a disconnect between what the Bible says and how we live and feel? Or, if we lead a woman struggling in this way, how do we aid her in the battle? Written from the trenches of ministering to young women, young adult minister Ashley Chesnut explores why sexual sin is “sin” in the first place, what sex really is, and how Scripture speaks into topics like masturbation, oral sex, and sex robots - even when those words aren’t found in the Bible.
God has already won the war against sin, and as you examine his word along with Ashley, you’ll be equipped to battle against sexual sin and to aid other sisters in the fight.
No, it’s not just you. And yes, you can take steps toward victory. Right now.
©2021 Ashley Chesnut (P)2021 B&H PublishingListeners also enjoyed...
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