
No Visible Bruises
What We Don't Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us
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Rachel Louise Snyder
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An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors.
We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a 'global epidemic'. In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem.
In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths - that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence.
Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society and what it will take to truly address it.
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Trauma and Recovery is revered as the seminal text on understanding trauma survivors. By placing individual experience in a broader political frame, Harvard psychiatrist Judith Herman argues that psychological trauma is inseparable from its social and political context. Drawing on her own research on incest, as well as a vast literature on combat veterans and victims of political terror, she shows surprising parallels between private horrors like child abuse and public horrors like war.
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Answers to many "why" questions.
- By Bruja on 06-21-22
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Why Does He Do That?
- Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
- By: Lundy Bancroft
- Narrated by: Peter Berkrot
- Length: 13 hrs and 32 mins
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He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship.
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I needed this.
- By james p weiss on 09-07-17
By: Lundy Bancroft
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But I Love Him: A True Story of Love, Pain and Domestic Violence
- By: Michelle Jewsbury
- Narrated by: Brenda G Brown
- Length: 4 hrs and 11 mins
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As her weak and battered body lay paralyzed on the mattress in her master bedroom, Michelle's boyfriend’s blood dripped from the lacerations on his hands onto her bruised and mangled face... I Love Him is a painful yet inspirational true story of a strong, independent woman caught in the horrifying cycle of domestic violence and how she got out.
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Wow!
- By Amanda Red on 12-09-20
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What We've Lost Is Nothing
- A Novel
- By: Rachel Louise Snyder
- Narrated by: Rachel Louise Snyder
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Nestled on the edge of Chicago's gritty west side, Oak Park is a suburb in flux. To the west, theaters and shops frame posh houses designed by Frank Lloyd Wright. To the east lies a neighborhood still recovering from urban decline. In the center of the community sits Ilios Lane, a pristine cul-de-sac dotted with quiet homes that bridge the surrounding extremes of wealth and poverty. On the first warm day in April, Mary Elizabeth McPherson, a lifelong resident of Ilios Lane, skips school with her friend Sofia.
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No plot
- By Serendipity.HH on 04-24-25
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Reading Lolita in Tehran
- A Memoir in Books
- By: Azar Nafisi
- Narrated by: Azar Nafisi
- Length: 17 hrs and 36 mins
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Every Thursday morning for two years in the Islamic Republic of Iran, a bold and inspired teacher named Azar Nafisi secretly gathered seven of her most committed female students to read forbidden Western classics. As Islamic morality squads staged arbitrary raids in Tehran, fundamentalists seized hold of the universities, and a blind censor stifled artistic expression, the girls in Azar Nafisi's living room risked removing their veils and immersed themselves in the worlds of Jane Austen, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Henry James, and Vladimir Nabokov.
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A literary critique of Russian lit.
- By Amazon Customer on 04-15-16
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Entitled
- How Male Privilege Hurts Women
- By: Kate Manne
- Narrated by: Cynthia Farrell
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In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to “Cat Person” and the political misfortunes of Elizabeth Warren, Manne’s book shows how privileged men’s sense of entitlement - to sex, yes, but more insidiously to admiration, care, bodily autonomy, knowledge, and power - is a pervasive social problem with often devastating consequences.
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New to the subject
- By Bruno on 08-20-20
By: Kate Manne
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Fantasy Island
- Colonialism, Exploitation, and the Betrayal of Puerto Rico
- By: Ed Morales
- Narrated by: Sean Duffy
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In Fantasy Island, Ed Morales traces how, over the years, Puerto Rico has served as a colonial satellite, a Cold War Caribbean showcase, a dumping ground for US manufactured goods, and a corporate tax shelter. He also shows how it has become a blank canvas for mercenary experiments in disaster capitalism on the frontlines of climate change, hamstrung by internal political corruption and the US federal government's prioritization of outside financial interests.
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Gringo Narrattion
- By shakira julia on 02-08-21
By: Ed Morales
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Coercive Control
- Breaking Free from Psychological Abuse
- By: Lauren Kozlowski, Escape the Narcissist
- Narrated by: Stephanie Murphy
- Length: 1 hr and 48 mins
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Coercive control will see an abuser dominate their victim's life, from the food they eat, the people they see, the places they can go, and the things they can say. A controlling partner, through fear and intimidation, will seek to ensure their victim is subdued, to the point of accepting any and all abuse that's fired their way.
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Good book - author needs some gender empathy
- By Amazon Customer on 07-06-21
By: Lauren Kozlowski, and others
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Everything I Never Dreamed
- My Life Surviving and Standing Up to Domestic Violence
- By: Ruth M. Glenn
- Narrated by: Ruth M. Glenn
- Length: 10 hrs and 23 mins
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Ruth M. Glenn wasn’t surprised the first time her husband beat her. She was hurt and disappointed but after a childhood in a broken and violent home, she was not surprised. After all, this was just the way things were, right? It was only after she lay bleeding in a carwash parking lot, after being shot three times by him, that Glenn resolved—if she managed to survive—to spend the rest of her life standing up to domestic violence.
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he incredible story of survival and thriving after domestic violence.
- By Gaylene Sevy on 05-08-24
By: Ruth M. Glenn
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Invisible Chains
- Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship
- By: Lisa Aronson Fontes PhD
- Narrated by: Joell A. Jacob
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When you are showered with attention, it can feel incredibly romantic and can blind you to hints of problems ahead. But what happens when attentiveness becomes domination? In some relationships, the desire to control leads to jealousy, gaslighting, threats, micromanaging - even physical violence. If you or someone you care about are trapped in a web of coercive control, this audiobook provides answers, hope, and a way out.
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Eye Opening
- By Dani on 09-05-24
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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
- How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Deanna Hurst
- Length: 10 hrs and 2 mins
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The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what emotional abuse is and what to do about it.
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Amazing SELF GROWTH
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Not the End of the World
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- Narrated by: Hannah Ritchie PhD
- Length: 9 hrs and 26 mins
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It’s become common to tell kids that they’re going to die from climate change. We are constantly bombarded by doomsday headlines that tell us the soil won’t be able to support crops, fish will vanish from our oceans, and that we should reconsider having children.
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Environmental Sustainability Analysis
- By RM on 04-16-24
By: Hannah Ritchie
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- Kyley Trimm
- 07-01-21
Learned so much, one bone to pick
I learned so much from this book, especially since it explains so much about the mentality of the abused. It is easy for people to say "if it was that bad, she would leave", but now I know that in most cases they stay because they are bargaining for their life and/or trying to give stability to their children. I would have never understood why the abused stay without this book. This book has given invaluable knowledge that I hope will make me better both professionally and personally. I have only one bone to pick: as a woman who owns an AR 15 and is planning on purchasing a hand gun, I hated that this book mentioned multiple times that the problem is the guns. Twice it mentions that there was a study where a guy asked 14 prisoners who murdered their spouses if they would have killed their wives if they didn't have a gun and 11 said "no". There is literally no way to prove that they would/or would not have killed their spouse without a gun, and I would take a murderer's words with a grain of salt. Also, in the afterward it mentioned that France and Spain have rising domestic violence, these two countries have some of the strictest gun laws in Europe, but don't take my word for it look it up. The problem begins with youth seeing violence and normalizing violence until adulthood, this book made that very evident. We need schools to teach the elements of healthy realtionships for both male and female adolescents. I feel empowered with my guns, and I truly believe that guns are the great equalizer. Guns can empower women if they go through training on how to use it and when to use it, especially women who have fled a domestic violence relationship and are starting their new life without the abuser. There are plenty of places that train women specifically on how to use guns, what kind is right for them, and when to use it. Other than the anti-gun agenda, I have gained invaluable knowledge from this book and will continue to reflect on all of these women's stories in hopes that one day domestic violence will have ZERO tolerance in our society. Thank you Rachel Snyder for sharing these stories and bringing light to this topic.
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- AvidReader
- 06-11-20
A must read for everyone
The statistics will blow your mind. This extremely timely book answers both questions: Why she stays and Why he doesn't leave and offers ways to help them both escape alive.
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- Saul LM Prombaum
- 08-15-19
A book with the power to transform men.
Any man who truly wants to be a better man, a more supportive partner and an effective parent, but doesn't know where to begin, should start with this book.
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- Anonymous User
- 07-13-19
loved it engaging interesting
I t reminds me to never get into an abusive relationshipever again.I can be miserable by myself .this book was a wake-up call for me.I t was very helpful to me.
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- Mamaneedscoffee
- 07-14-23
Abuse
As a person who is a survivor of abuse, this book helped me recognize signs of abuse I have experienced. I know I’m not alone.
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- Brandi Bhojwani
- 10-31-23
Should be required
An absolute must read for anyone who thinks they know anything about domestic violence. Amazing job Rachel.
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- Amy C
- 06-04-19
so much great information
This books contains a ton of information. I was so happy to learn far more then I could have ever imagine about domestic abuse, those working with these population etc..
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- Jennifer Lewis
- 06-09-24
On Point
A must read. Domestic Violence is truly an epidemic. No Visable Bruises gives us a better understanding of the necessity to do something systemic.
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- Emily Hodge
- 02-02-21
Life changing
Well written, engaging research, important message. This book is the best I have ever read on this subject.
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- Elizabeth Westbrook
- 08-14-19
Should be required reading
Every lawmaker and law enforcer should read No Visible Bruises. I prodescuted DV and worked with DV populations in college and while I felt I knew a lot going into this book, Snyder’s comprehensive research and ability to look at the epidemic from all angles sheds new light on the factors that lead to abuse and the challenges of confronting it. This incredible book has inspired me to want to return to my previous work in DV, it feels so critical.
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