
Relinquished
The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood
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Gretchen Sisson
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FINALIST, NONFICTION, NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARDS, 2024
FINALIST, 2024 GODDARD RIVERSIDE STEPHAN RUSSO BOOK PRIZE FOR SOCIAL JUSTICE
"Essential reading."—NPR “Books We Love”
“Dares to imagine a different world where Americans treat adoption like the justice issue it is.”―Washington Post
“Impressively reported…[Sisson] uses her deep well of knowledge to make the case that adoption is no solution for Americans’ reduced access to abortion.”―San Francisco Chronicle
A powerful decade-long study of adoption in the age of Roe, revealing the grief of the American mothers for whom the choice to parent was never real
Adoption has always been viewed as a beloved institution for building families, as well as a mutually agreeable common ground in the abortion debate, but little attention has been paid to the lives of mothers who relinquish infants for private adoption. Relinquished reveals adoption to be a path of constrained choice for those for whom abortion is inaccessible, or for whom parenthood is untenable. The stories of relinquishing mothers are stories about our country's refusal to care for families at the most basic level, and to instead embrace an individual, private solution to a large-scale, social problem.
With the recent decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization revoking abortion protections, we are in a political moment in which adoption is, increasingly, being revealed as an institution devoted to separating families and policing parenthood under the guise of feel-good family-building. Rooted in a long-term study, Relinquished features the in-depth testimonies of American mothers who placed their children for domestic adoption. The voices of these women are powerful and heartrending; they deserve to be heard.
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- Narrated by: Anne Heffron
- Length: 5 hrs and 55 mins
- Unabridged
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Can writing your story save your life? I should have come with a manual. My parents thought they were getting one thing when they adopted me - a baby of their own - when what they got was a human being with a story of her own. As a child, I traded safety for silence. As an adult, I had no idea who I was, why I quit nearly everything I started, why I struggled with things that came more easily to my friends (jobs, relationships, finances, self-esteem), why I seemed hell-bent on throwing myself away.
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Courageous and raw
- By Christine Warmus Murphy on 08-30-19
By: Anne Heffron
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I Would Meet You Anywhere
- A Memoir (Machete)
- By: Susan Kiyo Ito
- Narrated by: Kathleen Li
- Length: 8 hrs and 12 mins
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Growing up with adoptive nisei parents, Susan Kiyo Ito knew only that her birth mother was Japanese American and her father White. But finding and meeting her birth mother in her early 20s was only the beginning of her search for answers, history, and identity. Though the two share a physical likeness, an affinity for ice cream, and a relationship that sometimes even feels familial, there is an ever-present tension between them, as a decades-long tug-of-war pits her birth mother’s desire for anonymity against Ito’s need to know her origins, to see and be seen.
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Lovely and heart-wrenching
- By Patti Simmons on 11-14-23
By: Susan Kiyo Ito
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The Adoptee's Journey
- From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment
- By: Cameron Lee Small
- Narrated by: Cameron Lee Small
- Length: 7 hrs and 46 mins
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Adoption is often framed by happy narratives, but the reality is that many adoptees struggle with unaddressed trauma and issues of identity and belonging. Adoptees often spend the majority of their youth without the language to explore the grief related to adoption or the permission to legitimize their conflicting emotions. Adoptee and counselor Cameron Lee Small names the realities of the adoptee's journey, narrating his own and other adoptees' stories in all their complexity.
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The Adoptees Journey
- By Deborah on 04-29-25
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Broken
- Transforming Child Protective Services—Notes of a Former Caseworker
- By: Jessica Pryce
- Narrated by: Deanna Anthony
- Length: 8 hrs and 10 mins
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Joining the ranks of Evicted and The New Jim Crow, a former caseworker’s searing, clear-eyed investigation of the child welfare system—from foster care to incarceration—that exposes the deep-rooted biases shaping the system, witnessed through the lives of several Black families.
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Loved This Book, I Finished It Within 24 Hours.
- By Dez on 01-18-25
By: Jessica Pryce
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Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
- By: Sherrie Eldridge
- Narrated by: Rosemary Benson
- Length: 6 hrs and 58 mins
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The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame. With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the 20 complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love.
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The glass is half empty.
- By stephen blackwell on 07-19-24
By: Sherrie Eldridge
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Confessions of an Adoptive Parent
- Hope and Help from the Trenches of Foster Care and Adoption
- By: Mike Berry
- Narrated by: Lloyd James
- Length: 5 hrs and 47 mins
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Adopting or fostering a child brings its own unique set of challenges only another parent facing the same uphill climb could possibly understand. From parenting children with traumatic pasts, to dealing with attachment issues, to raising a children with special needs, it can sometimes be a struggle just getting through the day. Mike Berry knows the loneliness and isolation you can easily feel in your particular parenting role - because he's been there.
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This book is total garbage; Would not recommend.
- By Kevin on 02-22-19
By: Mike Berry
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Blood
- The Science, Medicine, and Mythology of Menstruation
- By: Dr. Jen Gunter
- Narrated by: Jen Gunter
- Length: 17 hrs and 44 mins
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Most women can expect to have hundreds of periods in a lifetime. And yet few are given the tools to understand the science of their own cycle, how it changes over their lifetime, and how it connects to their overall health. In this practical, inclusive guide to menstruation, Dr. Jen Gunter delivers empowerment through knowledge. She explains what's typical, what's concerning, and when to seek care, while also examining the historical and social myths which keep women uninformed and disenfranchised.
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To the point and informative
- By Shannon Wallis on 04-03-25
By: Dr. Jen Gunter
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The Child Catchers
- Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption
- By: Kathryn Joyce
- Narrated by: Joyce Feurring
- Length: 17 hrs and 1 min
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The Child Catchers is a shocking exposé of what the adoption industry has become and how it got there, told through deep investigative reporting and the heartbreaking stories of individuals who became collateral damage in a market driven by profit and, now, pulpit command. Anyone who seeks to adopt - of whatever faith or no faith, and however well-meaning - is affected by the evangelical adoption movement, whether they know it or not. Joyce reveals with great sensitivity and empathy why, if we truly care for children, we need to see more clearly.
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Throw the baby out with the bath water.
- By A. Young on 04-28-16
By: Kathryn Joyce
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The Adoptive Parents' Handbook
- A Guide to Healing Trauma and Thriving with Your Foster or Adopted Child
- By: Barbara Tantrum, Deborah Gray MPA LICSW - foreword
- Narrated by: Janina Edwards
- Length: 10 hrs and 8 mins
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Children who have been adopted and/or shuttled through the foster-care system experience trauma at a much higher rate than other kids, which can make it difficult for them to trust, relax, regulate their emotions, and connect with their new families. As a parent, learning how to heal attachment trauma, attune to your child's needs, identify triggers, and create felt safety is essential to providing the loving, supportive, and stable home they need to thrive. Written for parents of adopted and foster kids of all ages, this book offers resources for handling common concerns.
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Highly Recommend!!!
- By Alexandra Borman on 11-16-21
By: Barbara Tantrum, and others
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Reclaim Compassion
- The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith
- By: Lisa Qualls, Melissa Corkum
- Narrated by: Lisa C. Qualls, Melissa Corkum
- Length: 3 hrs and 33 mins
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Is your parenting journey turning out differently than you imagined? You had so much love to give, but now you feel ashamed and bewildered by your lack of compassion. You may be experiencing blocked care—a self-protective mechanism in your nervous system that makes it difficult to connect with your child and maintain compassion. When it happens, it’s like your heart seems to have left the relationship. But the good news is you are not a bad parent. You can heal from blocked care, and compassion can be rekindled in your heart.
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Uplifting
- By Jaime Harris on 02-08-25
By: Lisa Qualls, and others
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Adoption Trauma
- Pain, Rejection, Fear! But There Is Hope
- By: Fiona Myles
- Narrated by: Fiona Myles
- Length: 2 hrs and 13 mins
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Do you want to take a step towards confidence, acceptance, and well-being? This audiobook is my inward look at adoption trauma with some helpful tips that I have used over the past six years to help me overcome the feelings of unworthiness, anger, fear, and rejection that plagued me for 50 years.
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Outstanding
- By Matt Sorensen on 01-12-25
By: Fiona Myles
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I’m Sorry for My Loss
- An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America
- By: Rebecca Little, Colleen Long
- Narrated by: Christina Delaine
- Length: 11 hrs and 28 mins
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Rebecca Little and Colleen Long, childhood friends who grew up to be journalists, both experienced late-term loss, and together they take an incisive, deeply reported look at the issue, working to shatter taboos that have made so many pregnant people feel ashamed and alone.
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EVERY PERSON WITH A UTERUS SHOULD READ THIS!!!
- By Amazon Customer on 04-24-25
By: Rebecca Little, and others
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Cloistered
- My Years as a Nun
- By: Catherine Coldstream
- Narrated by: Catherine Coldstream
- Length: 11 hrs and 23 mins
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Cloistered takes the listener deep into the hidden world of a traditional Carmelite monastery as it approaches the third Millennium and tells the story of an intense personal journey into and out of an enclosed life of poverty, chastity, and obedience. Finding an apparently perfect world at Akenside Priory, in Northumberland, Catherine trusts herself to a group of twenty silent women, believing she is trusting herself to God. As the beauty and mystery of an ancient way of life enfold her, she surrenders herself wholly to its power, quite unaware of the complexity and dangers that lie ahead.
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Poignant tale
- By sk arthur on 04-25-25
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Adoption Healing
- ...A Path to Recovery
- By: Joe Soll
- Narrated by: Elan O'Connor
- Length: 7 hrs and 43 mins
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In this unique book, the reader is provided with a description of the unfolding of the adoptee's personality from birth, detailing each developmental milestone along the way, followed by different methods of healing the adoptee's wounds, including inner child work, visualizations, healing affirmations, and anger management. Every chapter includes a Myths and Realities of adoption section, a summary of the chapter and exercises to do one's own.
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Great book
- By April on 09-20-16
By: Joe Soll
different take on adoption
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Wish I would have just bought a hard copy
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Important information presented in an easy to understand manner
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Relinquished
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Grateful for the work Gretchen has put in to give accurate information to the world.
Relatable
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Where are the narratives from adopted people?
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Women’s Experiences
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Deeply moving and well researched
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A Real Look at the Impacts of Adoption in America
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A “birth mothers” review
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