
The Zen of You and Me
A Guide to Getting Along with Just About Anyone
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Diane Musho Hamilton
About this listen
The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers. It’s not a matter of overlooking differences - for those very differences offer a path to profound connection.
Diane Hamilton’s practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans - spouses, partners, colleagues, parents, children - shows that “getting along” is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.
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Critic reviews
“We are constantly in relationship with others, and here Diane Hamilton has offered us a playbook to ensure that every one of those relationships become more fluid, joyful, and harmonious. Do you, like every other single person on the planet, experience conflict or have a difficult relationship in your life? Do you want to connect more fully with yourself and others? Read this book! It will masterfully help you on a journey to greater love and acceptance.” (Lodro Rinzler, author of Love Hurts and The Buddha Walks into a Bar...)
“At this time, more than ever, our world needs Hamilton’s insights on difference, and how we can find our way through our judgments, into a more balanced view that recognizes and appreciates both our sameness and our differences. Through intimate personal experiences, and in a warm and encouraging manner, she offers the reader profound insight and compassionate teaching on how to equally navigate our individual and interdependent lives. Like a Zen Master, she encourages and teaches a way to live in the tension of difference and offer our energies to this world we live in today. This is excellent medicine for today’s ills.” (Roshi Pat Enkyo O'Hara, author of Most Intimate: A Zen Approach to Life's Challenges)
“Hamilton’s years as a Zen teacher and professional mediator have taught her that embracing difference and working though conflict creates harmony with partners, parents, children, and colleagues. Mindfulness is at the center of her common-sense guide to better relationships. She also counsels us to listen in a non-judgemental fashion, appreciate the other person’s point of view, and treat them with openhearted compassion.” (Lion’s Roar)