
This Is Not the Life I Ordered
60 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down (Revised, Updated, and Expanded)
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A revised, updated, and expanded edition of the best-selling self-help book that encourages women to overcome adversity, embrace change, and discover their power.
This Is Not the Life I Ordered is the culmination of weekly "kitchen table coaching" sessions that took place for more than a decade and were designed to support four extraordinary women through life's ups and downs. These women realized that their support of one another could help other women struggling with life's myriad issues of work, family, and love, as well as the big questions of life and death. The power and strength of their collective friendship has enabled them to not only survive but to thrive, and the remarkable results are in this collection of lessons and stories and wisdom, which can help women turn any unfortunate event into a joy-filled opportunity.
Twenty-five percent of the material in this edition is completely new: 2 of the stories have been updated, many new interviews have been included, and there are 2 new chapters - one about the Me Too Movement and one focusing on the experience of loss for adult children.
©2019 by Deborah Collins Stephens, Michealene Cristini Risley, Jan Yanehiro, and Jackie Speier. Foreword © 2019 by Rita Moreno. (P)2019 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.Listeners also enjoyed...
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- Tiger
- 04-20-19
Put Your Kitchen Table To Good Use
I wish I had met this book years ago. Thankfully it us here for other women (and forward thinking men) to employ!
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- Victoria
- 05-04-25
A Must Read/Listen! A Powerful Resource for Women Navigating Success and Hardships.
This compelling collection of narratives and challenges showcases the experiences of high-achieving women navigating their personal and professional journeys. Finding other high performing women with shared ambitions and experiences can be difficult, but this book brings together voices from women with similar backgrounds, offering relatable insights and invaluable lessons. It is an essential read for aspiring and accomplished women alike, providing thoughtful perspectives on the evolving nature of careers and life’s inevitable challenges. Rather than facing obstacles alone, this book serves as a source of guidance and support—one I wish I had access to during my own formative struggles where I had essentially zero support. Now, it is a vital resource in my toolkit, and I have shared it with many women to help prepare, empower and uplift them.
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- Elizabeth
- 04-09-25
Wah wah I’m rich and went through a tough time
This is a terrible read! Completely unrealistic for the average woman. I couldn’t make it through chapter 7. These women have no idea about real issues!
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