In this episode, I’m breaking down the key differences between coaching and therapy—a topic that often confuses people. While both provide emotional support, they serve very different purposes. Coaching is action-oriented, focused on shifting your mindset, regulating emotions, and taking steps toward real change, whereas therapy tends to focus more on deep emotional processing and past traumas.

If you’ve ever wondered whether coaching is right for you or how it differs from therapy, this episode will give you the clarity you need!

🔹 Want to experience coaching firsthand? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.

[00:00] - Introduction

• Why I felt called to record this episode.
• The common misunderstanding between coaching and therapy.

[02:15] - Why People Seek Coaching & How It Compares to Therapy

• Many women come to coaching feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally dysregulated.
• Coaching is not cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), though they have some overlaps.

[05:30] - What Coaching Looks Like in Practice

• The first step in coaching is creating emotional safety.
• I help clients regulate their nervous system so they can start thinking more clearly.
• Simple tools like breathwork, movement, sensory engagement, and scheduling self-care.

[09:45] - The Shift from Emotional Regulation to Thought Work

• Coaching helps you change how you think—not just what you think.
• We begin questioning deeply ingrained beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
• The difference between coaching and therapy: coaching is solution-focused and actionable.

[14:00] - How Social Conditioning Holds Women Back

• Many of us have been taught to prioritize others’ needs over our own.
• People-pleasing, overworking, and feeling like life is a performance rather than something you truly live.
• How coaching helps you break free from these patterns and create a life that feels aligned.

[18:30] - Why Questioning Your Thoughts Is the Key to Transformation

• Most of us believe our thoughts are absolute truths, but they’re just perspectives.
• When we start questioning what we think is “right” or “necessary,” we unlock real change.
• Coaching teaches you to reshape your mindset so you can take control of your life.

[22:00] - Closing Thoughts & Next Steps

• The power of coaching in shifting your mindset and daily experience.
• Want to dive deeper? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.
• Connect with me on Instagram & TikTok (@TheAmandaHess) or book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

In this episode, I dive into the topic of self-worth, something I surprisingly haven’t covered in depth before—despite this being my 245th episode! I reflect on my podcast journey and how over 130,000 listeners have tuned in, which is incredible.

We often feel like we’re not enough, whether in relationships, careers, or personal growth. But the truth is, self-worth is intrinsic—it’s something we are born with, not something we have to earn. The challenge is not about proving our worth but learning how to navigate fear, self-doubt, and emotions so they don’t hold us back.

I share how shifting our perspective on self-worth can transform our confidence and overall experience of life. Instead of trying to “feel good enough,” we should focus on processing emotions, balancing our inner world, and taking action despite fear.

If this resonates with you, I’m hosting a confidence masterclass on February 11th to go even deeper into these ideas. You can register at joinamanda.ca. Let’s build the life we truly want—without questioning our worth.

Tune in and let’s talk self-worth!

• Amanda reflects on reaching 245 podcast episodes and how over 130,000 people have listened.
• She realizes she’s never done a full episode on self-worth before, which surprises her.
• Welcomes both new and returning listeners.

• Many women struggle with feeling “not good enough.”
• Self-worth influences confidence, happiness, and fulfillment in life.
• A common belief: “I don’t feel like I have self-worth” → This thinking keeps us stuck.

• Self-worth is intrinsic—it’s not something we earn, prove, or lose.
• Example: A newborn baby has full worth despite doing nothing—why wouldn’t that be true for adults?
• Key takeaway: We don’t have to search for or create self-worth—it’s already there.

• Many people chase self-worth through:
  • Productivity & success
  • Relationships & approval
  • Physical appearance & achievements
• But when is it ever enough? The cycle never ends because we’re looking in the wrong place.

• People often say, “I’m not starting because I don’t feel good enough.”
• The real issue is fear of failure, rejection, or uncertainty.
• Example: Dating fears → It’s not about self-worth but about learning to navigate emotions like fear and uncertainty.

• You don’t need more self-worth—you need to get comfortable with discomfort.
• Confidence comes from:
  • Feeling fear and taking action anyway.
  • Learning to regulate emotions.
  • Trusting yourself to handle challenges.
• The key is not avoiding fear but learning to process it.

• Feeling “not enough” leads to feeling powerless.
• Instead of trying to feel worthy, ask: “What do I actually want, and how do I get there?”
• Learning to navigate emotions like fear, frustration, and overwhelm leads to real confidence.

• You already have self-worth—you don’t need to prove it.
• The real work is learning how to navigate emotions and take action despite fear.
• If this resonates, join the Confidence Masterclass on February 11th to dive deeper.
  • Register at: joinamanda.ca
  • Time: 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST
  • Cost: $9.95 USD
• Final message: You are already enough—now, let’s focus on creating the life you want.

Have you ever felt stuck because of the labels you or others have placed on you? In this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into how labels shape our lives—for better or worse.

Labels can offer clarity, community, and tools for growth, but they can also hold us back when we use them to justify staying stuck. Together, we’ll unpack why our brains love labels, how to recognize when they’re helping versus hurting, and the steps you can take to break free from limiting beliefs.

This episode is packed with actionable insights to help you shift your mindset, regulate your emotions, and create a life that feels fulfilling and aligned—no matter what challenges or labels you’re navigating. Whether it’s ADHD, dyslexia, or the dreaded “people pleaser” identity, I’ll show you how to turn your labels into stepping stones instead of roadblocks.

💡 Ready to dive deeper? Join me for my masterclass on January 30th to learn how to build confidence, self-esteem, and emotional resilience. Grab your spot at joinamanda.ca.

📞 Or book a free discovery call with me at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

Let’s rewrite your story—one empowering step at a time.

[00:01] Introduction

• Why labels are such a significant topic and how they often impact my clients’ results.
• The invitation to listen with an open heart and curiosity.

[02:45] The Human Brain’s Need for Efficiency

• How our brains naturally create and use labels to categorize information.
• Understanding subconscious vs. conscious brain activity.

[07:10] How Labels Serve Us

• Labels as tools for understanding ourselves and finding community.
• Examples: ADHD, ASD, and dyslexia—what they reveal and how they can guide us.

[14:30] When Labels Hold Us Back

• The dangers of over-identifying with labels and how they limit potential.
• Why “I can’t do this because of [label]” is a thought, not a fact.

[21:00] Emotional Responsibility and Regulation

• The importance of taking charge of your emotional well-being.
• Practical tips for handling overwhelm, procrastination, and executive dysfunction.

[28:45] Rewriting the Narrative

• Shifting from “this is just how I am” to “this is something I can work with.”
• Personal examples of how I’ve navigated labels like sensitivity and depression.

[34:20] Individuality Beyond Labels

• Why no two people are exactly the same, even within shared labels.
• How to embrace your unique personality while working through challenges.

[38:55] Practical Coaching Insights

• How to dissect specific struggles (e.g., procrastination, people-pleasing) for tailored solutions.
• The importance of nervous system regulation and intentional self-coaching.

[47:10] Final Thoughts and Encouragement

• Why nothing about you is permanent and everything is figureoutable.
• A reminder to use labels as tools for empowerment, not barriers to success.

[50:30] Ways to Work With Me

• Masterclass: Join me on January 30th at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST for an interactive session on building confidence and self-esteem. Sign up at joinamanda.ca.
• Discovery Calls: Book a free call at amandahess.ca/bookacall to explore personalized coaching options.

Let’s break free from limiting labels and create a life that truly reflects your potential.

Don’t forget to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode—it helps me reach more amazing women like you! See you next week!

In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about confidence—what it really is, why it’s so important, and how you can create it in your life. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something you build by starting, failing, and learning along the way. I’ll share my own journey from fear to confidence, why resilience matters, and how to move forward even when it’s uncomfortable. If you’ve been waiting to feel confident before taking bold steps, this episode will show you why you don’t have to wait anymore.

[00:00] - Welcome and Topic Introduction

• I start by talking about one of my favorite coaching topics: confidence.
• I explain what confidence really is, why it’s essential, and how you can create it in your life.

[03:10] - The Human Need for Confidence

• Confidence isn’t just nice to have—it’s a human necessity for fulfillment and satisfaction.
• It’s that feeling you get when you believe you can do something well.

[06:45] - Confidence in New Challenges

• When people want to make big changes in their lives, the one emotion they feel they need most is confidence.
• I share examples like public speaking, asking for a raise, and dating authentically to show how confidence impacts everything we do.

[10:00] - Understanding Confidence

• Confidence comes from competence—knowing how to do something well.
• I explain how competence is built through practice, learning, and persistence.

[15:30] - The Process of Building Confidence

1. Start, even if it’s scary.
2. Embrace failure as a necessary step in learning.
3. Reevaluate what’s working and try again.
4. Competence grows over time, and so does confidence.

[20:45] - My Journey to Confidence

• I share a personal story about starting a direct sales career while battling nerves and fear.
• Through consistent practice and persistence, I built confidence by becoming competent in what I was doing.

[28:00] - Navigating Fear and Building Resilience

• Confidence isn’t about being fearless—it’s about learning to navigate fear.
• Building resilience and emotional capacity helps you push through discomfort and setbacks.

[33:20] - Practical Takeaways

• Think about the areas where you want to grow your confidence: relationships, career, finances, or something else.
• Start small, shift your mindset, and take intentional actions toward your goals.
• Confidence comes from building resilience and creating competence.

[39:15] - Upcoming Confidence Training

• I’m hosting a two-hour live training where I’ll teach you:
  • Why confidence is essential.
  • What blocks it.
  • How to create it for yourself.
• You can register at joinamanda.ca.

[41:00] - Closing Thoughts

• Confidence is the key to living a fulfilled, joyful life, and it’s something you can create.
• If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review—it helps the podcast grow and reach more women.
• If you need personalized support, book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

Tune in next week for another empowering episode!

[0:00] Welcome and Introduction

[2:00] Why Ryanne Chose Coaching

Ryanne explains how she felt unsettled and overwhelmed before starting coaching.

She shares her experiences with therapy, which helped her understand her past but left her feeling stuck without tools to move forward.

After a friend’s recommendation and realizing her nervous system was out of balance, she decided to give coaching a try.

[6:30] Early Days of Coaching

Ryanne talks about the first steps we took together, focusing on managing anxiety and finding small coping mechanisms that worked for her.

She discovered sensory tools, like essential oils, which became a key part of her calming routine.

We shifted the focus from revisiting the past to creating strategies to move forward.

[12:15] Emotional Regulation and Self-Compassion

I explain how we worked on recognizing and riding emotional waves without judgment.

Ryanne reflects on learning self-compassion and how changing her inner dialogue made a significant difference.

We discuss the importance of separating emotions from reactions and becoming an observer of our feelings.

[18:45] Anxiety and Self-Acceptance

Ryanne shares her experience with anxiety and being diagnosed with ADHD.

I helped her reframe anxiety as a sign of care rather than a flaw or something to eliminate.

She explains how tools like journaling and nervous system regulation gave her space to navigate emotions and grow.

[25:00] Relationships and Triggers

We talk about how anxiety often shows up in relationships, triggering reactions tied to past experiences.

Ryanne shares how she learned to manage her emotions, communicate better, and regain clarity in her relationships.

[30:45] Building Confidence and the Snowball Effect

Ryanne discusses how small, consistent steps built her confidence over time.

I explain the importance of viewing self-growth as a process, not a destination.

She highlights how prioritizing physical health, like working out and eating nutritious food, supported her emotional well-being.

[38:30] Achieving Professional and Financial Goals

Ryanne shares how she hit a financial goal during our time working together.

She talks about shifting her mindset from dread to excitement in her career.

We worked on balancing her emotional bandwidth while staying motivated and productive.

[45:15] Self-Love and Acceptance

Ryanne reflects on how coaching helped her reconnect with her authentic self and embrace her strengths.

I remind listeners that they don’t need to become someone else—they already are enough. It’s about revealing and embracing who they truly are.

[50:30] The Transformation Process

Ryanne shares how coaching helped her feel less frantic and more grounded.

She talks about how small steps led to big changes, making her self-talk more positive and her confidence more natural.

I emphasize the importance of celebrating progress and being patient with yourself.

[56:00] Closing Thoughts

Ryanne encourages anyone considering coaching to take the leap, even if it feels like a small step.

I express my gratitude for Ryanne sharing her story and remind listeners how transformative coaching can be.

[58:30] Call to Action

I invite listeners who relate to Ryanne’s journey to book a call with me at amandahess.ca

I share that we can explore what’s going on for them and start working toward transformation.

[59:00] Wrap-Up

[00:00] **Why I’m Sharing This Episode**

- I recorded this episode on January 1st for my private, client-only podcast.

- I’m sharing it here so you can get a feel for my day-to-day support and also to highlight the core message on shifting from goal-setting to vision creation.

- I’m hosting a **90-minute Emotional Mastery Workshop** on January 8th, 2025, where I’ll guide attendees to:

- Reclaim control of their emotions and thoughts.

- Align with their deepest desires.

- Wake up daily with confidence, clarity, and joy.

- This workshop is open to only 10 people, so anyone interested can sign up at joinamanda.ca

[03:30] **My Reflection on 2025**

- I’m amazed that we’re already in 2025 and how time seems to fly.

- I want to shift the focus from typical goal-setting to **vision creation** because I find it more effective, fulfilling, and less anxiety-inducing.

[04:15] **Why I Favor Vision Creation Over Goal Setting**

- **Traditional Goal Setting** often makes us tie our self-worth to the outcome. If I meet the goal, I’m “good enough,” and if I don’t, I’m not.

- In my own life, I’ve gone to extremes when I was strictly “goal-oriented”—like unhealthy weight-loss methods—just to hit a target.

- **Vision Creation**, on the other hand, centers on the experience I want to cultivate and the values I want to honor.

[08:45] **How I Approach Vision Creation**

1. **Start with Emotions**:

- I ask myself which emotions I want to prioritize this year (e.g., peace, joy, satisfaction, love).

- These emotions become the foundation for my choices and actions.

2. **Align Goals with Values**:

- If satisfaction and joy are my priorities, I’ll check whether my goals—say, earning a certain amount of money—fit with these emotions.

- My actions will then be powered by feelings that are sustainable, rather than driven by anxiety or external pressure.

[12:00] **Decoupling Self-Worth from Achievements**

- I remind myself that my value as a person isn’t dependent on hitting a specific milestone.

- When I create a vision, I keep my self-worth separate from the final outcome. This frees me from burnout and fosters genuine growth.

[14:15] **Practical Steps for Vision Creation**

- I reflect on questions like:

- *What are the emotions I want to feel every day in 2025?*

- *What values guide the life I’m building?*

- *How can I take actions that align with these emotions and values?*

- This process gives me a sense of control, clarity, and consistent momentum.

[16:45] **My Offer to Help**

- If you’re my client, feel free to bring this up in our next session. I’d love to dive deeper and create a personalized vision for you.

- If you’re not a client but have access to this podcast, I invite you to book a **discovery call** at amandahess.ca. It’s a great way to explore how we can work together on your vision.

[18:00] **Closing & Call to Action**

- I encourage you to review these steps and start crafting your 2025 vision.

- Please consider leaving a review—it helps my podcast reach more people who need this message.

- If you’re ready to stop managing stress and anxiety alone, book a free consult with me at amandahess.ca

**Happy New Year, and here’s to a fulfilling and vision-driven 2025!**

In this episode I dive deep into the topic of overthinking. I explore why we overthink, how it affects our lives, and most importantly, how we can overcome it. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of obsessive thoughts or struggling to quiet your mind, this episode is for you. I also share exciting details about my upcoming free masterclass on December 30th to help you make 2025 your most empowered year yet.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Welcome & Holiday Reflections
I share some Christmas Eve thoughts and how I’m preparing to help you create an incredible new year.

[02:45] Announcing My Free Masterclass
Details about “A New Year, A New You: Let’s End Overthinking” on December 30th at 5 PM PT / 8 PM ET. (Register at joinamanda.ca)

[05:30] Why Overthinking Happens
I discuss the common triggers of overthinking, from circumstantial stress to low-level anxiety.

[08:10] The Tug-of-War Analogy
Learn why trying to “logic” your way out of strong emotions often makes things worse.

[12:00] Overthinking vs. Emotional Safety
How overthinking arises from feelings of shame, guilt, worry, or fear—and why battling these emotions with thoughts doesn’t work.

[16:20] The Key to Breaking Free: Nervous System Regulation
I explain the importance of feeling emotions in your body and regulating your nervous system to reduce overthinking.

[19:40] Why “Positive Thinking” Isn’t the Solution
Discover why replacing negative thoughts with positive ones isn’t always effective.

[23:00] The Role of Specificity in Solving Problems
How focusing on specific issues instead of trying to “fix yourself” can change the way you think.

[27:15] Why Overthinking Wastes Time and Energy
I highlight how overthinking stops you from solving problems and reaching your goals.

[30:00] How You Can Take the Next Step
Why 2025 is your year to master your thoughts, control your emotions, and create the life you want.

[33:30] Final Thoughts & Call to Action
I encourage you to join my free masterclass and leave a review to help this podcast reach more women like you.

Links & Resources:

• Register for my free masterclass: A New Year, A New You: Let’s End Overthinking → joinamanda.ca
• Book a free consult with me → amandahess.ca/bookacall

- **[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Let’s make this moment count."

- **[1:00]** - Today, we’re diving deep into *emotional mastery*. You’ll learn how this transformative process can help you handle stress, build resilience, and create a life you love.

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### The Big Idea: Every Problem Is an Emotions Problem

- **[2:30]** - I’ll show you why emotional mastery is the key to solving issues in relationships, parenting, money, career, and more.

- **[3:15]** - By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why emotions are at the root of so many challenges and how mastering them can change everything.

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### A Client's Journey: Proof It’s Possible

- **[5:00]** - You’ll hear how one of my clients went from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to confident and in control using the emotional mastery process.

- **[6:15]** - I’ll share my own story too—how I broke free from constant pressure and perfectionism—and how you can do the same.

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### Understanding Emotions

- **[7:45]** - You’ll learn what emotions really are (hint: they’re not thoughts!) and why understanding them is crucial.

- **[8:30]** - I’ll explain the stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how they might be running your life without you even realizing it.

- **[10:00]** - You’ll start to see why emotional distress keeps happening and what you can do to stop it.

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### Step 1: Proactive Nervous System Regulation

- **[12:00]** - Discover the difference between "911" nervous system regulation (what to do in the moment) and preventative practices (how to build resilience over time).

- **[13:30]** - I’ll show you easy, practical ways to regulate your nervous system daily—without spending a ton of time or money.

- **[15:00]** - You’ll leave with actionable tools to build emotional capacity so you can handle stressors without feeling overwhelmed.

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### Step 2: Understanding and Guiding Emotions

- **[17:30]** - I’ll teach you how to interpret emotions as messengers rather than fighting or ignoring them.

- **[19:00]** - You’ll learn how to "ride the wave" of emotion without being overtaken by it—and how this simple skill can dramatically change your life.

- **[20:45]** - By the end of this section, you’ll know how to stop reacting to emotions impulsively and start directing them intentionally.

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### Step 3: Creating Productive Thoughts, Beliefs, and Support Systems

- **[22:30]** - Learn why your current thoughts may be keeping you stuck and how to change the way you think for good.

- **[24:00]** - I’ll guide you through building beliefs about self-worth, lovability, and what’s possible for your future.

- **[25:30]** - You’ll walk away with a clear understanding of how to replace self-criticism with self-advocacy and start living the life you truly want.

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### What Emotional Mastery Will Do for You

- **[27:00]** - By mastering this process, you’ll gain self-love, resilience, confidence, and fulfillment.

- **[28:15]** - You’ll see how emotional mastery impacts every area of your life, from your relationships to your career, and even your day-to-day joy.

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### My Coaching Program: Take This Further

- **[29:30]** - I’ll share how my *Emotional Mastery Coaching Program* works and how it can help you create the life you’ve been dreaming of.

- **[31:00]** - You’ll learn what’s included: one-on-one coaching, daily private podcasts, and access to transformative trainings—all designed to help you succeed.

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### Actionable Takeaways and Next Steps

- **[33:00]** - Before you go, I’ll help you reflect on how emotional mastery can shift your life—and encourage you to take the next step by booking a free consultation with me.

- **[34:30]** - Don’t forget: Every change starts with a decision. Let’s explore together how to make emotional mastery your reality.

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### Closing

- **[35:00]** - Thank you for joining me today! Remember, a new episode drops every week. If you found this helpful, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

** Ready to take the next step? Book your free consultation now at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall). Let’s create the life you’ve always wanted!