
Be the One You Need
21 Life Lessons I Learned While Taking Care of Everyone but Me
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From acclaimed journalist Sophia A. Nelson, the best-selling author of The Woman Code, comes a poignant, powerful, and revealing memoir providing life lessons that emphasize the importance of self-care, self-love, and self-understanding that will lead to freedom, healing from the past, and a better future.
Sophia A. Nelson is a highly accomplished woman. Yet following a bout with Covid-19, caretaking for a sick parent during the pandemic, running a business, and being a mainstay on national television as a political pundit and legal analyst on CNN, MSNBC, the BBC, and Sirius XM, she realized that she was struggling internally even as she maintained her breakneck schedule.
Like so many others, as an adult child of an alcoholic Nelson struggled with self-love and knowing her value despite her successes. As she came to learn, it was when she stopped feeling guilty and neglecting herself emotionally and started understanding the importance of self-care and nurturance that she found the freedom to truly live and thrive. Her message, Be the One You Need, reveals lessons illuminating for listeners that the answers we seek are always within us. Nelson’s call does not mean we do not need other people — quite to the contrary — but that our first love and our priority must be to self. Good emotional health. Good physical health. Good spiritual health. Good relational health. The earlier we can figure this out and take care of these basic needs — love, connection, faith, and success — the better chance we have of a balanced, fulfilled life.
In this thought-provoking book — at times sobering yet also uplifting and encouraging — Nelson speaks to listeners from all walks of life: young people just starting out; those at mid-life trying to wrestle with what she calls “your second life”; and listeners in their later years who still have time to forgive themselves and seek forgiveness where needed. Her purpose in this book is to encourage men and women alike to practice meaningful self-contemplation, self-care, and self-love.
This book is for anyone who is still fighting demons from their childhood. For anyone who has been hurt too many times to count. For anyone who desperately wants a roadmap to break free from toxic family ties. Or simply for those who need to be reminded that until you take care of yourself first, you will have little to nothing of yourself to give to others. As the old saying goes: It’s never too late to have a life, and it’s never too late to change one.
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Awesome Book!
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I had never thought about asking myself the three simple questions to check in with me.
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Inspiring me to care for myself on a higher level
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Outstanding Book!
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Simple, easy to understand, and follow life lessons
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The most outstanding self help book I have ever read!
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Wonderful life lesson, especially for other influencers
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I love the authors narration and use of scripture throughout the book. Her narration allows me to identify with her in many of the situations as I hear her voice in my head with advice and how she has handled situations. This book is a perfect gift to your best friends, girlfriends and family. I highly recommend!
Loved it!!!
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Thanks for the journey
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Perfect!
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