
The Hard Questions
100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "I Do"
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A revised and expanded edition of the classic relationship book that has helped thousands of couples shape a shared vision for their lives together.
With this simple-yet-profound relationship tool, Susan Piver shows couples at any stage of their relationships - whether they are considering engagement, have been married for decades, or just want to deepen their connection - how they can forge and strengthen lasting, intimate bonds. Focusing on key areas such as home, money, work, community, and family, The Hard Questions contains 100 thought-provoking questions for couples to ask each other, including:
- What will our home look like?
- What are our professional goals?
- How do you feel about sharing our life on social media?
- Will we try to have children, and if so, when?
The Hard Questions provides couples with guidance and support for having the kind of conversations that will lead them to a deeper understanding of each other and a happy, healthy, and prosperous future together.
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Critic reviews
"A nice antidote to insta-match TV-reality shows like The Bachelorette." (Time)
"This book of hard questions and exercises for couples is innovative and exciting." (Andrew Weil, MD)
"Susan Piver is a deeply intuitive and innovative thinker. I could not recommend her more highly." (Julia Cameron)
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- Paul
- 02-16-23
Relevant now and always
A great relationship guide and should be required by law before marriage to help relationships
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- Dejah Chambliss
- 10-06-22
SUSAN NAILED IT!
Great book! I am a married person, and I still found it to be a very helpful and most useful publication. This book covered everything--except intimacy and sex. Now, that may need to be a book all by itself!!💞
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