
The Opposite of Settling
How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark
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Case Kenny
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Forget settling or “settling down”—you deserve a love that upgrades every aspect of your life. A love that empowers you to get hotter, happier, and more fulfilled… together.
The host of the podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? helps you find a partnership that fills your life with “can you believe we did that?” moments, where “let’s book a flight and go” is as common as “I love you."
Are you looking for a love that offers you clarity, not confusion? Does it feel like love has gotten too complicated? Does the sea of dating rules and expectations make you feel overwhelmed?
Case Kenny, host of the New Mindset, Who Dis? podcast and author of That’s Bold of You, brings you The Opposite of Settling—a blend of practical mindfulness, evidence-based research, and undiluted optimism—to help you find a love that expands your world. Case guides you toward finding and building a relationship that empowers you to be independent, vibrant, and in love. The book offers you the tools to:
- Navigate the complexities of modern dating with confidence and an unbothered mindset
- Find a connection that feels like home yet pushes you toward a fuller and more vibrant life
- Recognize and attract relationships that elevate your life instead of weighing or “settling” you down
- Let go of fear-based dating habits and find a love that enhances your sense of independence
Plus, enjoy bonus exclusive journal prompts at the end of each chapter—only available in the audiobook edition.
The Opposite of Settling isn’t just about finding someone; it's about finding more of yourself in the process. Case’s concept of “settling up” (the opposite of “settling down”) offers an energizing affirmation of love, leaving you feeling lighter, unburdened of rules and expectations, and on the path to finding a relationship where you both look at each other and think, "Yup, that's my kind of weird.”
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Critic reviews
“Case Kenny is one of my favorite writers. This book is a breath of fresh air and a source of inspiration for anyone who is navigating love. The Opposite of Settling will not only help you connect better, but it will leave you feeling empowered. This is a must-read.”—Yung Pueblo, #1 New York Times best-selling author of Lighter
“Case Kenny’s wisdom will inspire you to embrace love that makes life extraordinary. The Opposite of Settling provides the tools to create a deep, meaningful connection that fuels your ambitions and enhances your sense of self. Kenny shows how to cultivate love that feels like both stability and endless possibility. His message is clear: Build a life that thrills you, and love will find its way to you.”—Dr. Sue Varma, psychiatrist and author of Practical Optimism
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