
Better Boys, Better Men
The New Masculinity That Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency
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Adam Verner
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Andrew Reiner
About this listen
A thought-provoking and much-needed look at how modern masculinity is harming and holding back men - and all of society - and what we can do to promote a new masculinity that allows men of all ages to thrive.
In Better Boys, Better Men, cultural critic and New York Times contributor Andrew Reiner argues that men today are working on an outdated model of masculinity, which prevents them in moments of distress and vulnerability from marshaling the courage, strength, and resiliency - the very characteristics we regularly champion in men - they need to thrive in a world vastly different from the ones their fathers and grandfathers grew up in. According to Reiner, this outdated model of manhood can have devastating effects on the entire culture and especially boys and men, from falling behind in the classroom and rising male unemployment rates to increased levels of depression and disturbing upticks in violence on a mass scale.
Reiner interviews boys and men of all ages, educators, counselors, therapists, and physicians throughout the United States to better understand what factors are preventing the country’s boys and men from developing the emotional resiliency they need. He also introduces listeners to the boys and men at the vanguard of a new masculinity that empowers them to find and express the full range of their humanity.
Urgent and necessary, Better Boys, Better Men will change the way we talk about boys and men in America today.
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- yolanda
- 07-10-21
This book, the work is so valuable!
It took me a long time to read through this but I enjoyed every bit of it. This taught me so much about boys & men! It's a must read
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- FreeApper
- 01-05-24
Great book for what’s facing men in a new society.
Exactly what I was looking for and am happy to have found a way to guide my son through this ever changing world.
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- Leanna Pareja
- 01-05-23
Incredible description of the problem, virtually no solutions
The author’s description of the problems facing men today is detailed, scientifically based, thorough, supported with countless studies and references, and the result is I am halfway through the book and I feel depressed, disheartened, and frustrated. Except for a couple sentences here and there about nascent organizations that are starting to fill the gap, there is almost no practical or helpful information about how a man can move towards healthy masculinity. If you want a description of the problem, this book is for you. If you’re looking for answers - I didn’t find any - at least not in the first half. I quit listening after that.
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