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She's Not There

A Life in Two Genders

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She's Not There

By: Jennifer Finney Boylan
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The provocative best seller She's Not There is the winning, utterly surprising story of a person changing genders. By turns hilarious and deeply moving, Jennifer Finney Boylan explores the territory that lies between men and women, examines changing friendships, and rejoices in the redeeming power of family. Told in Boylan's fresh voice, She's Not There is about a person bearing and finally revealing a complex secret. Through her clear eyes, She's Not There provides a new window on the confounding process of accepting our true selves.

©2013 Jennifer Finney Boylan (P)2016 Random House Audio Biographies & Memoirs LGBTQIA+ Essentials Parenting & Families Relationships Funny Witty Inspiring Feel-Good Heartfelt Thought-Provoking Friendship

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"She's Not There, the

Running with Scissors of sex-change stories, brings irreverence and a merrily outrageous sense of humor to this potentially serious business." (The New York Times)
"Probably no book I've read in recent years has made me so question my basic assumptions about both the centrality and the permeability of gender, and made me recognize myself in a situation I've never known and have never faced.... The universality of the astonishingly uncommon: that's the trick of She's Not There. And with laughs, too. What a good book." (Anna Quindlen, from the introduction to the Book-of-the-Month-Club edition)
"Beautifully crafted, fearless, painfully honest, inspiring, and extremely witty. Jennifer Finney Boylan is an exquisite writer with a fascinating story, and this combination has resulted in one of the most remarkable, moving, and unforgettable memoirs in recent history." (Augusten Burroughs, author of Running with Scissors and Dry)

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Jennifer Finney Boylan is just a force to recon with. I admire her courage to be true to herself. I admire Deidre’s love and willingness to adapt. When we love someone, we change because of our love. I’m a mother of 2 transgender children and I too have had a relatable journey with Deidre of changing because of love. Thank you Jenny for sharing your experience and stories. It’s a gift to us!!!

Outstanding

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I found this book delightful. Thank you for sharing your journey! Quite a sense of humor!

Author is a Great Storyteller!

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Jennifer Finney Boylan, in sharing her story, has shed light and understanding on transexuality and both the joys and challenges she encountered throughout her life. Thank you for sharing your journey, Jennifer, so we can better see the humanity in every individual and the value of love that we can offer to others.

One word - gratitude!

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This story documents one ladies journey from the early moments of emerging from her egg (I prefer chrysalis) and showing the world the beautiful person (I think more of a butterfly spreading her wings in the midday sun) that was hidden inside.

a transgender ladies story of emerging from her wg

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A great memoir! An inside look at the life, struggle and ultimate courage to live in the truth of one’s life. Hooray for Jenny!!

Loved the commentary at the end where Grace and Rick Russo shared a little. A great book!

I had read Mad Honey - an awesome novel!! (recommended in my bookclub) - then saw the co-author Jennifer Finney Boylan’s memoir mentioned. So, as I love Audible, I listened to her tell her own story in this, “She’s Not There” (also a great song!!) memoir.

Both Jennifer and Rick Russo have inspired me to pull together my own lifelong journals, letters, and notes and tell my own family’s story and write again - especially about my maternal grandmother - an affluent artist and cross-dresser (and most likely a closet gay) in the 1950’s, She died way too early (age 62 in 1972 ) for me to fully understand her. And, the impact it had on my mother, her only daughter, who followed her in death the following year (1973, at age 35).
So, thank you Jenny Finney Boylan, and thank you Audible!

“She’s Not There”

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Comforting, validating, informative, endearing stories uncomfortably read by the author. One would think that the writer would best know the meter and timber and tone to use, reading her own tales, but this is a situation in which a professional reader would have brought fuller and richer life to the telling.

ComfortIng stories, uncomfortably read

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Thoughtful, sensitive, and humorous reading by Jenny Boylan. The afterward by Russo is just as thoughtful and helps deepen the meaning of Jenny's tale.
I'm just starting my third listening. It's that good.

Essential

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Important story to know. Many great life lessons for all. Creative, imaginatively told and emotional.

Really enjoyable and important story.

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Informative, funny, thoughtful and smart. I learned so much. A reminder that we are connected in such important ways even when the differences of our lived experience seem so different on the surface.

Great Storyteller

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I enjoyed hearing the story read by Jenny herself, Her humor and charm make it so enjoyable!

Great story

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