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Katherine Morgan Schafler
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'Her book is life-changing.' GOOP
'The definitive guide for anyone who's ready to walk a crucial pathway: from the appearance of control, to the possession of a quiet power.' SUSAN CAIN
'This book will forever change the way you view perfectionism and yourself. An irresistible invitation to reclaim your natural state of wholeness, your joy and your life.' DEEPAK CHOPRA
'Gives you permission to be more in a world that's telling you to be less.' LORI GOTTLEIB
'Provocative... identifies the strategies and mindsets every high-achieving woman needs to quell her inner critic and embrace her true talents.' HOLLY WHITAKER
The advice we hear on perfectionism is always the same - let go of it! Forget it! Perfectionism is bad for you. But what if we've been looking at it all wrong? What if perfectionism is your superpower?
In The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler says you don't have to stop being a perfectionist to be happy and fulfilled. Her smart, witty book is a new approach for women who are over the generic advice to 'find balance'.
Morgan Schafler's book identifies five distinct types of perfectionist - Classic, Parisian, Messy, Intense, and Procrastinating. As you identify your unique perfectionist profile, you'll learn how to manage each form of perfectionism to work for you, not against you. Beyond managing it, you'll learn how to embrace and even enjoy your perfectionism. Yes, enjoy!
With handy self-assessments and actionable advice tailored to the unique needs of each perfectionist type, The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control is the game-changing companion for women who dare to want more out of life.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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You’re not weird, you are most likely a perfectionist
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A powerful book about the truths, the triumphs, shadows and challenges of life with practical ways to move toward, find your power and use the your own gifts to excel and find joy.
Her voice is absolutely beautiful and the story’s will be etched into your mind.
Great advice & observations from a story listener.
I loved it!
Glued to my earbuds, delightful & practicle
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