
The Book of Boundaries
Set the Limits That Will Set You Free
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Melissa Urban
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Melissa Urban
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER FROM THE CO-FOUNDER OF THE WHOLE30 • End resentment, burnout, and anxiety—and reclaim your time, energy, health, and relationships.
“Melissa Urban shows the way forward with clarity, vulnerability, and humor.”—Gretchen Rubin, author of Life in Five Senses
Melissa Urban has helped millions of people transform their relationship with food. Now, in this powerful and practical guide, she shows how boundaries—clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health—are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.
In her famously direct and compassionate style, Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to set boundaries with bosses and co-workers, romantic partners, parents and in-laws, co-parents, friends, family, neighbors, strangers—and yourself
• Actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• Tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt, pushback, pressure, and oversteps
• Techniques to create healthy habits around food, drink, technology, and more
User-friendly and approachable, The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying, minimizing, and apologizing, leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger, healthier, and freer.
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: Mindful
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* A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER *
One of:
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“I always tell my therapy patients that boundaries create trust, comfort, and safety in a relationship, but many people struggle with how to effectively communicate what they need. In The Book of Boundaries, Melissa Urban helps you identify your boundary needs, offers actionable scripts on what to say, and shares proven tips based on a decade of experience helping people live more freely by holding their limits with confidence."—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone
“The Book of Boundaries is funny, direct, and smart, bringing you actionable tools and science-backed strategies for setting boundaries using language that feels kind, natural, and empowering. Melissa’s straightforward scripts and practical tips makes it easy to identify your limits and communicate them with confidence, so you can start putting yourself first and create a life that feels bigger, freer, and more authentically YOU.”—Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Second Rule
“Helpful as hell and lovingly direct, Melissa Urban is the boundaries big sister we all so desperately need. Through her insightful advice and easy-to-follow scripts, Urban teaches you how to stand up for yourself without walling yourself off from the people you love.”—Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies
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The book was full of stories, which demonstrate rather than preach. The stories illustrate how resentment can be created, as well as how it can be avoided. Not only resentment of others, but resentment of ourselves and others’ resentment of us.
The theme of being clear and kind underscores every single boundary tool in this book’s box. This is a perfect mantra for those of us who feel guilty when setting boundaries because kindness is built in. When we are intentionally kind, we can rest assured we are giving as much as we should. Oh- and “as much as we should” is not the same as “as much as we can.”
One of my favorite takeaways from this book is about restricting boundaries to our own behavior: when X happens, I do Y. I liked the green/yellow/red levels of Y (my behavior that enforces the boundary). This puts the power in our hands and does not rely on the behavior of others changing for our needs to be met. Boundaries are about making sure we are the ones in charge of respecting our needs. This may mean that we realize what we need is to limit our time with people we care about, so heads up- your life may look different after reading this book and setting clear, kind boundaries. If it does, congratulations. It most likely means you are valuing your own health, needs, and values, and allowing others to respect those things, too, with as much clarity as they need to make their choice and act on it.
The timing of this book was perfect for me, and I highly recommend listening to it on Audible if you’re an auditory learner, or prefer “interview for information” to “read for information” as a skill. Melissa Urban’s voice is clear and kind, and I felt empowered rather than lectured, as I have with some other “self-help” section book readers. She has a very “you’ve got this” tone.
Finally, I want to thank the author for her generosity in sharing personal stories and openly donating her experience to the benefit of her listeners’ and readers’ learning. Melissa Urban’s vulnerability, within the boundaries of what she felt comfortable sharing, is not only kind to those of us who relate to her, but to those who may relate to other characters in her story (read: other real people in her life).
Both the author and boundaries are generous.
Boundaries are GENEROUS
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Life changing
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Great book with actionable scripts
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Good recommendations & examples for how to throughout
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Boundaries For Myself
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Life Changing!!🙌
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Helpful & thoughtful
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Well worth a listen!
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One of the best books I’ve ever read!!
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