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To Have and to Hold

Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma

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To Have and to Hold

By: Molly Millwood
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A clinical psychologist’s exploration of the modern dilemmas women face in the wake of new motherhood.

When Molly Millwood became a mother, she was fully prepared for what she would gain: an adorable baby boy; hard-won mothering skills; and a messy, chaotic, beautiful life. But what she did not expect was what she would lose: aspects of her identity, a baseline level of happiness, a general sense of well-being. And though she had the benefit of a supportive husband during this transition, she also at times resented the fact that the disruption to his life seemed to pale in comparison to hers.

As a clinical psychologist, Molly knew her experience was a normal response to a life-changing event. But without the advantage of such a perspective, many of the patients she treated in her private practice grappled with self-doubt, guilt, and fear and suffered the dual pain of not only the struggle to adjust, but also the overwhelming shame for struggling at all.

In To Have and to Hold, Molly explores the complex terrain of new motherhood, illuminating the ways it affects women psychologically, emotionally, physically, and professionally - as well as how it impacts their partnership. Along with the arrival of a bundle of joy come thorny issues such as self-worth, control, autonomy, and dependency. And for most new mothers, these issues are experienced within the context of an intimate relationship, adding another layer of tension, conflict, and confusion to an already challenging time.

As Molly examines the inextricable link between women’s well-being as new mothers and the well-being of their relationships, she offers guidance to help listeners reclaim their identities, overcome their guilt and shame, and repair their relationships. A blend of personal narrative, scientific research, and stories from Molly’s clinical practice, To Have and to Hold provides a much-needed lifeline to new mothers everywhere.

©2019 Molly Millwood (P)2019 HarperCollins Publishers
Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Motherhood Parenting & Families Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Teenagers Young Adult Mental Health Inspiring Marriage
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Validating Motherhood Experiences • Relatable Parenting Struggles • Soothing Voice • Insightful Relationship Perspectives
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I wish I had found this book 6 years ago, when I became a mother. I feel like this book could and would benefit anyone that is expecting, mother and/or father.

All parents (to be)

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if you are a mom, especially a new one, this book is sure to hit home. beautifully written and backed up with research. I can't recommend this book enough. I'll be reading again soon.

Every mom should read this book

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If you are expecting solutions, techniques, etc. this is not the book for you. This book had me in tears multiple times. It confirmed what I already had an idea of which is parenting is hard and people are not truthful about it. We are never told how complex parenting can be and the feelings arising with/from it. This book will make you realize how normal your struggles are as a mother and how you should not immediately assume something is wrong with you. For the dad’s reading this, it will hopefully shed a light on your partner’s feelings and behaviors.

This is not a self-help book. It’s a reality check!

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I recommend reading this book before a baby and reread after having a baby. It really does allow those bottled up feelings that no parent wants to feel find a safe place to be understand and not frowned about but accepted and a better look into how common a lot of mommy feeling every women feels. Amazing book loved it from beginning to end that I bought the hard cover to add to my collection after listening to the audible version, that she reads herself which I loved even more hearing it from her.

Amazing must read mommy book

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I enjoyed reading this book. It helped me not feel alone in this motherhood journey.

Great Read!

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Thoughtfully written and eloquently put. The right amount of personal experience, anecdotes, and research. Very relatable. Made me cry, laugh and nod in agreement. Some great ‘a-ha’ moments. Highly recommend. Helped me on my journey as a new mother.

For every mother (and perhaps even partner) to listen to who is struggling with adjusting to their new roles in motherhood

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One of the best books I’ve listened to! Will recommend to my friends and colleagues. Authentic, eye-opening, compassionate, inspiring, and wonderfully written!

‘Must Have’ for (new-ish) mothers

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I’m the soon to be grandmother. This book helped me heal things in my life from my past parenting.
I felt overwhelmed by all “the negative” which I now define as truths. Good example of learning the live the good and the difficult.
This book has brought to my attention how I can be more sensitive and more gentle, standing as witness next to my daughter instead of trying move her from an emotion she is expressing. I feel more prepared to support my daughter and how she feels which will better help her through the momentum of the upcoming life changes.
This book has great insights for the whole family. I encourage husbands and grandfathers to listen to this book as well. Well done Molly!

Mother, Grandmother, Husband. Must read. Big help.

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Such a good book!! Molly really understands how new Moms have so much trouble. she explains where my feelings are coming from so I understand myself better. th his is something I'll come back too when I feel like life if just too much. Knowing that someone is out there that gets it helps so much!.

She gets it!

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I’m so grateful I found this gem. It came to me when I needed it most, it brought me clarity and most of all I didn’t feel so alone in my feelings and my thoughts. I’m grateful

Incredible

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