
Fed Up
Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward
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Narrated by:
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Therese Plummer
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By:
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Gemma Hartley
About this listen
A rousing call to arms, packed with surprising insights, that explores how carrying "the mental load" - the thankless day-to-day anticipating of needs and solving of problems large and small - is adversely affecting women’s lives and feeding gender inequality, and shows the way forward for better balancing our lives.
Launching a heated national conversation with her viral article "Women Aren’t Nags; We’re Just Fed Up" - viewed more than two billion times - journalist Gemma Hartley gave voice to the frustration and anger of countless women putting in the hidden, underappreciated, and absolutely draining mental work that consists of keeping everyone in their lives comfortable and happy. Bringing long-overdue awareness to the daunting reality of emotional labor in our lives, Hartley defines the largely invisible but demanding, time-consuming, and exhausting "worry work" that falls disproportionately and unfairly on all women - no matter their economic class or level of education.
Synthesizing a wide variety of sources - history, sociology, economics, psychology, philosophy, and anthropology - Hartley makes the invisible visible, unveiling the surprising shapes emotional labor takes at work, at home, in relationships, and in parenting. With on-the-ground reporting, identifiable personal stories, and interviews from around the world, this feminist manifesto will empower women to transform their inner dialogue and give all women the emotional fortitude and courage to ask for what we most want - without shame, without guilt, and without the emotional baggage.
Beyond naming the problem, Fed Up offers practical advice and solutions for teaching both men and women how to wield emotional labor to live more full and satisfying lives. Hartley helps us to see emotional labor not as a problem to be overcome, but as a genderless virtue we can all learn to channel in our quest to make a better, more egalitarian world for ourselves and most importantly, our children.
Insightful, surprising, deeply relatable, and filled with all-too-familiar moments, this provocative, intelligent, and empathetic guide is essential listening for every woman who has had enough with feeling fed up.
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- By: Matthew Fray
- Narrated by: Rob Shapiro
- Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
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One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to “journal his feelings,” Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband.
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Good and bad advice mixed together
- By Timothy Webster on 08-05-22
By: Matthew Fray
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Equal Partners
- Improving Gender Equality at Home
- By: Kate Mangino
- Narrated by: Suehyla El-Attar
- Length: 9 hrs and 58 mins
- Unabridged
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As American society shut down due to COVID, millions of women had to leave their jobs to take on full-time childcare. As the country opens back up, women continue to struggle to balance the demands of work and home life. Kate Mangino, a professional facilitator for twenty years, has written a comprehensive, practical guide for listeners and their partners about gender norms and household balance. Yes, part of our gender problem is structural, and that requires policy change. But much of our gender problem is social, and that requires us to change.
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Very much needed book
- By joey on 08-21-22
By: Kate Mangino
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Muse
- The Magnetism of Women Who Stop Abandoning Themselves
- By: Dr. Amanda Hanson
- Narrated by: Amanda Hanson
- Length: 8 hrs and 26 mins
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For too long, womanhood has been defined by patriarchal structures that keep us women small, quiet, and at war with our bodies. It’s time for a radical return to true, self-led womanhood. In Muse: The Magnetism of Women Who Stop Abandoning Themselves, Dr. Amanda Hanson examines the history and current systems that put women in the position of living their lives based on their worth to men. She then guides us through exquisite rituals and practices to reclaim our womanhood and build our most beautiful lives.
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Such a POWERFUL message!!
- By Kindle Customer on 05-01-25
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Rage Becomes Her
- The Power of Women's Anger
- By: Soraya Chemaly
- Narrated by: Soraya Chemaly
- Length: 11 hrs and 3 mins
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Women are angry, and it isn’t hard to figure out why. We are underpaid and overworked. Too sensitive or not sensitive enough. Too dowdy or too made-up. Too big or too thin. Sluts or prudes. We are harassed, told we are asking for it, and asked if it would kill us to smile. Yes, yes it would. Contrary to the rhetoric of popular “self-help” and an entire lifetime of being told otherwise, our rage is one of the most important resources we have, our sharpest tool against both personal and political oppression.
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Holy Raging Hell
- By Enid Quimby on 10-17-18
By: Soraya Chemaly
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Fed Up
- An Insider's Take on Why the Federal Reserve Is Bad for America
- By: Danielle DiMartino Booth
- Narrated by: Danielle DiMartino Booth
- Length: 9 hrs and 57 mins
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In the early 2000s, as a Wall Street escapee writing a financial column for the Dallas Morning News, Booth attracted attention for her bold criticism of the Fed's low interest rate policies and her cautionary warnings about the bubbly housing market. Nobody was more surprised than she when the folks at the Dallas Federal Reserve invited her aboard. Figuring she could have more of an impact on Fed policies from the inside, she accepted the call to duty and rose to be one of Dallas Fed president Richard Fisher's closest advisors.
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straight forward brilliant
- By casey on 02-20-17
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A Better Share
- How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex
- By: Morgan Cutlip
- Narrated by: Morgan Cutlip
- Length: 7 hrs and 52 mins
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Relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip helps couples view the mental load—the endless and mostly invisible work of managing a household and family—as a shared enemy to conquer versus a problem they have with each other, offering practical solutions for navigating the most common pain points couples struggle with. Through research and stories based on real couples, A Better Share guides listeners out of the endless stress and resentment cycle and into a relationship where sharing is caring, having fun together is a priority, and great sex isn't a thing of the past.
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I’ve never related to a book so much in my life
- By Lori Jackson on 06-02-25
By: Morgan Cutlip
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The Will to Change
- Men, Masculinity, and Love
- By: bell hooks, Ross Gay
- Narrated by: Janina Edwards
- Length: 6 hrs and 24 mins
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Everyone needs to love and be loved—including men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways in which patriarchal culture keeps them from understanding themselves. In The Will to Change, bell hooks provides a compassionate guide for men of all ages and identities to understand how to be in touch with their feelings, and how to express versus repress the emotions that are a fundamental part of who we are.
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A unique call to an ethic of creative love
- By Forrest Aldridge on 09-26-20
By: bell hooks, and others
Repetitive Yet Good
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Emotional labor burnout
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Good discussion, but repetitive
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Good information if you can get past the tone.
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Best book EVER!
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Fed up.
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Incredible book!
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Making visible shadow work
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I think my favorite point made by the author is that by passing off planning birthday parties, writing cards, or making chat phone calls I am missing out on a deeper connection with friends and family and experiencing a less full life, while also making things harder on my spouse.
Something the author partly satisfactorily addresses is that EL is also on us to a large degree. We carry it in the form of worry and stress that partners don’t necessarily feel. so while I might feel a ton of EL from the recycling not being take out, my partner might just not see it that way and feels none of the EL. At first the author really lays it on thick that her husband basically sucks at household things (but is still super progressive!) and doesn’t admit that her own feelings about chores was making it worse. She addresses that in the last few chapters, which I appreciated, but can also see how someone might give up on this book early on.
Some quibbles: the term “emotional labor” got used sooooo much. Don’t know if there’s a way around it, but another way of saying the phrase would’ve been nice. Also the narrator pronounced “minutiae” like “min-nooo-sha-ee” which I can’t find in any typical English pronunciation. Was really noticeable. Finally, the narrator would do accents for any quote, trying to mimic Hillary Clinton’s or a man’s or a black woman’s voice, which were universally bad.
Overall, the book was alright. I definitely learned from it and appreciate those lessons. I think they’ll make me a better husband. I also think it was tedious and unenjoyable to listen to for around 35%. Some of that is due to the book and some from the narration.
Decent
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Great content, repetitive.
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