
Why Can't He Just Stop
A Woman's Guide to Betrayal Trauma, Sexual Addiction, and Infidelity
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This book provides insight for the woman struggling with her partner's sexual addiction. Why can't he just stop? I have lost all trust in him. Can he be cured? Why is sex so important to him? What do I do if he leaves me? How will our family survive? Should I divorce him now? If not now, when? What do I do if I still have feelings for him, even if there is no intimacy in our lives? Who do I turn to for help and advice?
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