
Not 'Just Friends'
Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
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Laural Merlington
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Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
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An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.
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A compassionate approach
- By Anonymous User on 10-16-17
By: Esther Perel
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Cheating in a Nutshell
- What Infidelity Does to the Victim
- By: Wayne Mitchell, Tamara Mitchell
- Narrated by: Sarah Zimmerman
- Length: 5 hrs and 53 mins
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After being cheated on, individuals may feel battered by emotion, with nowhere to turn, and no roadmap in sight. International relationship advice authors Wayne and Tamara Mitchell provide that roadmap through Cheating in a Nutshell: What Infidelity Does to the Victim.
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Very anti-forgiveness
- By Mom Of Many on 09-13-24
By: Wayne Mitchell, and others
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Infidelity
- The Best Worst Thing that Could Happen to Your Marriage: The Complete Guide on How to Heal from Affairs
- By: Talal H Alsaleem LMFT
- Narrated by: Daan Stone
- Length: 5 hrs and 30 mins
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Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing That Could Happen to Your Marriage was written to help couples navigate their way to healing after experiencing the devastating impact of physical and emotional affairs. Listening to this book will allow you the opportunity to process the affair, assess the damage, and make an informed choice about the future of your relationship.
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- By BrownGuy78 on 09-20-22
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Getting Past the Affair
- A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On - Together or Apart
- By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, Donald H. Baucom PhD, Douglas K. Snyder PhD
- Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
- Length: 11 hrs and 50 mins
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Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.
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- By Mariama S Jalloh-Heyward on 02-26-19
By: Kristina Coop Gordon PhD, and others
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I Love You but I Don’t Trust You
- The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Emily Durante
- Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins
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Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
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for betrayed women - not men!
- By annonymous on 07-22-18
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
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Blindsided by His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity
- Surviving Infidelity, Advice from a Marriage Therapist, Book 1
- By: Caroline Madden PhD
- Narrated by: Cathi Colas
- Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins
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Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself. You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you're falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing.
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REALLY good for the Bewildered
- By Mr. Xtabay on 07-16-20
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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
- The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
- By: Tracy Schorn
- Narrated by: Laura Copland
- Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins
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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs.
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If you have had multiple D-Days BUY this book now
- By Dr. Caroline Madden on 06-07-19
By: Tracy Schorn
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When Good People Have Affairs
- Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships
- By: Mira Kirshenbaum
- Narrated by: Callie Beaulieu
- Length: 6 hrs and 28 mins
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A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads listeners through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies 17 types of affairs, helping listeners figure out which type they're in and what it means.
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This book condones affairs
- By Summer Phillips on 06-18-18
By: Mira Kirshenbaum
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Anatomy of an Affair
- How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them
- By: Dave Carder
- Narrated by: Tom Parks
- Length: 5 hrs and 43 mins
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When it comes to adultery, never say, "It won't happen to me." Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way - and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain.
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Hard to relate, as a non-evangelical
- By NANCY HALL on 01-18-19
By: Dave Carder
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Healing Your Spouse After Your Affair
- How to Truly Understand Things from Your Partner's Perspective and Provide the Needed Support
- By: Laura Redmond
- Narrated by: Siobhan Hallinan
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Imagine the pain and devastation of discovering your partner has had an affair. The betrayal, the hurt, and the feeling of being torn apart from the person you once loved. You may feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you wondering if your relationship can ever be healed. But what if there was a way to mend the wounds and rebuild trust? This groundbreaking book reveals the secrets to healing your spouse after an affair, from understanding their perspective to providing the necessary support.
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Disappointed
- By Gabrielle LaGrandier on 05-26-24
By: Laura Redmond
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Rebuilding Trust
- Guided Therapy Techniques and Activities to Restore Love, Trust, and Intimacy in Your Relationship
- By: Morgan Johnson MA LPC, Gina Senarighi PhD CPC - foreword
- Narrated by: Ann Sprinkle
- Length: 5 hrs and 12 mins
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Of all the ways relationships fall apart, betrayal can rock us to the core. And yet, for couples or partners who want to stay together and do the work, healing is possible. The old relationships that no longer serve us can be dismantled and reassembled into deeper, stronger, more satisfying bonds than we ever imagined.
By: Morgan Johnson MA LPC, and others
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- ilovefurrycritters
- 09-10-22
Excellent!
I could not put it down. I think anyone who is experiencing any type of extramarital affair well find this book quite helpful.
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- Viri Guerra
- 08-26-24
Great Info
Highly recommended, great recommendations to improve the marriage and avoid affairs. Easy to understand and a great read
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-19-20
A must read book if you are dealing with an infidelity
A excellent book about infidelity. It cove
rs everything. I have read several self help books on the subject,and this book clearly is the best. When it telling about recovery and healing and possibly making a marriage work. Almost impossible unless the other spouse is willing to read the book also. This way you’re both are on the same page, and know what is expected of each other to recover. Which in my case has not, so trying to recover a marriage on a one way street is effortless. I have read the book and then bought the Audible and listened to it. I highly recommend this book if you are trying to recover together, or if you just end up recovering alone. I give this book 5 stars. I don’t know if this is an allowed but I also recommend another book called Surviving Infidelity by Rona B. Subotnik, L.M.F.T., and Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D.
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- Nancy AMR
- 01-16-17
working towards sanity
If you could sum up Not 'Just Friends' in three words, what would they be?
There is a lot of good information - sometimes repetitive - only wish had heard it earlier..
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- M. Shep
- 06-06-22
A Good Book You'll Wish You Didn't Have to Read
I suspect if you're reading this book, you're likely in the aftermath of an affair that has rocked your marriage. While the book touches on all the different types of affairs and who gets involved in them the meat of the book is on affairs that start as friendships and turn into both emotional and physical affairs. These combined affairs are particularly destructive to the primary relationship, and have become more common as women achieve greater equality in society. If you're the betrayed spouse listening at times can be very painful, as you can easily imagine your wandering spouse going down the road Dr. Glass describes in the book. The only knock on the book is that it's nearly 20 years old and could use an update based on new trends and the role technology plays in affairs. Most of the advice is timeless though. A great read, but I really wish I wasn't compelled to read it...
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- Christian
- 11-02-22
Very Insightful
Was easy to listen to. Solid advice with data to back up. Just wish I found this book a long time ago. Thank you.
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- Heather
- 10-14-15
Good book to listen to with your partner.
My partner and I listened to this book after wounds started to heal from his sex addiction. It was reassuring to know that we had already done many of the suggested ideas to recover together. We got further value out of this book by listening at a time where we could pause and ask each other questions. We felt it sparked great closure conversations and dug just a little deeper than we had already dug.
The only reason I rated it a 4 instead of a 5 is because of the religious undertones. If you take those as just suggestions or with a grain of salt, it's fine. Its very difficult to find material like this that does not reference religion.
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- Asher
- 12-01-20
Phenomenal
This book is phenomenal for both therapists and married people. I will definitely reread this one.
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- Cary
- 06-19-17
Good resourcw
Great info to refer to in the future. There is is discussion from different perspectives and review of different scenarios.
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- Eduardo
- 03-12-18
A great book
this was great and helping I would recommend it to other people going through a rough time
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