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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

By: Leslie Vernick
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Something Has to Change….

You can't put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.

For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to:

  • identify damaging behaviors
  • gain the skills to respond wisely
  • promote healthy change
  • stay safe
  • understand when, why, and even how to leave
  • recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you

Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future.

©2014 Leslie Vernick (P)2014 eChristian
Christian Living Christianity Counseling Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Marriage & Relationships Ministry & Evangelism Relationships Inspiring Life Saving Divorce

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"Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape." (Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and the Friendships of Women)

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Great Resource!

This book offers sound biblical and practical ways to understand and address emotional abuse in marriages. Leslie not only provides the biblical guidelines, she also provides specific and clear action steps. This book gives hope and clarity to those who are in abusive relationships. A must read for those who work with couples or in marriage ministry.

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Hanging in by a thread ....

I really enjoyed the content of this book and it described my situation very closely—I told my Pastor I was hanging on by a thread! I have been physically separated from my husband for 13 months. I am not sure what the outcome will be at this time. I take one day at a time. Your book definitely resonated with me!

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Excellent Resources and How To's

Great resource for individuals looking for validation about their abusive relationships. She gives lots of examples and ideas about how to avoid getting caught in the trap when you try to advocate for yourself. Her principles are faith based which is good, but this may cause some to not finish the book. I believe that the information is very helpful even for non believers.

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Loved!

I have read so many books on relationships and marriage. This book was different. It wasnt the same old "you're christian so you gotta stay and try harder to please him..." Gave actually hope and answers.

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Good resources and a good read!

Narration was wayyyy better than a lot of books I listened to. There were a few things mentioned that I tried that didn't work before reading this book. However, as stated, you only have control over yourself! I did learn so new techniques as well as clarity on setting boundaries.

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Thank you

I recommend this book. I recommend it because thus far it is the most balanced and biblical piece on Christian marriages that include emotional abuse. I enjoyed that it was very distinguishing and teaching about disappointing marriages and destructive marriages. It was empowering and encouraging for sure. Thank you for writing this book.

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When would God be okay with divorce?

Excellent resource for wives who feel depressed, anxious or hopeless in their marriage. What does God want us to do when everything we’ve tried doesn’t work or makes it worse? Step 1: Find a Christian counselor. Step 2: Read this book!

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Eye opening

Makes an emotionally abusive relationship, which can be really confusing, clear. And gives practical steps to get healthy.

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Every Engaged Person Should Read

Sometimes dysfunctional patterns arise, simply because we don’t have the vocabulary to be on the lookout for them.

Every person who is engaged, should read this book together and discuss boundaries that should be put in place before they even enter into the covenant of marriage. Preventative work, and appropriate vocabulary could keep a marriage from ever even becoming destructive. .

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This should be required reading for ALL young women, especially in pre-marital counseling.

This book opened my eyes not only to the cultural and spiritual lies we have been taught as women, but also lovingly and courageously speaks to the responsibilities we have as wives, mothers, and women in general and gives sound advice and clear steps to identify, work through, and heal abuse. It gives insight into the dignity, strength, eternal value and voice God intended for women and what humanity has stolen from us. Please read it. You will be inspired, strengthened, encouraged, reassured, and given the tools you need to love more deeply, care for fully, and actually live out Truth in love.

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