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But You Don't Look Autistic at All

By: Bianca Toeps
Narrated by: Ione Butler
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Autism—that’s being able to count matches really fast and knowing that 7 August 1984 was a Tuesday, right? Well, no. In this book, Bianca Toeps explains in great detail what life is like when you’re autistic.

She does this by looking at what science says about autism (and why some theories can go straight in the trash), but also by telling her own story and interviewing other autistics. Bianca talks in a refreshing and sometimes hilarious way about different situations autistic people encounter in daily life. She has some useful tips for non-autistic people too: what you should do if someone prefers not to look you in the eye, why it is sometimes better to communicate by email, and, most important of all, why it is not a compliment if you say: “But you don’t look autistic at all!”

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Loved the perspective, humor, and honesty. So much of what I read resonated with my own experience despite being a very different person in another time and part of the world. Oh the humanity of it all…beautiful.

Super real

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I enjoyed the content quit immensely, and the stories helped me understand the author. But the narration seemed very upbeat and chipper in a way that I don’t see the author as being. Maybe i’m wrong, and maybe i’m being too harsh. But I had to push it to 2x speed so it didn’t feel like every sentence “ended like this :) after each sentence :)”

great info, but narration was too “chipper”

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I loved the book. I have been learning to enjoy listening to the various experiences of others with autism/are autistic. I’m so glad she brought up some of the things we dislike hearing and are often reasons used by people to explain how I “don’t seem” or “look autistic”. This felt good.

Highly recommend for:
*anyone who is autistic/has autism,
*those who know/love someone who is autistic/has autism and simply want some insight on the differing experiences—they may benefit learning to better understand.
*someone who questions if they are autistic /have autism themselves.

Entertaining too to listen to. :)

#actuallyautistic

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The book is a well-balanced mix between (the needed) scientific background, the terminology of ASD, history and statistics as well as personal experience with the condition - by the author herself and some interviewees. As a non-autistic person you get very interesting insights about how people on the spectrum perceive and process the world, including their troubles and pitfalls but also how they deal with difficult situations on their own interesting way. Easy to read, very educational book with lots of interesting points.

Easy to read and very well written

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this is a must read for anyone with or without autism, I've read it twice and will read again. enjoy!

love this read!

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I enjoyed the personal accounts from people with autism with an international lense. A great book for people learning about autism and getting good info while avoiding misinformation on the Internet.

good insight

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Recently, I was diagnosed with ASD at age 53 and this audiobook was incredibly helpful and reassuringly refreshing!
My entire world has made sense since my diagnosis & I look at myself with much kinder & accepting eyes. 😊🙏🏽

This author is so informative & so relatable

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It’s disappointing that the narration on this is so bad, as I think the book would be much better with a different narrator. Lacks inflection and I occasionally wondered if it was AI reading it rather than a person. Also strangely long pauses in between sections that because of the lack of vocal inflection to place emphasis were very disconcerting.

The book itself is helpful though a bit scattered in terms of who it seems to be written to/for.

Very poorly narrated

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The first part of the book was focused on real clinical diagnoses and very dry. The stories were good from other autistics and their experience.

Not really what I was expecting

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I wanted to love this book but as the parent of a child with autism and very likely undiagnosed autism myself, there was a lot that didn't resonate. The author tried to break certain stereotypes about autism but at times reinforced others. I found the content to be disjointed, jumping around between various scenarios, many of which pertained to various people the author had dated, and then shifting to a few other people's life experiences toward the end. if you are seeking a book which provides one person's experience with autism, this may give you perspective but I would caution against reading it to better understand autism as a whole, as it felt very one-sided.

just ok

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