
Grace in the Gray
A More Loving Way to Disagree
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Mike Donehey
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Mike Donehey
About this listen
By approaching disagreements in a more loving way and seeing the grace and good in those who hold differing viewpoints, you'll gain a deeper understanding of others, yourself, and God—from the bestselling author of Finding God's Life for My Will.
“Written with just the right amount of humor, reflection, and heart, Grace in the Gray shows us how to focus on the people we may disagree with more than focusing on the issue at hand.”—Mac Powell, Grammy Award-winning singer and songwriter
In a culture where constant offense and polarization dominate so many interactions, here is good news about a more productive way to disagree: God desires for us to become better at loving others . . . not better at debating.
Grace in the Gray helps us see the grace and good that’s often hidden by our own limited perspectives and assumptions. Through a collection of personal stories and biblical insights, Mike Donehey reveals a four-stage process to help you
1. subjectify those you’ve objectified
2. empathize with those you’ve vilified
3. humanize those you’ve deified
4. see why your posture is as essential as your position
In relationships, professional settings, and social situations, discover how to focus on the person standing before you more than the argument set against you. Doing so gives you the rare ability to face any conflict with better questions, kindness, and the calming posture of curiosity.
It all begins by learning to listen and lead with the most transformative substance the universe has ever known . . . God’s love.
©2022 Mike Donehey (P)2022 Random House AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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Critic reviews
“I’ve had the privilege of knowing Mike Donehey for many years now and have always felt that he is one of the most thoughtful lyricists and communicators I know. Mike is a thinker, but so much more than that, he is a lover of people. Written with just the right amount of humor, reflection, and heart, Grace in the Gray shows us how to focus on the people we may disagree with more than focusing on the issue at hand.” —Mac Powell, Grammy Award–winning singer and songwriter
“In a world that is seemingly more divided and polarized than ever, Mike stands out as a peacemaker. He has a unique gift of reaching across the divides and reminding people with his own vulnerability that we are all created and loved by the same God.” —Gareth and Ali Gilkeson, Rend Collective
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- Tiffany Renfro
- 02-01-23
Let Mike preach to you and find yourself laughing and nodding along
The book is superb. But hearing Mike’s funny voices and passion come through really drives home the point of the book. Reading it is insightful. Listening to it is a revival.
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- Casey Staub
- 03-05-23
Gentle, humble challenge
Gentle, humble challenge of our purpose in disagreement transforming to simply longing to learn and understand
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- Anonymous User
- 08-02-24
Puncturing Pride
Mike has written an insightful word to challenge us all and puncture pride! This book hit the mark!
Thank you for bringing insight through your stories, lessons, and curiosity. My two favorite lines although I could pick more:
“ Do you speak Holy Spirit?”
“ God is not counting on you. He’s inviting you into what He’s already doing.”
Lastly, I’ve just started reading Brennan Manning’s works a month ago. Super excited to read more from him considering you mentioned him!
Always enjoy Mike’s work, music, stories, and insight. He challenges me to think a little deeper and ask better questions while always pointing to Jesus!
Thank you!
Highly recommend!!!
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- Gregory
- 01-31-24
Wading out in the waters of Jesus
I deeply enjoyed Mike’s humility, curiosity, humor and benevolence. I wish more Christians held these traits in their hearts more consistently.
This book was intended for someone else but it was a gift for me.
I am grateful that Mike humanized the bumpy and sometimes painful road to meeting someone with Grace in the Gray.
This book has helped me eat a few helpings of humble pie and also helped me understand God’s love and perspective on loving others that are different than me.
This booker helped me take another step in understanding Jesus and towards being a Christian with kindness, benevolence, humility and maybe even some humor sprinkled in here and there.
Thank you Mike.
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- Stefany
- 11-16-24
Strength of Grace
This book has given me hope and deeper understand of God's love and grace.
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- kldog
- 06-03-24
LOVED this book!
Thought-provoking and entertaining. Mike is an excellent storyteller, which made this audible version so enjoyable. I loved this book. Highly recommend!
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- Sybil Lambert
- 04-02-25
Fun while deep
He reads to you like your in a performance not just listening to a book. It’s as meaningful as it is insightful. Pretty sure this will change my life! To God be the glory
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- Jacob Perez
- 01-22-24
I loved this book!
If you only read one book this year, read this one! Definitely a book that I will revisit and highly recommend!
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- Andre Gaines
- 02-23-24
The real life examples
The author put words to my thoughts such as “what would the Holy Spirit sound like”. The proverbs 26 reference. Wounds from a friend … Embrace and seek words of correction.
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- Carly Schriever
- 03-12-24
Good resources to listen to
I think it is benefit to listen to and nothing against it. It will be good for people listen to whose is struggle with this.
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