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  • He's Scared, She's Scared

  • Understanding the Hidden Fears That Sabotage Your Relationships
  • By: Steven Carter, Julia Sokol
  • Narrated by: Kevin Young
  • Length: 11 hrs and 42 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (487 ratings)

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He's Scared, She's Scared

By: Steven Carter, Julia Sokol
Narrated by: Kevin Young
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Publisher's summary

Available for the first time in audiobook, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitment phobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships.

Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offers guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

©1993 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
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Why do some people seem incapable of forming lasting relationships? This audiobook argues that people who frequently find themselves in short, unsatisfying unions often have unexplored commitment issues they need to address. In firm but reassuring tones, performer Kevin Young presents the authors' findings, drawn from hundreds of interviews, which show relationship problems may be less about your partners and more about you. The authors also share helpful strategies to identify, understand, and resolve your issues so that you can be free to pursue the deep and sustained love you deserve.

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Wish I'd read this 20 years ago.

Hard to hear. Like looking into a mirror. I've been both. Good to have some light, finally, on my confusion.

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This book is a life saver.

I was recommended this book from another book called “Anxious Hearts Guide” which I found after a very short, intense, and tumultuous relationship. This book has given me more insight into my own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in romantic relationships than I could have ever imagined. Incredibly accurate to how relationships between people with (usually SUBconscious) commitment issues play out. It was like someone was writing the story of my latest relationship word for word. I would recommend it to anyone who struggles in romantic relationships, or is confused why things don’t seem to work the way they think they will with partners. Five stars.

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a must listen

loved it. so much info. what a revelation I had about myself. these authors need to keep writing more books on dating.

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Important if Commitment is an issue

I wish I had read this book earlier in life. So many of the symptoms are described so clearly with examples of people who have experienced them. An excellent book for recognizing people who have difficulty with commitment.

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great book.

amazing book. eye oppening. easy to follow. the voice and the narration perfect. I gladly recommend.

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If your breaking up, this book is 4 U

I really thought it was a book about how to repair, or find out why people treat others like they’re taking someone for granted. It touches base with that. But really no fix for a good relationship with communication problems.

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This is a great book!

Finally a book that validates, explains, gives you guidance and don’t sell you romantic bs

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Still Love this guy. - Lu

Oh my, book just described {L.L} my BOYFRIEND of almost 7yrs.
We've broken up 3 different times within a 2yr. per,

1st:Aug.2013-Jan.2014 (Proposed💍)
(Moved out 1 mo. after I was laid off)

2nd:Aug2015-Dec.2015(Returned💍)
Moved out 1 mo. after getting hired 45 miles away from home.

3rd:Aug.2016-Present {Pending}
Don't live together, spend every other weekend together, I think this I'll probably be our last attempt to salvage what's left of our relationship. Thanks Never got the engagement ring back !!!! Guess he realized it was a mistake.

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Great insights!

Definitely a few AHA moments! Always working on myself and striving to get a better understanding of my experiences. This book was very helpful.

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A real eye opener

Helped me name things I have always done but no clue why I'd done them.

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