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High Conflict

Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out

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When we are baffled by the insanity of the “other side”—in our politics, at work, or at home—it’s because we aren’t seeing how the conflict itself has taken over.

That’s what “high conflict” does. It’s the invisible hand of our time. And it’s different from the useful friction of healthy conflict. That’s good conflict, and it’s a necessary force that pushes us to be better people.

High conflict is what happens when discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud, the kind with an us and a them. In this state, the brain behaves differently. We feel increasingly certain of our own superiority, and everything we do to try to end the conflict, usually makes it worse. Eventually, we can start to mimic the behavior of our adversaries, harming what we hold most dear.

In this “compulsively readable” (Evan Osnos, National Book Award-winning author) book, New York Times bestselling author and award-winning journalist Amanda Ripley investigates how good people get captured by high conflict—and how they break free.

Our journey begins in California, where a world-renowned conflict expert struggles to extract himself from a political feud. Then we meet a Chicago gang leader who dedicates his life to a vendetta—only to realize, years later, that the story he’d told himself about the conflict was not quite true. Next, we travel to Colombia, to find out whether thousands of people can be nudged out of high conflict at scale. Finally, we return to America to see what happens when a group of liberal Manhattan Jews and conservative Michigan corrections officers choose to stay in each other’s homes in order to understand one another better, even as they continue to disagree.

All these people, in dramatically different situations, were drawn into high conflict by similar forces, including conflict entrepreneurs, humiliation, and false binaries. But ultimately, all of them found ways to transform high conflict into good conflict, the kind that made them better people. They rehumanized and recatego­rized their opponents, and they revived curiosity and wonder, even as they continued to fight for what they knew was right.

People do escape high conflict. Individuals—even entire communities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame, if they want to. This is an “insightful and enthralling” (The New York Times Book Review) book—and a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world.

Featuring audio highlights from actual interviews, town hall meetings, and podcasts.

©2021 Amanda Ripley. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.
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Unlikely book that will certainly get your attention.

This book was recommended to me by my boss at work and this is definitely not a book that I would typically pick out for myself. I enjoyed hearing the nonfiction stories used throughout to explain what high conflict is. I enjoyed the author’s audiobook, she has a very nice voice to listen to. The only feedback I have is that I wish the how to get out of high conflict was more defined. There are appendix at the end that go into this. Maybe that might be a whole other book on its own! Regardless I found it passed my expectations. It was insightful and I think listening to this book is something that anyone can benefit from.

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useful, relevant take

I got more out of this book than I thought I would. a useful reframe of how to navigate conflict productively.

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Solving conflicts well

This book was a game changer for me. Helped me recognize my own parts in low conflict situations. Gave me the courage to practice conflict solving and asking hard questions.

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Important book

I went slow with this book on purpose. Lots of stories, examples and solutions I needed time to reflect upon. My advice: don’t rush it.

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Brilliant and Timely

Must-read for all US-Americans and anybody suffering from the effects of polarization, emotional cut-offs, and estrangement.

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Super Helpful Book on Conflict

I heard Amanda somewhere on the a internet and downloaded her book. I had forgotten about it till just before I had to handle some personal conflict. This book helped me understand what was really happening for me and others in this conflict. I feel better prepared to handle myself in challenging situations and notice how I can personally stay out of high conflict traps. Highly Recommended!

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Thought provoking insight needed in today’s world!

This book has thought provoking insight needed in today’s world!
I found myself questioning my own ideas and behaviors.
I have lost friendships over political views and find it so heartbreaking.
Listening to understand, not convert, is a challenge and I hope to get much better at it.

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Unfortunately necessary conversation

Great & extensive anecdotes to display empathic listening. A worthwhile & easy listen. A message that we can all use in everyday life. "Walk a mile in my shoes"

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Engaging and thought provoking

I looked forward to reading this book and started and audible subscription in order to listen to it and also read it on kindle. I appreciate all the useful techniques and advice it offers on how to listen and make others with different perspectives and beliefs feel heard. I highly recommend it and plan to purchase a copy for future reference.

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great

a compelling combination of important ideas and interesting stories. you'll think about its ideas during your day. Very current. and well-read.

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